So after breaking up with my BD(mike) 2 months ago today. Life was pretty rough until I started dating a guy who I'd been pretty good friends with for 3-4 years. I am completely happy with my decision to date Colt (current boyfriend). We have been together for 16 days today, and I couldn't be more happy with the way things are going.
Now out of nowhere today the guy I lost my virginity to(Ryan) back when I had just turned FOURTEEN messages me on AIM. And is nagging me to date him. (He's 21 or 22 right now). He keeps saying "Date me, I like you". Back when I was 14 we had a fling (he was 17 at the time), and he was going away to college that fall. Well he'd never call to say hi, like he said he would, and he only called when he was back in town looking for "some fun". That wasn't okay with me, so i stopped talking to him. About a year and a half later, we met up after talking and things were okay-ish. And I didn't feel anything like I had used to so I forgot about it. Then when i was dating this girl (yes, a girl) he wanted to hang out "as friends" well i hung out with him, and he kept trying to kiss me, and i told him I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND i cant be doing this, stop. and He didn't get it. I haven't seen him since then, and I have no idea if he's changed, but from past experiences i really dont think he has. I told him i'm not the same girl anymore, i've changed a lot. and i dont think he gets it.

I hate when i get into a good relationship, and i'm completely happy with it, some guy just ask to BEG me to date them, and try and fuck things up. =[

why are boys so STUPID

sorry its so long, i could of added A LOT more but I realized it was a big lengthy.

Hugs hun...if what youve got's good then stick with it and ignore him xxxxx

That's how it goes sometimes.. I agree though stick with what you've got if it's good

I kinda know how you feel babe. My ex boyfriend was my whole world, but we couldnt be together anymore, he was controlling, posessive, he demeaned me, made me feel lower than crap. He controlled everything about my life, where I went, who I saw, wat I wore, wat jobs I could do, literally everything. It got to the point when I could take no more and I started fighting against him, he hated this and so we argued almost constantly for 4 months and then he finally broke up wid me. Even though by this point I basically hated the guy, he had alot of drug issues and lied alot to. It still broke my heart to lose him and I thought things wod neva get better. So in the end I picked myself up and started doing exactly wat I wanted, but he was always there still acting like he owned he except now I could just ignore him. A month after breaking up, I met someone new, but all i thought of still was my ex non-stop and it resulted in me sleeping wid him, even though the relationship I was in was good. So this resulted in me breaking up wid my new BF, I then met someone else only 1 week later. He was amazing and I knew there was something so so special about this guy, my ex was still there hanging about but I had realised that I had to choose. I chose my new man, now my ex did take a while to totally disappear, but he eventually did and has a new GF himself now. My Oh now is the father to my baby and my soulmate, I love him more than I ever believed possible. I guess il summerise my essay lol by saying that if this guy your wid now is the one then you'll make the choice to stay wid him, and it wont be a difficult one. Listen 2 your heart. xxxxxx