HI everyone...im 23weeks pregnant and my sister inlaw is too...we are one week apart.. and i hate how my mother inlaw..and herself compare me to my sister inlaw...they say things like....wow ur big ..how come im not that big yet.?...and my mother inlaw always says....wow u look like a balloon..and i say..."no im pregnant" and then she says...well how come my daughter isnt like that..i swear i feel like killing them...(not literally.)....they used to be soo nice..now its like they both are against me...wat should i do....?.....

please help???

do u think they know they are offending me....
i always try and give her compliments and not to comment on how her bump is going just in case i offend her as well...even after i responded offensive after the balloon comment ..they just giggled and said they didnt mean it like that...but wat did they mean..?..by saying that im big and she is not.......it just makes me feel bad...i love been pregnant and i love my belly..i just hate been compared to someone else...it pisses me off

You know... I feel your pain and frustration.

My SIL is a total bitch towards me with my pregnancy. My hubby and I got married on August 31st, and two weeks later found out we were expecting. Well his sister, who has been wanting to have children for some time, now completely ignores me and him. Her husband is a "big child" himself and won't grow up and start trying to have kids. I mean I'm 34 yrs old and she is 36. She doesn't have much time left. But for her to take her frustration out on me and her brother is not fair. She made comments to a mutual friend like "They are freaking newlyweds... how could it be planned!!!". Meanwhile, we made it no secret I was stopping the pill in July and we were going to start trying ASAP.

She asked us to scan some pictures for her, and I told Hubby he had to talk to her about it, cause I was not doing her anymore favours if she continues to treat us the way she is. Especially after I fixed her freaking laptop and didn't even get a thank you. He got upset and said he didn't need the stress in the family... I told him that **I** was not the one causing it.

If your SIL and MIL continue the way they are, you will eventually lose your cool, which could get nasty. Sorry, hormones will get the better of you hun. So next time they say something, say a response like: well, you know what I'm one person that is pregnant and she (SIL) is another. Every pregnacy is different and every baby's development in the womb is different. So I wish you would stop making those comments, because it is really starting to upset me. Make sure your hubby knows you are going to say this as well, so he has your back. You are not being rude. You are just stating a plan fact.

Good luck hun.

I never believe that anyone can be so...whats the word...thick, that they don't know that saying things like that will upset you.

I hate it when people do it and try to make out its all innocent so you cant retaliate without making your self look like the bad guy

If i was you id turn the tables and start going on about how proud you are of you nice bump and how she mush be so upset to only be small

With hormones and all that i think we have less patience with people.....i know i do and i think it's mostly with family more than friends. To be honest, more my eldest sister.

I know they mean well but she does really piss me off at times and i now avoid her for this reason.....her favourite phrase is....'you'll be going though this soon!' - in reference to her kids if they're bad or ill or something. I feel like saying ''NO sh#t' sherlock!!!''.......
It's like life is hell when you have kids - or that's what it feels like they're to tell me.....LOL.. i know it won't be easy though......I'm not naive.
Another one i have is that they seem to to take the piss and it's not actually funny (well not to me anyway)........e.g. i used to love my pint at the weekends so the current joke is that i'll be in the pub 24/7 with a pram......not so funny....

I do love her to bits but avoiding her stops me from blowing my lid.....i think this is the best way.....cos i don't really wnat to upset her either, as i think i'm more considerate.

XXX

Thanks laydee... you actually gave me a thread i could vent on too....

Just thought...my confidant when my sister pisses me off is my mum....she knows my sis can be annoying......so you need to let off steam if you don't really wnat to tell them - and i think it helps if it's someone else except your partner for a change, well it does for me..
xxx

ah hugs my mil and sil are lovely so havent had no problems there


but my step cousin (i dont usually use the word step for any of my family but this set are and exception from hell!) is aloso pregnant and although thankfully i dont need to see them she is often online asking me about my pregnancy and managing to compare hers to mine in the last 4 weeks she has gone from being 16 weeks to 20 weeks to 18 weeks urgh and i found out from my dad last week tht she isnt due until end of may so she is a good 8 weeks behind me even though 3 weeks ago she was due before me!

i feltg baby kick last week oh she been feeling tht for ages at 14/15 weeks with her first, her baby has long legs shes not getting fat

omg i could go on lol,

thanks for the thread i feel better now think i needed to vent too!!!!!

I have had the same hun at work. Someone is 4 weeks ahead of me and I am getting all the comments about being massive etc as I am bigger than her (bump). She is tall and athletic and has a tiny bump and I have a massive belly!! What is so bad about a big bump? Just so long as I not gained 20 stone everywhere else!!
It makes you feel bad that people are looking and comparing about being big and small. I told my MW, she says Bubba is right size and so am I, and to tell them all to f*** off for making me feel bad!! Just enjoy your big bump I put mine on show now stuff em. They dont have a clue. Sometimes MILs and people who had kids years ago think they know everything and I know how upsetting these comments are.

God, I get this from my MIL. My SIL is pregnant (her daughter, my husband's sis) and is due in 8 weeks (it's so exciting actually!) and I get how are you feeling, SIL's been feeling terrible and can't sleep has been sick has sciatica has a cold won't cook for herself....and I'm like actually, I'm alright thanks, no bad things going on at all and she says grrr, that's typical of you, you're so lucky!! I think not!! I'm just not a fookin hypochondriac like your lot are (including your son....my husband, by the way!).

I get the "are you eating fruit? SIL is eating canned fruit" and I just said I heard that wasn't the best really, quite sugary water so I'm sticking with fresh fruit as I don't want to be eating too much fruit per day or I'd never be off the loo!

She can't compare me to her idiotic daughter and she shouldn't. They revel in sickness whereas I'm rarely ill - I also HATE DH telling them if I'm off because I literally hear about it for WEEKS.

I need caller ID.

/rant.

cfc you are funny

Blah... I would probably feel bad too
Show them this link.. Every woman is different. Next time they make a comment just say " i guess I am lucky then". Honestly I think part of you're SIL wishes she had you're belly. Show her my early pictures. I grew huge right away and I am a very thin person.

http://pregnancy.about.com/od/pregna...2ndbellies.htm