I mentioned on another forum about my problems getting a council house and how its stressing me etc, and I got told to not be so picky and that they would pick somewhere out of the way over having to stay in a flat with smokers!

In all honesty tho, it doesn't sound like you can afford to be as fussy as you seem to be being - asking for a house on a certain bus route is unrealistic - you might have to accept for a few years it may not be in a good area, or close to shops etc. If it were me, I would be grateful to be given somewhere where my child could be raised without cigarette smoke, and have room for a cot! Plenty of people manage, and if you don't have the luxury of choosing private accommodation, then expectations unfortunately have to change.

Some folk seem to not get that I will have about £200 left over for food AND any thing else that crops up. If I go back to work, that will only go up to about £400 if I go back to work, and that if I chose a rural property not near shops I will need to pay for bus fares, and aberdeen has some of the most expensive in the city!! Even a bus pass if £54 for a month on the city buses, and about £160 for 3 months (minimum u can get - paid upront!) on the rural ones - so that would eat up over £100, jstu for me!!

ARGH!! I am jsut so annoyed that someone always seems to know better - despite me explaining my situation and financial situation!

I know the answer. Move to Canada.. It sounds like life is less expensive over here

I know I'm no help.. sorry.. but good luck finding something!!

only you know your situation. Part of your post did confuse me though. Won't you have to take a bus if you're on a bus route or not? Or where you live are there different buses that are different prices???

Here I have preferred bus routes, but since it's all the same cost I am not too picky - what it'll cost me extra is time!

It's always difficult with council properites as in most areas they are so limited, and all the best ones get taken so quickly.

I really hope you get somewhere in the area you want I was soooo lucky to get one in a really nice area close to town, but I did have to wait almost a year longer as I was being picky (I could have got one in a rubbish area much sooner but I chose to wait and find a nice one.) So I do understand the importance of being close to places e.t.c. but it does sound like you might have to settle for something further away if the right property doesn't become vacant.
And there's nothing wrong with being picky, it just might not be realistic or do-able wishes because of your situation.

Good luck though I hope you get somewhere nice

I can't imagine how hard it is to make it all work on such a tight budget. If living closer in the city to shops and work makes it cheaper for buses, food etc then I would fight for that.

It's nigh on impossible explaining to people what it's like if you don't drive, or if you are short on cash. Luckily I'm ok finacially, but I was in a pub once and some rich middle class oxford kid was telling me how he'd manage if he was a single mum. I managed to change his mind though.

I told him that he was living in a tower block and had kids too look after and a poxy job and no money and the vegetable shop was 2 busses away and he'd have to take the kids too and he was really really tired and that's why he was having a pizza for dinner and wasn't a really, really bad person for not having some home made casserole every night.

Some people are clueless :/

Well I was waiting urgently for rehousing when I got this house. I moved her 15 months ago but I was in need of rehousing for nearly 18 months. I was offered 6 properties in that time and turned them all down. We didn't have a car and my husband was just starting his job. We didn't have a lot of money and having to pay the rent and c/tax too and them bus fares for him on top as well as the fact that most of the houses were out of the way and I would have one child at school and 2 little ones at home we turned 6 houses down!!

I know exactly what you mean! there was one house that had a railway at the end of the garden and one house that was in the middle of no where and with no car and expensive bus fares we turned that down etc etc etc.

So I know exaclty what you mean. The house we accepted in the end is perfect. It is near a shopping centre but quiet and has a huge garden for kids and is a semi, low crime and a good school near by! So be patient hun, I know what you are saying and I have been there! The right property for you will come up but you may have make some compromises of course as it isn't an ideal world. However, do not make compromises you cannot live with.

Massive hugs hun and I hope you get the property you want soon. Is it a bidding system in your area? How do you get awarded properties? pm me if you want any help or advice xxx

Hey hun, i dnt think its about being picky if u could get a house that u want over one that u didnt then why shouldnt u pick that...
Dont let that person bother you people always give their opinions without knowing the whole story...u wudnt randomly think "right i wanna have that bus route nr my house" would you? most people would gather there is a reason for it...x

living in a rural area myself i know exactly how you feel

in the village the bus comes at 8am,11am and the 4pm walkong or cycling is nit an option as the villages link to anywhere else is an a road with no path

i drive so it doesnt effect me

council houses lit dont exist here anymore the only time they come available is wen someone dies hence the list is 10 yrs plus however we have an assist scheme helping people rent private accomadation

good luck xx

LogieBear - Its points allocation. We have 26 and the average for a 2 bed is 46. We won't get any more points until I have the baby and then it is counted as an extra person.

AJarvis - Yes I will need to take a bus, but depending on which end of the city we get it might be 2 buses. First bus do buses up to the city limits, then its on to the country buses, which are more expensive. Just to go 4 miles is £2.50 from my parents village to the city outer limit.

The whole thing is depressing me. I am jsut hoping that OH can pull his finger out and get a new job!