It was so weird. I was in absolute hysterics crying!

Basically i was getting undressed for bed and caught sight of myself, and for the first time ever felt embarrassed to get naked in from of my OH. I love my bump but my legs and bum etc just look so far and cellulitey.

I then started sobbing because i just felt so unattractive, and we're not allowed sex during this pregnancy due to my cervical stitch, plus i've had to quit work due to bed rest etc. I just suddenly felt like i wasn't 'me' anymore.

Then i cried some more because i felt guilty that little baby could sense me being upset by this!!

I thought my emotional outbursts were over!!

Anyone else struggled with their identity during pregnancy? Because i've had to stop working, i can have to rely on my OH for money too, which i really struggle with as i was so used to having my own career and cash. I suddenly feel like 'her indoors'!

i have had my moments, i dont cry about them but as soon as i have something else to cry about it comes out. I also gave up work and now feel iv lost my independence because i rely on OH for support etc and i keep wondering when i will get that back, i dont want to leave baby for its first year but then i also dont want to be stuck in and be 'her indoors'.

I have hysterical cry tho, when the wardrobe broke i cried like a child and everything came out about how i felt about work etc and my body, im constantly told by my family im 'fatty' and although it didnt bother me at first, now i have started to feel fat and all sorts, it actually upsets me!

you are not on your own hun!!

xxx xxx

p.s. i also had a major hissy cry because i wanted dominos pizza but didnt want to order it! so some crys can also be silly and my OH finds it hard to distiguish which are which lol!!

YES YES YES pregnancy twin u have not let me down my thighs and asss r SO HUGE right now they're going to have their own county soon massiveassfordshire. Its so depressing cos i dnt mind putting on weight for bubba but i keep thinking that is not shifting any time soon from that area ass and thighs. Doesn't help that we have a mirror in front of the loo and when i sit and have a pee all i see is flesh hanging over the side of the toilet seat. Don't notice with clothes on but when i'm naked i feel exactly the same been so hormonal last week about body image, i changed my hair got it dyed and cut/restyled and made me feel a little bit better. I'm at uni and studying part time cos of bubba so i do the work load from home so dont get my loan, i can't work cos no one will have me pregnant so have to rely on OH for money and he says i never want for anything which i dnt to be fair but he's been rly sweet lately telling me to go for getting my hair dyed and treat myself and rly encouraging telling me i;m beautiful maybe he just wants me to look better not feel better lol (kidding) awww hun your not alone! It's hard when ur stuck indoors and have no motivation to make an effort when energy is lacking so much. Y don't u treat urself to some new clothes or go for a new look or something? I was scared to cos my hormones r raging so much with appearance i thought it wud be dangerous if it went wrong and i hated it, but maybe start with something small?
WARNING - Our bottoms are plotting against us!!!!!!!!!!!!! They think we don't notice them slowly growing because they r behind us but OH WE DOOOOO! BIG HUGS xxxxx

aww hun i think we all have days like this i also have noticed my thighs are getting very celulitey and u just think omg thats with me for life now and i feel like i never look attractive any more bras r 2 small so im all squished and money is so tight atm that i cant afford a new 1 i weighed myself the other day and thought omg how did i let myself get to that weight then i told myself off because the weight is for baby. i know exactly how u feel hun ur not alone

Yes
just yes.
I'm not going to elaborate. but I'm quite mental today too.
And growing mentaller by the second.

Yep me too, I caught sight of myself in the mirror on Saturday and got a bit upset. I don't have a huge bump but my legs have loads of cellulite on them I just don't feel like me anymore.

Can I join the wobbly bum gang too please? I also have the added benefit of strech marks as well - joy.

I had a very similar experience a few weeks ago...I was off in my own world and caught a glance of my profile in the mirror when I was getting changed for bed and I felt like a monster! I have never had big thighs or bum but they have gotten much bigger since I've been pregnant...and the tops of my arms too. I actually felt a bit sick and just stood there in shock saying "oh shit, look at me." I just had to talk myself round from the surprise of it and acknowledge that it is only temporary...once the baby is here I can work on getting my body back to normal...and in the meantime it is doing a fantastic job of looking after the LO.

Also, my husband and I have chosen for me to give up work for the first few years while we have a young child/young children and it is taking a while for me to get my head around being a housewife/stay-at-home mum...when you meet new people and they ask what you do, their eyes seem to glaze over when you say you've stopped working to raise a family, as if you can't possibly have anything interesting to say. The new identitiy is definitely taking some getting used to you.

Really hope you feel better soon. I can see from your picture that you are a very beautiful woman and a little extra weight during pregnancy is not going to change that.

Lx

thank God there are other women like me. i love being pregnant and all i pray for is a healthy baby ! but i feel i lost my identity too people think they got the right to call me fatty or massive. i was never before so its quite a shock i was always small and dainty

Oh you are so not alone hunny!
I have felt like this in all my pregnancies and it is a mental battle sometimes.
Hubby always tells me how sexy I am and thinks I am extra sexy pregnant(where is he looking?) but it doesn't stop me getting hissy about it sometimes.

It does go back to normal after baby,not overnight like the celebs seem to,but it does :-)

Huge hugs to you xxxxx

P.s I noticed my bum has expanded over the past 2 weeks-aargh!!!LOL