My scan is tomorrow morning at 10.10am and we are hoping to find out the sex of our baby, in fact I think if baby does keep it a secret I will explode

I have never found out before and am nervous about how I will react when I hear the news. Infact this morning a thought crossed my mind which upset grately and I was just wondering if anyone else had felt the same.

I lost baby very ealry in Jan and then in May I lost another baby at 10+ weeks and I am so scared that if she says this baby is a boy I will forever be thinking that the babies I lost were girls. I have a daughter but she 11 and my husband is not her father, legally anyway. And I desperately want him to have a daughter to watch grow up. We have 2 sons together and I know he will be happy which ever but I just can't help thinking that we weren't supposed to have girls and if this baby is a boy will I spend all my time thinking what if??

I have had bonding issues with my boys when they were first born, didn't love them anyless but that bond wasn't there for quite some time and this is one of the reasons for our decision to find out this time.

I am hoping this makes sense and I am not making myself sound like a stupid moo!!

Oh i can see why you'd be thinking like this but you will never be able to find out so there's not much point dwelling on it even tho its hard i'm sure it's just eating you up. It'll be very much at the fore point of your mind with the scan so near and i'm so sorry for your loses, i hope you get your wish for a girl if not your still going to be a brilliant mum like you have to your two boys have you ever thought of adopting a girl??
Maybe some counciliing will help you to deal with the losses and not dwell on them. Maybe you were meant to have boys, but then again you might have a lil girl there's not much i can add aving not gone through it, but i was convinced i was having a boy and now its a girl i love that its a girl... but i can't help thinking what if i can only have girls. It's gone through my mind a couple of times. Weird how our minds work.
Massive luck for your scan tomorrow you'll be fine and have the support of your OH no matter what xxx

Hi loggiebear, I totally understand what you mean, I lost 2 babies this year and my husband was desperate for a son as this is our first child together, if i'm honest so was I, i just knew that if this baby was a girl the law of averages would suggest that one of the ones I lost was a boy, It sounds incredible we would say that because of corse losing a baby is a horrific experience but it was definitly something i was aware of when i was about to find out what this baby was going to be. As it happened you can probably tell from my ticker we are having the son we both desperatly wanted and for me its definitly laid my MC's to rest. Good luck hun, Hope you get the daughter you obviously want! if not after the shock and after it sinks in you will be happy to just have a healthy bubba xxx

I know I will be happy which ever sex it is but I am dreading my emotions take over and I cry for the wrong reasons iykwim?

I understand exactly what you are saying hun x
I have two boys 12 and 3.
When my eldest was 4 I fell pregnant but lost the baby at 11 weeks.
6 months later I fell pregnant again but it was an eptopic and I lost one tube due to internal bleeding etc
They told me that baby was a girl.
I also felt my MC was a girl though I'll never know.

Eventually I got pregnan with second DS and I knew from the start he would be a boy.
I just knew.
It got me paranoid thinking that maybe I had a problem where I couldn't carry a girl if that makes sense?

I now go for my 20 week scan very soon and I don't care what sex baby is but I know some family members have said to me 'oh you want a girl'.
I know I will love whatever God has given me ,just kind of wondered if this is a boy too that it kind of proves what I thought deep inside (never told anyone) that I can only carry boys.

But then again its 50/50 and its chance,just your mind can run away with itself.

(((hugs)))

I kinda understand. I have had 10 confirmed pregnancies and 11 I know I had. Anyways I have three daughters to show for it and we wonder if my body cant produce boys. If this baby is a girl I will wonder even more. Considering I have three girls already though I don't care what I have. I would love another daughter and I would love a son. I heard something about too much acid in a womans body? I don't know... If we are having another girl hubby is getting a pink sperm tattood onto his arm. Hee heeeeee

big hugs sweety

Oh Logie, don't beat yourself up for thinking this...if you cry it will be cos you need to for whatever reason, I cried when they told me I was having a girl and I think I would have cried if they said boy...I was so hoping they would say girl but I wouldn't have loved this one less if it was a boy..it's natural for you to want DH to have a daughter... You will be a great Mum whatever, like you said if they say boy you will have time to get used to the idea
Good luck tomorrow hun I wil be thinking of you

Thanks for this ladies, it makes me feel a little easier. I just hope I don't cry lol

I understand your aprehensive about it all hun , I bet its a magical day .

I will be looking for your news and will think of you tomorrow . xxx .

I will be watching for your post tomorrow hun,I'm sure you will be on such a high