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Sep 18th, 2008, 09:58 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Scared to please family on gender....
Ive got 3 weeks till my gender scan however I am really scared of the outcome. See I have soooo much pressure from my MIL to produce a girl cos that side of the family is all boys - no girls for quite some generations. Where as my side is 50/50. I know deep down OH wants a girl too and keeps saying 'when shes here' and stuff like that.
Im just scared to get in there and they say 'your having a little boy!' and then I will have let them down and OH will be disappointed. Ive raised concerns with him in a round-about way and he says dont be silly... but its hard. Personally I dont mind which I have, I would like 1 of each eventually - doesnt matter which order.
Just want to please them ... but I know its out of my hands... |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 10:03 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Sorry you have to deal with all that hun, but if your family have any sense, they'll know that you have no control over what comes out! What do they expect you to do if it's a boy? Trade him in? |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 10:07 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | Its his family really not mine, my mum would be overjoyed if i produced a mini alien!!!
... my sentiments exactlly to the trade in. |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 10:15 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | Is it a cultural thing or do the in-laws just REALLY want a girl? |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 10:16 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  |  My hubby wanted a boy at first so i set about convincing ( and convincing myself) that were havin a girl. So now he calls cashew 'she'. If it does turn out to be a boy then what a lovely suprise for him, if its a girl then fantastic but we already thought it would be.
Thats how i got around the pressure of him wanting a boy,by just telling him it will be a girl, he knows no different to girl now.  not really much help but i thought i would share how i got round that. Even inlaws call cashew 'she' lol |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 10:19 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | sorry i double posted some how haha!
Anywho...
sod what anyone else thinks... its your precious baby, what will be will be. Im not bothered what I get, but i thought i would help hubby to have a more flexible mind 
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Good luck babe, and dont crumble for them |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 10:23 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | You shouldnt be made to feel like that. I would be very annoyed with my mil if this happened to me !!
this is an exicting time for you and you shouldnt be worrying about what other want!! |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 10:31 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | At the end of the day once your baby is here you will love it no matter what it is. Girl or boy as long as he/she is healthy what does it matter? |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 10:43 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | dont worry about it hun everyone will be over the moon with whatever you have, my family wanted me to have a girl this time because i have a boy and they kept on and on, but as soon as i told them he is a boy (which i wanted personally lol) everyone was over the moon and out buying blue lol! whatever the outcome no1 can be dissapointed with a gorgeous new family member xxx |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 10:44 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | Oh nooo! ignore them don't let them put pressure on you, its your little bub and if its a boy or girl doesnt matter, it will be a lovely lil suprise no matter what. Look forward to it don't dread it good luck i hope you get what you want either way and everythings ok. |
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