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Sep 18th, 2008, 13:24 PM
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Originally Posted by kadey my MIL and FIL are the same. they both want a boy and are not even willing to think its a girl. i told them straight that i didnt care what sex the baby was aslong as it was healthy it was stil MY precious little baby and they will have to love it or lump it. i think i rattled some cages but i dont care.
In laws really wind me up. | me toooooo, my mil comes round drop of a hat giving crappy advice. teloling me how to sit, and what todo when baby cries. blah blah ermmmm i have goy a teenager i aint naive. i find myself contradicting her on everything lol | i do this without even thinking anymore haha everything she says winds me up. she turns up at my house with no notice, she ring the OH at least 10 times a day, i mean i know she is his mum but for god sake let the boy breath and live his own life.
she sticks her nose in everything. if she carrys on doing this when the baby is born im going to go into hiding with little one just for their sake ha |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 13:31 PM
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Originally Posted by kadey my MIL and FIL are the same. they both want a boy and are not even willing to think its a girl. i told them straight that i didnt care what sex the baby was aslong as it was healthy it was stil MY precious little baby and they will have to love it or lump it. i think i rattled some cages but i dont care.
In laws really wind me up. | me toooooo, my mil comes round drop of a hat giving crappy advice. teloling me how to sit, and what todo when baby cries. blah blah ermmmm i have goy a teenager i aint naive. i find myself contradicting her on everything lol | i do this without even thinking anymore haha everything she says winds me up. she turns up at my house with no notice, she ring the OH at least 10 times a day, i mean i know she is his mum but for god sake let the boy breath and live his own life.
she sticks her nose in everything. if she carrys on doing this when the baby is born im going to go into hiding with little one just for their sake ha | does your mil try to kiss your oh on the lips when she leaves lol cos mine does  |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 13:33 PM
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| Why is it that IL have to be that way??
So odd! I'm so glad my IL don't live here right now.. Cus in their part of the world girls are not as highly valued. Even tho they tell us it does not matter in the end, they kept *poking* with these lil remarks about how they would buy us a car IF it was a boy, with a hard laugh after and a 'just kidding' after as I was NOT laughing... We already found out it is most likely a girl (which I wanted anyway  ) So I don't CARE what they want.. Me and the hubby would love a girl! My hubs brother had a boy on third attempt. For them it was really impo apparently!  Now they live in a tiny apartment in a big city, struggling with three small kids... (NOT going to bee me!) So glad we have a big house in the countryside!
Anyway, good luck! Crossing my fingers for a healthy baby for you! Hope you wont stress too much, not good for baby you know!  | | | | Status: Offline
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Sep 18th, 2008, 13:45 PM
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Originally Posted by helen1234 Quote:
Originally Posted by kadey my MIL and FIL are the same. they both want a boy and are not even willing to think its a girl. i told them straight that i didnt care what sex the baby was aslong as it was healthy it was stil MY precious little baby and they will have to love it or lump it. i think i rattled some cages but i dont care.
In laws really wind me up. | me toooooo, my mil comes round drop of a hat giving crappy advice. teloling me how to sit, and what todo when baby cries. blah blah ermmmm i have goy a teenager i aint naive. i find myself contradicting her on everything lol | i do this without even thinking anymore haha everything she says winds me up. she turns up at my house with no notice, she ring the OH at least 10 times a day, i mean i know she is his mum but for god sake let the boy breath and live his own life.
she sticks her nose in everything. if she carrys on doing this when the baby is born im going to go into hiding with little one just for their sake ha | does your mil try to kiss your oh on the lips when she leaves lol cos mine does |
HAHA yep everytime he sees her, shes like MWAHHH  i feel so sorry for him.
I hope i am never EVER like our MIL. |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 18:29 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | That must be hard. As its the first Grandchild on both sides, so far everyone just wants it to be healthy. |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 18:43 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | im very lucky to have lovely in-laws, my OH would slightly prefer a boy so iv convinced him i think its a girl to get him used to it. his parents i think would like a girl because they had 2 boys and 1 grandson, throw a girl in to boss them all around 
my mum is to excited to even think about the fact it will be a boy or a girl lol
dont worry yourself, your partner and yourself are the only ones to please, this is YOUR family so try to enjoy the experience, willy or not  xxx |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 19:00 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | they will get over it regardless. i wont lie, oh and i both wanted a boy for our first, but i was so happy when i found out alexa was a girl. i cant even imagine how life would be if she had been a boy, alexa is so precious to me i cant imagine having a son. her great grandfather had said he wanted generation pics done when i was pregnant, if i had a boy, but having had a girl, he doesnt even pay attention to her! oh well, his loss! |
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Sep 18th, 2008, 21:05 PM
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I'm Currently Feeling: | Thankyou all for you kind comments and advice. My thoughts are exactlly yours on this whole subject I just cant be doing with the background stress or conflict.
Your right at the end of the day its me and OH and our new little arrival whateva gentialia they may have lol! Just getting extremely wound up by it all.
Big hugs to everyone who gave advice and those who said they had experienced similar problems. I honestly do feel a bit better this evening reading all your comments. |
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I'm Currently Feeling: | i was in exactly the same situation so know how you feel. the pressure takes the edge off your excitement sometimes. my OH always dreamed of a little girl and she will be the first in her generation on both sides so i feel really lucky. that said he had two boys with his previous partner and he and his family worship them so its not worth letting it spoil things because the end result is the same no matter what happens.
fingers crossed for ya though
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Oct 30th, 2008, 05:25 AM
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I'm Currently Feeling:  | I know EXACTLY what you feel like!!!
My family actually has more girls then boys, and my OH's family is mostly male. MIL wanted a girl, and "coincidentally", my sister in law (OH's side) got pregnant 7 weeks after me. For 5 months, I had to deal with MIL saying I was having a boy, but SIL was having a girl, and it was especially hard once i had my scan, and it was confirmed I was having a boy. Then for the next 7 weeks until her scan was more nonsense.
Anyways, to make a long complicated story short, WE BOTH HAD BOYS! And everyone was still thrilled, even though they wanted a girl.
For me, I didn't care, I just wanted one of each as well. I'm just happy my little boy is happy and healthy |
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