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passengerrach · Sep 10th, 2008, 09:49 AM

at first i was very sure i wanted to know the sex of my baby but now i am having second thoughts i know none of u can tell me how to make the desision but if u can tell me hy u did/didnt find out and if u had any regrets. i wanted 2 know so i can be prepared and buy things but as some one pointed out its a bit of a waste of time buying clothes any way because u dont know what size will fit the baby and things like that and now im thinking i might like to have the suprise at the birth. but im really unsure i think if i dont find out then i might come away from my scan regreting it and if i do find out it will be no suprise any more

enigma · Sep 10th, 2008, 09:54 AM

Its a tough one, but like you said, only you can decide on this one.
Im finding out so that i know i buy all the right coloured things ect, but i understand why people dont, i just hate surprizes, lol.

helen1234 · Sep 10th, 2008, 09:54 AM

i was completely yellow, then everyone was announcing what they were having, then i was in mothercare and thought all i can buy is white baby grows for it to wear. my oh wanted to know so did my daughter and the anticipation was too greart for me to hold onto for another 4 months, so tomorrow i'm finding out if lo lets us, i'm leaving the decision to him/her. plus i hate keep saying (it) to.
do what your heart says you got a few weeks to decide yet

kadey · Sep 10th, 2008, 10:02 AM

we couldn't decide. one day we wanted to know the next we didnt. we decided that because we couldn't make r minds up we would wait and have a surprise. you can't really be disapointed if you dont find out (or thats the way i see it)
good luck in making your decision
xxx

redberry3 · Sep 10th, 2008, 10:02 AM

i think there are tons of surprises still in store even if you do find out the sex;

- what/who LO looks like
- how big LO is
- how strong you are going to be during labor
- how fast/long labor lasts
- how supportive your birthing partner/DP/DH/OH will be
- how emotional the first meeting will be

I also beleive you will be just as surprised the day you find out and may have a little more time to celebrate LO gender than the day you give birth as you might be so overwhelmed at the time that you will not even notice what they say.

whatever decision you make is yours.

regardless it will be a surprising little miracle!!

nessajane · Sep 10th, 2008, 10:13 AM

Me & my OH wanted to know as we were very exicted to find out, the way we seen it was that its going to be a big enough suprise on the day to actually see the baby, but everyone has their different reasons for finding out i suppose!

katieandbump · Sep 10th, 2008, 10:14 AM

I want to know cos i'd hate to go through my whole pregnancy feeling like i do now wondering and impatient to find out, once i know i feel like i'll be able to relax and get prepared if you know what i mean.

passengerrach · Sep 10th, 2008, 10:17 AM

yes i know exactly what you all mean and im finding that i cant buy anything not knowing the sex because everything is either boys or girls theres not a huge selection of inbetween stuff if u no what i mean

x_Emsy_x · Sep 10th, 2008, 10:22 AM

Hey Hun,

My partner and I have decided not to find out the sex of our LO.

Purely becasue we feel that in life you don't seem to get many nice surprises in life and feel that will be one

Best of Luck making your choice xxxx

danni2609 · Sep 10th, 2008, 10:23 AM

well im going to find out as im inpatient! I like to name my bump too so i can get used to he/she and their name!!

Sep 10th, 2008, 09:49 AM	#1
passengerrach Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: stevenage Posts: 2,939	unsure at first i was very sure i wanted to know the sex of my baby but now i am having second thoughts i know none of u can tell me how to make the desision but if u can tell me hy u did/didnt find out and if u had any regrets. i wanted 2 know so i can be prepared and buy things but as some one pointed out its a bit of a waste of time buying clothes any way because u dont know what size will fit the baby and things like that and now im thinking i might like to have the suprise at the birth. but im really unsure i think if i dont find out then i might come away from my scan regreting it and if i do find out it will be no suprise any more

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Sep 10th, 2008, 09:54 AM	#2
enigma Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: northwest Posts: 1,768	Its a tough one, but like you said, only you can decide on this one. Im finding out so that i know i buy all the right coloured things ect, but i understand why people dont, i just hate surprizes, lol.

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Sep 10th, 2008, 09:54 AM	#3
helen1234 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Dudley Posts: 7,833	i was completely yellow, then everyone was announcing what they were having, then i was in mothercare and thought all i can buy is white baby grows for it to wear. my oh wanted to know so did my daughter and the anticipation was too greart for me to hold onto for another 4 months, so tomorrow i'm finding out if lo lets us, i'm leaving the decision to him/her. plus i hate keep saying (it) to. do what your heart says you got a few weeks to decide yet

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Sep 10th, 2008, 10:02 AM	#4
kadey Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Leeds, West Yorkshire Posts: 1,168	we couldn't decide. one day we wanted to know the next we didnt. we decided that because we couldn't make r minds up we would wait and have a surprise. you can't really be disapointed if you dont find out (or thats the way i see it) good luck in making your decision xxx

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Sep 10th, 2008, 10:02 AM	#5
redberry3 Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 5,617	i think there are tons of surprises still in store even if you do find out the sex; - what/who LO looks like - how big LO is - how strong you are going to be during labor - how fast/long labor lasts - how supportive your birthing partner/DP/DH/OH will be - how emotional the first meeting will be I also beleive you will be just as surprised the day you find out and may have a little more time to celebrate LO gender than the day you give birth as you might be so overwhelmed at the time that you will not even notice what they say. whatever decision you make is yours. regardless it will be a surprising little miracle!!

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Sep 10th, 2008, 10:13 AM	#6
nessajane Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 7,586	Me & my OH wanted to know as we were very exicted to find out, the way we seen it was that its going to be a big enough suprise on the day to actually see the baby, but everyone has their different reasons for finding out i suppose!

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Sep 10th, 2008, 10:14 AM	#7
katieandbump Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Kidderminster Posts: 2,946	I want to know cos i'd hate to go through my whole pregnancy feeling like i do now wondering and impatient to find out, once i know i feel like i'll be able to relax and get prepared if you know what i mean.

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Sep 10th, 2008, 10:17 AM	#8
passengerrach Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: stevenage Posts: 2,939	yes i know exactly what you all mean and im finding that i cant buy anything not knowing the sex because everything is either boys or girls theres not a huge selection of inbetween stuff if u no what i mean

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Sep 10th, 2008, 10:22 AM	#9
x_Emsy_x Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Chester Posts: 476	Hey Hun, My partner and I have decided not to find out the sex of our LO. Purely becasue we feel that in life you don't seem to get many nice surprises in life and feel that will be one Best of Luck making your choice xxxx

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Sep 10th, 2008, 10:23 AM	#10
danni2609 Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: cornwall Posts: 6,138	well im going to find out as im inpatient! I like to name my bump too so i can get used to he/she and their name!!

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