Is anyone else totally freaked out about all the people who will be milling about your "area" when you are giving birth?

I just shared the 10cm picture with my friend..and informed her I want to steal those velvet ropes they use to section off like VIP area. And I'm going to put them up around the "area" and put signs off them saying "Doctors, Nurses and Midwifes only" and in bold at the bottom..anyone else caught peeking..off with your head!

My hubby has already agreed to not look, he doesn't really want too..and frankly I am OK with that!

But I dont really want my mom..or anyone else who I am related too or my hubbys family looking at me down there..even if it's during the birth of their grand child. Is that selfish?!

Does anyone else feel this way?

I know what some of you may say..I wont care once the birthing process begins..but Im a very stubborn girl. I wont change my mind!!

I wouldnt have any pics of me in labour of my privates at all. Bad enogh docs down there. But at the time i hope not to care as i will be busy trying to get baby out. no cameras please i dont want to see it i will feel it thats enough.

OH doesn't want to see. And frankly, I don't even want to see, never mind my wonderful loved ones.
You are far from alone.

Ok good..I dont want to see either, I should have added that.

I mean..yes it's beautiful. Yes it's my first child. And everything else. But lord I don't want to see!

I want baby Batman to come out and the doctor's place him/her on my tummy and that be the very first I see them outside of an ultrasound.

Though Im starting to rethink this whole coming out thing at all...after the 10cm thread..and the burning part...I dont know.

No, I'm not comfortable with anyone but my husband being there.
I have thought about having my mum or a close friend who did some doula training, but more than the fact that it is a pretty exposed procedure, I do not want anything or anyone around who might affect my focus. I think both of those wonderful and beloved ladies have the potential to do that, so this time around, it's me, husband and the doctor.

Only my OH is going to be with me in the delivery room. I am adamant that giving birth is not a "spectator sport" and believe that (in our case at least) it's a special moment for only him and I to share. Everyone else can wait out in the waiting room.

I've had people give me flack over it, that I'm doing his mother and my mother a disservice by not allowing them in there, but at the end of the day, it's mine and his wishes... so that's what will be.

The whole thought of people looking down there is another reason why I'm not wanting more people in there. I don't want to be constantly worried about where people are or what they're looking at, believe you me, I would be. I just want to focus on bringing the baby into the world.

Hummm... not sure how I feel on this one. I personally don't want anyone looking, having a group of strangers, even doctors, down there bothers me more than I can express. Even bothers me that my own husband wants to see! He's even mentioned that he wants to videotape it (just jokingly, as he knows there's no way I'd let that happen), but if it ever were, I wouldn't want to watch it myself!

Even going to my doc's for internal exams I find mortifying.

That said, when I gave birth to my son, I did allow my mother in the room. I needed the support more at that time than I needed privacy, and to me that says alot about the value of support during childbirth! And she's mentioned so many times how special it was to her to see David being born, and how she's always felt a special connection to him over her other grandkids on that account. The notion of only having my husband with me this time actually bothers me!

Having "been there done that", my iron wall goes up this time on NO STUDENTS. Their instructors were so forceful and bully-like that I didn't even know that I had the right to refuse being their subject to learn on. Finding that out after, I felt really quite violated and abused. That might sound dramatic, but it's honestly how I felt, especially after having a group of students all together examing how my stitches were healing the day after the birth!! Having the janitor walk through while I was in hard labour and clean up the bloody mess I made - that I didn't even notice. Having my mother and husband peek around during the moment David came out, I did notice and was bothered, but was more overcome with relief at the time, and I don't blame them for their curiousity. The students however... I still blush and am angry at the thought!

im pretty sure the only person outside of doctors and nurses that will be watching will be DH! and if he looks down there during all of it...that's his own fault

the only person apart from medical staff attending the birth will be my husband lol!!

I am not even gonna tell anyone I have gone in

It's no way selfish to not want people there. And my OH's family? They can all stay way down in Cornwall till I'm done thanks. I feel shocked at the mere thought of then being there *shudder*