This can be taken with relation to babies or just in general. But what do you expect from your OH. Did you have to sit him down and spell it out? Because being with my OH is like having a 27 year old adolescent. If he has money, he spends it on himself without thinking about ANYTHING ELSE, he listens to me half heartedly & then totally disregards what i have to say thinking that he knows better (when clearly he doesn't! lol), he hardly ever gets me birthday or christmas presents............do i have to spell out EXACTLY what i expect from him or is this as good/bad as it gets????

My OH has been really good to be honest asks me all the time if I need anything. We can't live together until next June because of contracts we can't get out of but he said off his own back that he's having the baby a couple of nights a week so I can get real sleep.

When it comes to bithdays and xmas I really can't complain, my last present was a £200 ipod touch

My OH is a darling. When he was on JSA, he spent all his wage on me for my birthday presents. And left hiself with nothing. He's recently got a job, and boy is he spoiling me! I've never been treated before of other bf's, so it didn't really cross my mind about getting thing's bought. But he always asks me do i want anything, or what should he buy for Lexie. Or he'll ring me and say " Babe, Ive got you a suprise " Aw!... He never spends it on himself. I go mad at him, and tell him to treat hiself once in a while. But he doesn't like spending it on him. So i can't win!

sometimes i have to point my OH in the right direction with a few hints but on the whole my OH is pretty good so i cant complain

My DH does everything, understands more about me than I do! I rely on him to tell me what has helped my nausea or sleep or what has made me ill as he always notices when I don't. There is so much going on in me that it all merges into one big physical mess! I don't know what I expect from him though, he's always kind and thoughtful so I dunno I've ever had cause to think how he's not been up to scratch! Does that make sense?

pregnancy wise all i expect from my OH is understanding.

(And his wallet to buy mini pp stuff )

I've been with my husband for 10 years, so I guess I'm a bit like Peanut - I don't know if the word "expectations" is quite accurate.
He is a tremendously considerate man, although he still does leave the toilet seat up. Sigh.
No, truly, I have fallen in love with him on a whole new level with this impending fatherhood business. He has been so lovely and kind and funny. It is such a blessing to have someone to share this whole pregnancy experience with, someone who is just as excited and looney and ridiculous as I am.
In terms of financial support, he is very responsible about bringing home a good paycheque, but he has always preferred me to handle our household accounts because I pay attention to them and have a plan for everything, whereas he will stuff all bills in his gym bag or the glove compartment and find them when they are overdue. He knows this about himself, so we have an arrangement in which I handle all the bills and stuff, but we agree on budgets and spending plans together. We also see our two incomes as "ours", not mine or his. That makes a big difference, too.
It took us awhile to get to a place where all this was peachy, and yes, we had some huge fights over money in the past (and I'm sure we'll have more in the future). I most certainly did have to spell it out, but I also had to listen.
With money stuff, if you show that you are willing to listen and compromise, you usually get a better response, I think.
Also, if you've been repeating yourself a lot as you're trying to get the message across to him, you may get better results by changing your tactics. At one point, my OH and I went for a sit-down with a family friend that he knows and respects. She is also a financial advisor and had agreed to help us come up with a plan for savings and paying off student loans. It was very good for the OH to hear another voice tell him that he could not be so casual about paying bills on time, that there were consequences.
As I agreed to make some changes out of that meeting, too, OH didn't feel picked on and we had a real turn-around.
That might be a strategy for you?

My OH is terrible with money but he's trying atleast and we've agreed that when we get our own place that I am in charge of our finances mostly. We are allowed to spend up to £20 without consulting the other person. I'm 5 years younger than him but sometimes it seems the other way round.. infact, most of the time. I don't mind though, he has bad habbits of course but his good points more than make up for them else I wouldn't want to be with him.
I'm glad I'm having a baby with him.

My oh deals with everything , the house , finances , my mood swings !! he is very wonderful !!

I think I kind of missed the emphasis on money in this thread when I posted before. But no problems there. I earn the most and sort the bills. We neither of us spend anything on stuff for ourselves unless the other has okayed it. He's more likely to make me buy things than to just buy stuff for himself!

I don't know others' situations but we are married and have a mortgage together so there are responsibilities and priorities for our money that are indisputable. If there has ever been spare money it has gone on improving the house so that we have a chance of moving again some time in the next decade! There just isn't any financial leeway for us to spend loads of money on going, or clothes, or whatever stuff for ourselves.