Beltane

Although not what you had originally wished for, your bond with your daughter will be amazing because she was created from love beyween you and your OH. That is something that no one can take from you! A child that is half of you and half of him- truly unique.

Emsi76

I can't understand where you are coming from, but sympathise as my hormones are all over the place!

Take some special time, just you and your little girl, shopping, swimming maybe, just the 2 of you!!

You will get there!

bubbles

Didn't wanna read and run. I hope you cheer up a bit hun, I'm sure you will be a fantastic mum and love your little girl more than anything in the world

wilbrabeany

Ahhh Rachel i totally understand how you feel, but not sure how to make you feel better. I guess its just going to take time and shopping, i love the girlie things you can get now soooo sweet. The males sperm decides the sex of the baby so its def not your fault hun. I think becoming a mum for te first time is a really wierd rollercoaster anyway and i'm sure we all have ups and downs and doubts about whether we'll make good mums. Big hugs.xxx

Munchkin

Rachel,
You are giving him the gift of a child and I really feel like your feelings are tied to your OHs approval. I don't know how because I'm no psychologist, but somehow you need to separate your feelings for your child from those for your OH. Because deep down you do know that it doesn't matter what your child is. Maybe start thinking of your baby as your gift to YOURSELF rather than to your OH.

I love my husband very dearly and would give my life up for him - no questions asked, but if it ever came down to a choice between my DH and child, I'm sorry but my child would win every time. And I have no problem in saying that to him either.

So far, you have been bonding with a blue bump and you need to start to start that process from scratch. There are also a couple of recommended books which help you to do this. I haven't read any but I'm sure there is some good advice out there.

But I think it is also important you have a chat with your OH and let him know how you are feeling. It is important that he knows that he is upsetting you and comments such as the one he made are stressing you out. Pregnancy is tough as it is and really he should be thrilled you are carrying his child. You certainly don't need that.

Don't let the fact that has other daughters take your hapiness away from you. It is still YOUR child and YOUR first and don't let anything spoil that.

You can pm if you like Rach.

You will get there.

Hugs,
Mx

ryder

No one thinks bad of you hun... You will be fine, just give this some time, you probably have just found out in the last couple weeks, so give yourself time. I think you will eventually get excited once you think of all the fun you will have with her later.

And once you hold your beautiful baby, no matter if it is a girl or boy, your going to fall in love with it. I think it will just happen.

carries

Awwww Rach its only been a couple of days. Think of it this way, you had15/16 weeks to bond with a 'blue' bump and now you have to start from scratch. Im sure this will just take time but dont put pressure on yourself. I know your OH probably means nothing by his comments but maybe try talking to him...im sure he will be able to make you feel much better than any of us can.

Chin up hun! xx

Jem

Oh Rach don't feel bad hun, no-one thinks ill of you. You can't help how you feel. I have to say when I found out I was having a boy I was a little disappointed but that was it, a little disappointed as I wanted another girl and so did my OH but I'm fine now as I see it as great to have one of each! I suppose I don't truely know how you feel but please talk to your OH about it as it's going to get you more down and I promise you when you hold your little girl in your arms you'll love her sooo much xxx

shockd&amazed

Hi so sorry to read this. No one judges you!
I really, really think you'll come round to it AND even if you don't, as someone said above, the second you hold that tiny little person a love you didn't even know you could feel the size of an OCEAN will hit you and you'll be mad about her!!!!!
Don't worry... it will be ok, hun xxxx

jacky24

It is a normal feeling hun, you have gotten so use to it being your baby boy, and now it has to change to your little girl.

But i can promise you, you will come around hun.

The day she comes out it will be pure pleasure to have your baby girl with you