hi everyone...
ive Feeling down the last couple days as feeling abit lonely and like no one close to me understand what im going through.
I have a close group of girl friends but none of them have children or pregnant, i am the first one see. So as im talking alot of babies and pregnancy and they are in a complete different part of their lifes - and as ive not been going out drinking anymore or clubbing feel like im slowly drifting away from them.
My OH is being fab tho hes trying to understand what im going through so thats a plus
Any one else in the same boat with their girl friends?

Not hugely as half my girlfriends have kids and half don't. I'm 30 so at that stage.
But I was surprised by some people's reactions which were ''ooh, you were such a career girl before, I can't imagine you having a baby''
which really hurt me!!!!
It's as if people pigeon hole you and can't imagine you changing.
Anyway! I say, the good mates will stick by you and understand and the ones who don't... well then they weren't good mates anyway.
xxx

my friends all have children with the youngest being 3 ! Im the last one to be pregnant . They are all just starting to go out again and they are not intrested in anything to do with babies or pregnancy!

I feel like im drifting away from them and it makes me feel lonely but im sure real friends will stick around !

Funny enough i just posted a thread about feeling exactly the same way!! I dont get invited anywhere anymore.. like they think a pregnant woman cant do anything or leave the house!! and when i try to make plans with them all i get is 'oh im busy this week we will arrange something soon' but they never do..

My friends all have children and the odd few who dont are very supportive!
U do find that u meet new friends in the same circumstances than u. Talk 2 ur friends, ask if u can have a night in rather than a night out...? xx

I get the exact same thing - i tend to find out monday that they all went out saturday and i wasnt invited?? Even to be asked would be enough to keep me happy as i doubt id go anyway as cant fit into alot these days and need to shop for new!! Its a real change to be one of the girls on minute and not the next hopefully itll get better

Hey hun, why don't you try looking into registering with your local surestart moms to be group. You'll meet a lot of people there who are probably in the same position. If they're not nice enough to invite you then it's their loss sweetheart xXx

Aww hun, sorry you're feeling down. Your true friends will always be there for you, and the one's who are acting wierd probably just don't understand what you're going through. Being a Mummy will no doubt introduce you to loadsa new friends, who are more than happy to talk about babies and such stuff.
And if you're ever feeling lonely then you've always got your friends here on B&B who you can have a good old moan/natter with!
xx

I went through this when I got married, and found that it is just a natural part of life. You grow up when you start a family, and your needs, or the way people perceive you changes as well. I know it feels lonely right now, but you will be ok. Try talking to your friends that are especially close, and plan something you can all do. If they are unwilling, it is time to start making new friends with something in common. I have made many "best" friends, and still love them all dearly, but we are just not in the same places in life. I know it is easier said than done, and hopefully you are making some good friends on this forum, but remember that just b/c you are not in the mix of things doesn't mean that you are unloved or no fun. Things just change and that is how life will continue to go. Focus on your baby and the type of mother you want to be. We are all here for you when you are lonely. And don't forget that at the stage you are at, many of us (myself included) have gone through hormonal changes that are hard to deal with. You may just be feeling a bit down from the hormones.

hey guys

thank you all for replying and ill take everything on board, i dont think my friends are doing it on purpose i just think they dont understand and hopefully they will begin too soon. I know as soon as one of them become pregnant they will realize for them selfs how hard it is adjusting and im glad that i can be there for them. I think being the first out of a group of friends to start a family and have different priorities is quite hard but im sure ill get used to it and i have so much to look forward too im going to start looking at the positives
Thanks again everyone