Rachiebaby24

A family friend of mine lost her baby last Monday.....she was 29 weeks....her back was hurting and she went to the docs and there was no heartbeat so she had to give birth...her daughter only weighed 1lb something..... .....I feel for her sooo much (hope this doesn't scare anyone)....apparently she had been leaking fluid and the baby was engaged so they trying to work out what happened.....she is in my thoughts xxx

The question I wanted to ask is.....they are having a cremation for the baby but do you think it would be bad if I didn't go....my mum says I shouldn't go because (a) it probably wont be nice for her to see me and my bump....and (b) being pregnant myself, it will be really upsetting and may cause me (and bubs) alot of stress....im not sure.....I know what my mum says is understandable but I don't want to offend her by not going....

What do you think? Do you think she will understand?

ANGYPANGY

I think maybe you should probably not go but send maybe flowers and a heart felt card. It is hard to see pregnant people after a loss like that.

momandpeanut

Your friend is in my thoughts !

I dont think it would be wrong for you not to go , my friend lost a baby in november and she was 23 weeks and i didnt go.

It has to be your choice do what you feels right for you xxx

wilbrabeany

I think it would prob be best if you didnt go but i would make sure your friend knows you're there for her when she needs you and keep in touch.xxx

GemGems

Oh no thats awful! Your friend is in my thoughts at a time like this.
I can understand both sides. You want to be there to support her but yet you dont want to upset her at the same time.
I would personally send her flowers telling her you're thinking of her and to contact you if she needs anything.

xxx

joeo

As the others have put i would send some flowers and a card, I have no doubt she would understand anyway that you going to something like that could be really upsetting for you, but will know you are thinking about her

SalJay

Oh your poor friend I really feel for her......I wouldn't go if you don't feel it's right. Often things like this are family only events anyway so she may not expect you to go. Take care xx

welshcakes79

thinking of your friend
personally in that situation i would talk to my friends and say if you want me there ill be there if you dont ill understand..
and if she said yes but got upset when she saw me (and bump) then i would say i understood, im there for her when she is ready then leave, go straight to florist and get huge bunch of flowers...
but you got to do what you feel is right hun..XXX

Blob

OMG thats so so awful Yea i agree with the others send some flowers and card and send her your love. Maybe you can explain why you didnt want to go in it

Christine33

how heartbreaking for your friend.
personally i wouldn't go - if it was me i would find it too hard to cope with a pregnant woman at my child's cremation (but that is me) so i would advise to send a card and flowers and perhaps see her after the cremation?

i hope your okay Rachel



Christine
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