Novbaby08

Why does he bother? my baby's daddy decided back when I was 5 weeks it wasn't his, I was practically investigated by his whole family. But every now and then he IMs me asking how I'm doing. What the hell does he want me to say? I'm miserably pregnant, I'm waiting for December to hurry up and get here! I love my baby more then life itself but I hate being pregnant. Why does he have to torment me by going out of his way every now and then to ask about me, when I know he doesn't care!!?!?!?!?!

Novbaby08

Sorry for my rant

Blah11

Some people shock me. I don't understand how someone could not be interested in their own baby :s Are you going to get DNA testing when the baby is born or is he just signing over his parental rights?

cuddles314

Aww sorry hun, I really feel for you, as my baby's Father has been playing mind games with me for ages now. But you just get to a point where you realise that you don't need them part time, popping in and out of your life when they feel like it. I know it's so hard but just try not to let him get to you (easier said than done I know). Stay strong hun, and focused on what is best for you and your bubs.
xx

Novbaby08

that jerk isn't even going to be on the birth certificate, i'm not going to let him know this kid. I don't need a DNA test though, he's the only one I've been with in 2 years. Its his. It just pisses me off that he does that. Well it doesn't matter if he has a change of heart now, I don't want to ever let him near this kid. The kid will have my last name as well

Mervs Mum

Do you know about the Single Parents board?? I think some of the girls on there will be able to give you some advice.

http://www.babyandbump.com/single-parents/

x

Lyssa

Wow i can totally relate...
when i was 12 weeks at my first ultrasound my baby father ditched me, cheated on me and started a new relationship and denied the baby.
He would do the same damn thing and he opted not to be there my WHOLE pregnancy and re-enter my life when my daughter was 7 months old.
I felt the exact same way.. i was so saddened and was worried how i would ever explain to my child that her father doesnt want to be part of her life.
Although it may hurt now when u see that beautiful baby looking at you nothing else in this world will matter and its YOUR BLESSING, one that he will forever miss out on. Sometimes if that is the type of person they are its better doing it on your own and cutting them off as hard as it may be. Because i let my feelings about my daughter lacking a father interfere when he decided to come around and now im pregnant by the same "dick" again. I know its easier said than done but u truly are the fortunate one and just dont mind his questioning, its not his priveledge anymore. However if he genuinely apologizes you should always do whats best for your child. I hope this helped a little bit because ive been there done that and now doing it all over again. I promise you will be alright just enjoy your pregnancy your entitled to that and dont ever let someone take that from you
All the best hun!
p.s. im due december 8th also lol

Ria_Rose

Men are complicated creatures. I don't think he'd ask if part of him wasn't interested. Why he's interestesd is anyone's guess. Maybe he has realised what he's missing or maybe he just feels guilty. Whatever the reason these little chats on IM are obviously scratching that itch, otherwise he'd be asking to meet you.

If I were you, for your own piece of mind, I'd block him on your IM. If he wants to talk, or genuinely wants to know how you are - he knows where you are. You don't need him popping into your head when you are least expecting it. You have more importment things to think about now.

After the baby is born on however, if he chooses to acknowlege that it is his, he does have certain rights. You might feel as though his behaviour shouldn't warrent any access to your child however if you stand in the way and blocking him out of your LO's life completely there is a chance one day he/she might want to know about their Dad, and if he has the excuse of "I'd have loved to have seen you, but your mother wouldn't let me" It could paint you as the bad guy. Whereas if he does it by himself - If he's an absentee father, and he lets them down, they will make their own minds up about him. And realise for themselves they are better without him. I know it's not an easy option, and might cause your LO some upset - it will be you who is there to pick up the pieces.

Blob

I totally agree with this, i really hope you get it sorted out in your head. But i think that if he's asking there must be some part of him that is interested else he wouldnt bother to ask.

You just need to think whats best for your baby and not what you want, no matter how hard that is. If you believe that the best thing is just you or if you want your LO to know his/her daddy. Its totally up to you as you will know best

Novbaby08

I don't plan on letting the guy anywhere near my baby. Why would I let someone who hurt me so much around someone I love more then anything