ryder

Because that is what being selfless is about.

People are always going to do things in life which really hurt us. And the hardest thing is to forgive. But for the sake of your baby, and the fact that he/she may want a relationship with their father is all the reason you need.

You and the babys father need to come to an understanding of being civil with each other, if he chooses to be a part of the babies life.

You may have carried the baby, but it is still his 2. And no matter how much you want to forget about him, that baby is always going to be the thing that keeps you both in each others lives.

Good luck though! I know it is hard!

nikky0907

He is an idiot.I can't understand how someone can walk away from something so precious,with no doubt the best thing he made.

He shouldn't bother.He out you through hell and I can't believe that he has the nerve to contact you!

sammie18

I hate it when guys do this....When that baby come PROVE to him that, that baby is his and then he and his whole family will feel bad and horrable!

Novbaby08

I think they already know, but still, he's off banging a bunch of different girls, he treated me like shit after he found out I was pregnant, he even told me to get an abortion. He said he wanted nothing to do with this kid. So screw him. This baby is way better off without him, he has nothing to offer a child. I tried so hard to maintain even a friendship with him. He refused to be decent to me. And so this is where we are I'm in my 5th month and he writes asking how I'm doing. I'm tired of his bullshit. Last time I talked to him before yesterday, was in my 3rd month, he said "f***** kid probably isn't mine, well whatever we'll see what it looks like when its born" he's expecting it to look just like him or its not him. Its gonna look like a newborn.

Lyssa

What a jerk off.. believe me in the end whatever stress you have to deal with, This is still your blessing and you will be the one better off

GemGems

Because every child has a right to know their father, whether they are a scumbag or not. Yes, i understand that he might hurt LO feelings by flitting in and out of his/her life, but its up to them to make up their own mind about their father. I understand that he's hurt you deeply but this isn't just about your feelings now or about what you want.

I urge you to let your child make up their own mind about their father. He/she will be able to see for themselves that their dad is a complete jerk. If you completely deny any access then it could turn round and bite you in the bum in years to come, as you could be portrayed as the baddie.

Good luck. xxx

Lyssa

I totally see what you are saying GemGems, but i think your job as a mother is protect your child from harm. It is worst off for a child to have a figure come in and out of their life, that truly effects them more than if a father were absent. If your baby father needs time to figure things out for himself let him take it. When hes ready thats when he should be in your child's life. Your child will understand why you didnt allow contact. Believe me the emotional issues with inconsistent and minimal support from a baby father is so draining and keeps bringing up issues of being unwanted or not loved. As a mother we have so much love for our child anyways. If the father can mature and be consistent with the baby that is the only way i would permit contact.