Aidan's Mummy

my mate just came round (she wants to be an auntie to the baby) and every time i mentioned bubba she just ignored me and then starts talking about taking speed and smoking weed and getting pissed and layed by a different bloke every night thinking it was clever. now after my interview to day my feet are killing and ive got huge blisters from my shoes. and she asked me to walk her to the park to meet her mates and cos they have been a few asttacks latley i agreed. well we walked round the park for ages and when she finally found her mates. she turns round to me and goes get james to come meet ya. and when james gets there she was like ok bye then ill cum see you in like 3 weeks or summat. i mean am i worng to be pissed off with her??

oh yer to top it off before i went she said "ypur well borning now. Evere since you got preg you've changed and its like i dont know you. your 16 you need to be doing stuff like me" i mean of cos ive flipping changed i cant just think about me anymore ive got my unborn childs welfare to worry about. oh i dont know gurls am i gettig upset over nothing?
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ellasmummy

I dont think you are being silly at all! She seems very insensitive as to what you are going through! Its hard to not do all the things your mates are doing, even though you know for your LO's sake you cant. I was pregnant with Ella at 16 and because i didnt want to hang around on streets anymore and sit at shops drinking all night most of my mates stopped talking to me! I then realised i am better off without them as they werent true friends, and i then found the people that are my true friends xx

poppy

You're not being silly at all. She sounds quite selfish and irresponsible, especially as she made you walk her all the way to the park (where you said there were attacks) and then once she had met up with her mates, she wasn't interested any more. She sounds like she has a lot of growing up to do. I know you are both the same age, but whereas you seem very mature, she seems quite childish.

You are right to be thinking of the health of your baby as your first priority and if she thinks you are being boring, just ignore her. She is probably a bit jealous.

Also, do you really want someone who takes drugs as an auntie to your child? You deserve better.

Aidan's Mummy

yer i know i really dont want her any where near my child now. and to fink she even offered to babysit once bubba was born and i said no. i mean i wouldnt leave her with a dog let alone my baby. your right tho hun. i really dint want her near my child until she sorts her self out
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Mervs Mum

Aww bless you.

Why dont you talk to some of the girls in the teen mum's section?? I bet they will have had similar experiences with friends. You are probably finding you're having to grow up and be more mature now you have the responsibilty of a child and they dont have to so they can carry on being 16. You're not boring hun. You just have a different set of priorities.


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dannyboygirl

Your growing into a young woman and you have to llok out for your child...The baby depends on ly on mom for all the morals and choices..You are strong and your not on that level anymore your on a higher level and Im proud of you..Its hard being a woman you have to cut off the ones u thought were friends when they ask you to choose between you and your unborn...God will guide you and heal you...Its hard but you become stronger..

Jayden'sMummy

First Off

I know how you feel about your mates saying you have 'changed'. My mates have only just started getting the hang off it, that i won't be coming out getting pissed every night or smoking or fighting like i used too. i'm going to be a mummy, they had to realize that i couldn't just think of myself. it gets lonely at first when your mates 'abandon' you but really its just them getting used to the idea. Your right to be angry with her, you should just pull her next time you see her an let her know how crap she made you feel an if she wants to play 'auntie' then she best get a grip.

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Ria_Rose

Aw honey, no you aren't being silly. You might find, as some of the others have said, that you are becoming more mature. You are going to have this little person to look after, who is going to be solely dependant on you, other 16 year olds are probably a lot more self interested and can afford to be more self centered.

If she is a friend sticking with then you will know.. If not, and I know this sounds harsh, but some times friends can grow apart. You may find you have a lot less in common with her now, and your interests may have changed.

Also don't forget there are clubs, antenatal classes and groups you can join in your local community - you might be able to meet other girls of a similar age who have a similar outlook.

And as Merv's Mum said, try talking to the girls in the teensge mums forum. I'm sure they can sympathise.

Even us 'oldies' have similar problems, only one of my close friends has a baby, the rest just don't understand where I'm coming from any more. My work mates take an interest, and ask how I am doing everyday. My friends (of over 10 years) don't even text me.

leedsforever

i must admit me and an old friend went our seperate ways after she got pregnant at 16!!! It wasnt something that was planned and I was def not nasty to her but I just wasnt ready to stick with a friend who was going to have a baby!! And we eventually grew apart!
It was very wrong her saying those things to you!! But I can kinda understand why these young girls act they way they do!! I mean they can be self centered and selfish!! And they can still be childish!! When I was 16 I was still a child!!

However the whole drugs thing... Your better off staying clear hun!! Like the others have said .. mum and tots groups you can meet people!!

XKatX

Big . It takes a strong person to admit that they've changed and don't want to do those childish, life threstening things anymore. They will all change aswell one day, it's just a case of different timing. Throughout you pregnancy, you will meet people that you can relate to more and you can get onwith your life as a mummy.
Good luck for the future hun, I'm sure you'll be a great mummy x x