nikky0907

Can I rant a bit guys...pretty please?


Today was a great day,really.I started my double figures and it is my friend's birthday party tonight.

So,me and Nathan(Lola-Rose's dad) went to the store so he could help me pick up the present that I bought for my friend (I'm not lazy,it was just a really big present).
And of course,we couldn't resist but to look at some baby things aswell.He was just showing me this red play mate,and we were bickering(friendly) how I want it pink.
He then went to put this one back and this old lady comes to me and asks me about the baby,I answered,I smiled at her.And then she asks me how long have we been married.I kindly explained to her that we are not married or in any kind of romantic relationship.
She was truly,truly shocked and told me in a really serious way:

'Do the right thing.Give your baby for adoption.A child is best in a two-parent home.Give it to a family and then have your own when you are married'!



I mean,this is quite rude,I'm not imagining things?
And I don't ever yell,or pick fight or stuff like that so I just told her that it wasn't ever an option and that this is very rude of her to say.(In a really calmed down way)
She responded :'I just want you to do whats right'.

Then I just simply left and nearly burst into tears.

I mean,the way she was constantly saying 'right' really angered me!
I think that it's not a husband or partner what makes a good mom.

And I belive that I can do and provide more than enough for my little girl.
Not to mention love.

The two of us are a family.And the three of us,we're a bit of an uncoventional family.
Is that bad?
This woman basicly slapped all single mothers in the world with this statement.

And now,I was in such a good mood,now I'm supposed to go to a birthday party and I'm in such crappy mood...
Plus,I'm worried about Ann-Marie...I want to know that she and Mia are ok....

So what so you guys thing? Was this just my hormones or was this woman actually downright out of order?

maybebaby

She was definitely downright out of order. I am so sorry. People need to keep their mouths shut.



I hope your day gets a little better, I am worried about Ann-Marie and Mia too

melbo

oh god! Old lady or not i would have slapped her in the chops! cheeky cow. dont ever pay attention to anything anyone has to say thats negative...uh! stupid old bag
xxxx

Mervs Mum

She was downright out of order.

Lola-Rose HAS two parents!!! And even if she didnt, you have enough love to help her grow up to be a well rounded young woman - just like her mom.

Dont take any notice of her sweetie......a very, very wise young woman said recently 'Some people are just smarter when they keep their mouths shut'.....listen to her advice....its true.

maddiwatts19

golly..what a rude, obnoxious bitch!
i would have slapped her!!!
bless you sweetheart..
xxx

Mervs Mum

Ps - I will be keeping everyone updated on Ann-Marie - if she texts I'll be straight on here.

x

Mummy2Many

What a horrible thing to say! no wonder you got upset, I would have too. Nasty woman.. I hate people who have such strong opinions like that and think that you need to hear them.. ugh. You will be a fantastic mum, and your little girl will no doubt be adored! so what if you don't have a traditional family set up! Not many people do these days. I certainly don't! I hope you cheer up hun, try and enjoy the party!

TashaAndBump

She was completely wrong (and rude!) in saying what she did...

She's probably old and stuck in her ways - it's not worth letting your thoughts linger on her. We all know you will be a great mother, and more importantly, YOU know you will be a good mother. Your child will have more than enough care and love... Nobody needs their parents to be together - It's not even necessary to have two parents (which your little girl will - just not together!) - Being married is not what makes somebody a good parent at all! I know plenty of bad parents who ARE married...

I was raised by my mum alone, after loosing my father to suicide, and I turned out great (even if I do say so myself! lol). I was never less advantaged than those kids at school with both their parents, and never EVER felt unloved - by the way my mother put her all into raising me by herself, nobody could ever question her love for me - And now I have grown up, I have my own family, I'm perfectly happy and healthy and am going into midwifery as a stable career.

Your baby will be just fine and will certainly not be any worse off for you and Nathan being separated - At least you are civil and will both love your child - That's really all that matters.

Don't listen to anyone who tries to tell you differently. You will be a great mother (and already are) and your baby is a very lucky girl. x

Belle

Amy me and James split for a while when i had Joshua - i also got stopped (by an old man) and had the u look way too young to be married and when i told him i wasn't he looked me up and down and pointed his snout so far in the air i could see way too much!
Dont listen to anyone elses comments! yes people may have their comments but please dont be dis heartned by them, u are doing the right thing for u and Lola-Rose and u are giving her the best thing u could ever give! LOVE!

shockd&amazed

What an ignorant cow bag!
My OH was raised by his mum alone. I take my hat off to women who do it alone - they deserve praise not this kind of sh*t - pardon my french!!!