alice&bump

hi girls, dont know if anyone read what i'd posted in the thread about alcohol, but i used to be a really heavy drinker before i got pregnant. As in 2 bottles of wine a night every night and more on occasions. Anyway, for the first 12 weeks i mayybe had like a glass of wine or somethiin, but nothinmuch, but in the last few weeks i've been findin it really hard and have probs drunk far more than is safe for LO.

Anyway, went to the hospital today to see a cardiologist and he was askin about if i drink or smoke and i was like, i've stopped smoking and he asked about drinking and i said i did drink. he was like, even now you're pregnant. said it was only a couple of glasses here or there. Anyway so he asked what i used to drink and i said it was a bottle a night-ish. He was like, what a night?? He was blunt with me and said if i started drinkin that much again after i've had katie then my heart would be knackered very quickly. Told OH and he was like, well thats it you cant drink anymore this should be your wake up call. But i'm still dyin for a drink and have been in a world of my own all night, especially seeing as he's sat there with a bottle of lambrini.

Sorry to rant, but i really needed to get it all out!!

maybebaby

I know it is hard, but you need to do what is best for both you and the LO... be strong!!

bexy_22

First of all your OH should be respectful enough not to sit around you drinking when he knows how hard it is for you to not. Second although I can't really comment as I never drank as much as that, it's such a small thing to give up for the sake of having a healthy baby. Is there not some kind of help programme or something that you can go on at your hospital?

alice&bump

i dont know, think i need to talk to my mw bout it. OH knows its hard for me, but i dont think he knows quite how hard. he has said he'll go out if he wants to drink, but i'd feel bad if he did. i spoke to him bout it the other day, but ironicly he was that pissed he couldnt remember it the next day! actually 2 mins after my hysterical crying fit, he couldnt remember that i'd been crying!!

Mummy2Many

I agree with Bexy, your OH should be a lot more considerate than sitting around you drinking. If you are struggling with it, it would make it a LOT easier for you if he wasn't doing it. You should maybe ask him if he could cut back along with you, so you can do it together? Just a suggestion. I don't know what else to say, except I hope you can get through it. Just concentrate on that little one, and doing what is best for her.

Freya

Having seen the effects of drinking alcohol in pregnancy, it's enough to scare the living daylights out of anybody. Not sure if you've heard of feotal alcohol syndrome? This is what your bub could be born with!

No judgement here though!!! I'm sure you already know what can happen. I guess it might be worth looking at why the craving for alcohol and why you drank as much as you did before pregnancy? Lots of us drink alcohol as a way to relieve stress, or to forget about problems. It also becomes a habit too, getting in and having a glass or two with a meal...

Try going back to your doc for some more advice and support to reduce your intake. I reckon with a proper plan in place you would feel strong enough to keep it up, you've done brilliantly already in the amount you have already cutback.

Booooo to unsupportive OH.. I bet he has no clue about the impact his own drinking has on you. Hopefully he'll understand when you explain!!!

xx

Blob

Awww that sounds no fun i hope your OH becomes more suportive

Landingmach3

Ohhhh good luck honey. I am sorry it's been so hard. The girls are right- maybe a support group of some sort? And of course hubby needs to not be drinking in front of you- that's just not right on his part. LO is counting on you and you know you can do it for her! I'm not calling you an alcoholic, but I have seen alcohol at work and how strong its affects can be because when I was little my dad was an alcoholic. Now he hasn't had a drop since I was 4 *now i'm 19*. You can do it! Good luck hun.

Stephanie16

That is not fair that your OH is drinking in front of you, that is not helping matters. Just think though in less than 4 months you can drink what you want it is not that far away and is worth it for your LO. xx

moomin_troll

You should say to your OH if im not drinking you should support me and stop to or atleast not do it around you! im getting so sick of my OH drinking around me as i used to love my booze and still miss it lol

Have you thought you may have a drink problem? Maybe if your honest with your doctor he might be able to help with quiting. Because you dont want to be drinking a bottle of wine a night when your lo is here