polo_princess

lLike others have said firstly your OH needs to be a bit more supportive, then it will make it a whole heap easier for you to crack down on your own drinking ...

Youve done well to cut down from what you were drinking so just keep it up hun and you'll get there

alice&bump

yea i know i can drink what i want once she's born, but thats not the point - i cant go back to what i was drinkin before, my body was already showin signs of packing in before.

And freya, yes i do know about foetal alcohol syndrome and it scares the living shit out of me, but sometimes it honestly doesnt feel like a choice i have, it feels like somethin i just have to do

moomin_troll

Im not saying you are but my dad was an alcoholic and even though i wasnt bought up around him i still have to watch myself around drink. I dont want my child being bought up in a home where me and my partner sit around at night drinking and like i said on my other post you cant drink that much while looking after your baby maybe you and your partner need help to quit.

bex

I think you have done a fantastic job by cutting down on alcohol and smoking, well done.

I would definately ask you midwife for some help and support as you have already come so far and it sounds like you are ready to change your life style now and don't want to go back to drinking like you used to.

With the support i believe that you can overcome this problem as it sounds like you really want to.

Maybe you and you OH can work together and help each other.

It is difficult and tiring enough looking after a baby without the added hinderence of a hangover/headache.

If your OH is drinking then maybe leave the room and have a bath or chill out with a book or music. We are all here to support you xx

Belle

yeah as above credit where due, u have donr fantastically to cut down that much!
I think maybe speaking to ur MW she can set up midwife councellers etc which are excellent! Keep up the good wrk and try speaking to ur OH, sounds like he needs to be a bit more considerate! xx

ella170

this is a wake up call that you should definetly take notice of! all those nights/weekends of binging add up in the end and what better time than to quit the habit for good while pregnant with your LO. i rekon another 20 weeks with no drinking and you won't feel the need to do it after you've have your baby. you've done well to get this far, so cutting it out completly is definetly possible!

Mervs Mum

First of all Alice I want to also say how well you have done so far - you're already going in the right direction.

You say you're finding not drinking tough and given what you said about the amount you were drinking before you were pregnant I'm gonna come right out with it and say I think there is a good chance that you could well be an alcoholic. My grandfather was a serious hardcore alcoholic and although he probably wouldnt admit it, my Dad has a drink problem.

I think your OH could be more supportive but he may have his own issues with drink from what you've said. So you're in a really tough position. I think the really positive thing is that you want to do something about it and are already taking steps. Hopefully he will get some help with you but if he's not in the same place as you then you'll have to do it without him. Not easy but not impossible.

If it were as easy as someone just explaining how bad drinking is for you and baby then noone in the world would ever be addicted to anything; be it smoking, drugs or drink. All smokers know there is a very good chance they will shorten their lives or end up with cancer but its still incredibly hard to stop.

I think you should make an appointment tomorrow - dont delay - to see either your GP or m/w and ask for help. Be honest like you have been with us in this thread and like you were in the other thread - I told you before how much I admired your honesty and I think honesty will be what starts you on the road to sorting this out.

Good luck sweetie - I'm really proud of you.



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ryder

You are an acolholic, you have an addiction. Your SO NEEDS to support you because getting through this is not something you can do alone. You need to talk to your mw and some counsellors. Your SO needs to get rid of all the alcohol in the house and start supporting you, that means being there for you, not coming home drunk or alcohol smelling. Going to some counselling sessions with you etc.

I know that may have sounded harsh, but for yourself and your baby, this really is a wake up call that you should not ignor.

I think that you are doing a great job trying to get better and you need to keep moving forward. But that will only happen with the right support.

carries

Well done Alice for being honest, its not always easy as it sometimes seems to be an open invitation for critisism rather than support!

I think its fantastic that you have managed to do so well on your own with what seems to be litle support. Alcoholism is a sliding scale, you dont have to be drinking meths on a park bench to be an alcoholic. Its also nothing to be ashamed of. That said, it is something that is incredibly hard to deal with on your own. You need to unlearn the habits you have and learn new tools to help you cope.

See your GP, if they arent helpful do a google search for a national helpline or a local groupe and dont give up til someone listens!

Im really proud of what you have achieved so far, keep it up!

Mervs Mum

Well said Carrie.

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