rae05

Up until now I've been doing really well with not worrying that something could go wrong with my pregnancy. Now, I'm starting to worry about every single little thing! I think since I found out I'm having a girl I feel so much more attached, since I'm not calling her "it" anymore hah.

I just keep worrying that the baby is going to have something wrong with it like Downs or ceberal palsy (my cousin has this and I have witnessed first hand how difficult it makes his life) or she will be blind/deaf/have autism or have some other thing that I can't do anything to prevent. Or that something is going to go wrong and she'll be premature.

AND I've started worrying about the delivery. I'm not scared of how much its going to hurt, and I'm not scared about pushing the baby out, but I have this phobia-type thing of tearing

And then of course is just the general worry that I am going to have absolutely no idea what to do with her when she comes out haha. I've never even held a new born before, let alone had one entirely dependant on me!!

bexy_22

I'm having exactly the same fears hun! Obviously I'd still love her unconditionally if she was born with a defect like Downs syndrome but I just want her to have the best possible chance in life and I'd blame myself for not looking after her properly when she was in me! I'm now crapping myself about labour too! I won't be able to handle it. And also the biggest fear I have... I am going to be a mummy, something is going to depend completely on me! I think everyone has these fears as a first time mum but I'm sure you'll be fab in all of it

polo_princess

The rest doesnt seem to phase me at all yet apart from this!! .... before i was pregnant everyone always said i had that "knack" when it came to babies ... im wondering if it will be the same with my own!!

nikky0907

Toally the same thing with me.I am starting to see a pattern here with all new moms!

I guess the worrying that something will go wrong will last forever.When they come out,I'll have the cot death fear,the hit her head fear,drop her fear,when she grows up there will be the 'hit by a car while crossing the road' fear...
The fact is that these things can happen,there's very little we can do about it...but your little girl will be healthy and happy.

Worries will be your new best friends for the rest of your life now.

I am equally scared,I also never had much contact with babies,holding newborns especially but hey,you learn,it wil come to you.When you hold her in your arms for the first time (after the labour) and all that pain goes away..

maybebaby

Well the good thing is that you have a while to deal with these fears I think everyone has these - I know I definitely do. I am terrified even now that something is wrong with my little girl - with no basis of course. Have they offered you any tests?

rae05

They offered me the triple screening but I turned it down. Just for the fact that if it came back that I was at high risk, I wouldn't get an amnio done. So I'd just go through the next few weeks knowing I was at high risk but not actually knowing!! I'm not risking losing my baby to see if she has Downs!

maybebaby

Yeah I can definitely understand that. I declined the amnio as well. I am sure everything is fine!!

ryder

I got the downs testing, not the amino though... I am a need to know kind of person. Luckily for women in our age range we are mostly low risk, unless someone in our family has downs or something.

rae05

Yeah I just didn't want them to come back and say I was medium or high risk and then not be *able* to get the amino. It would be fine if I knew for sure it was going to come back low, but in the rare case that it didn't....I'd rather not know the chance was there and find out at the end than worry about it for the next 21 weeks.

XKatX

Join the club!!!!