Pregnancy - Second Trimester

cuddles314 · Jun 29th, 2008, 10:41 AM

I feel the same. And it seems like the more bumpy grows, and the more I feel bubs move, the more I start to panic, "what if I'm not a good Mum/don't know what to do/can't handle labour etc"
But really, we wouldn't be normal if we didn't have some worries, especially when it's your 1st baby, and you don't really know what to expect.
xx

nikky0907 · Jun 29th, 2008, 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by rae05

They offered me the triple screening but I turned it down. Just for the fact that if it came back that I was at high risk, I wouldn't get an amnio done. So I'd just go through the next few weeks knowing I was at high risk but not actually knowing!! I'm not risking losing my baby to see if she has Downs!

Thats completely understandable.I had the screening,I am also a need to know kinda person.But there isn't a wrong choice in this case...

ryder · Jun 29th, 2008, 12:29 PM

I try not to worry about anything lol... Most of the time I just think about how my life is changing and stuff. And I worry about what the relationship bettween my lo and I will be like...

Ive looked after alot of babies as I worked for a childrens aid home, newborns, premies etc... Plus I work in health care, so I know the knowledge of things is there... But none of those babies were MY baby!

So its different, because even though you form a bond with them all, its not your real baby. I love babies though, I know once I have this one im not going to want to stop!

LOL, I think my SO is starting to feel the same way, first he was deadset on 2 children. Now its 3 maybe, to try and get a boy... And if we dont get a boy im pretty sure he would be game for adopting a boy.... yaaaay

XKatX · Jun 29th, 2008, 12:33 PM

I don't seem to panicking much about the baby - we get what we get and take the rough with the smooth. The labour - it's only a day (hopefully) out of my life, so I just have to get on with it and what happens happens.
My worst fear (this may make me shallow - I'm not sure), is the dynamics of mine and OH relationship once baby is here. I've seen people seperate because of not coping under the strain. We have a really solid and fun relationship, so I'm hoping this is enough to keep us going for ever.

Landingmach3 · Jun 29th, 2008, 13:12 PM

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Originally Posted by rae05

Up until now I've been doing really well with not worrying that something could go wrong with my pregnancy. Now, I'm starting to worry about every single little thing! I think since I found out I'm having a girl I feel so much more attached, since I'm not calling her "it" anymore hah.

I just keep worrying that the baby is going to have something wrong with it like Downs or ceberal palsy (my cousin has this and I have witnessed first hand how difficult it makes his life) or she will be blind/deaf/have autism or have some other thing that I can't do anything to prevent. Or that something is going to go wrong and she'll be premature.

AND I've started worrying about the delivery. I'm not scared of how much its going to hurt, and I'm not scared about pushing the baby out, but I have this phobia-type thing of tearing

And then of course is just the general worry that I am going to have absolutely no idea what to do with her when she comes out haha. I've never even held a new born before, let alone had one entirely dependant on me!!

Rae you've never held a newborn before?! I grew up around a really big family (I have like 40 first cousins on my mom's side alone) so I guess I have had some experience. If you can somehow try to hold one before baby comes, I'm sure it would help calm you a bit . It's a bit scary at first...knowing this little baby is completely dependent on you not dropping him/her lol! But after you get comfy it's amazing. and i'm sure it'll be more amazing when we have our own children in our arms! I'm worried too about the birth....and I'm sure that will grow as time draws nearer.

rae05 · Jun 29th, 2008, 13:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Landingmach3

Rae you've never held a newborn before?! I grew up around a really big family (I have like 40 first cousins on my mom's side alone) so I guess I have had some experience. If you can somehow try to hold one before baby comes, I'm sure it would help calm you a bit . It's a bit scary at first...knowing this little baby is completely dependent on you not dropping him/her lol! But after you get comfy it's amazing. and i'm sure it'll be more amazing when we have our own children in our arms! I'm worried too about the birth....and I'm sure that will grow as time draws nearer.

Hhaha none of my family live near me, so by the time I got to see the babies they were 3-4 months old!!

Landingmach3 · Jun 29th, 2008, 13:41 PM

bexy_22 · Jun 29th, 2008, 13:45 PM

I won't hold other people's babies. I'm worried they'll cry and their mums will be looking at me like 'you just made my baby cry' lol

PeanutBean · Jun 29th, 2008, 14:27 PM

I feel the same Rae. Since turning down the quadruple test last week I now feel half convinced that the baby will have some huge syndrome that'll make our lives hell instead of normal. Then I'm worried that I don't think I've felt movement yet and everyone on here seems to be feeling it really early. I'm worried about the labour, so much so I had a dream about it a couple of nights ago but it was ok in the dream so that helped! But then I'm worried about holding/dropping the baby too and also accidentally putting my thumb through the soft bit in their heads. I've got 9 nephews and nieces, 6 of which live nearby and I've held them all so I've no excuse! I think with my clumsiness from preg brain I don't know how I'll be able to hold anything so precious without dropping it! You know like when you're trying really hard not to do something, concentrating on it so much that your brain cops out and you do the very thing!

Then there's the whole bit about what if they turn out to be a horrible person and I'm a terrible mother. What if I don't love them enough - I don't feel at all bonded with anything more than the idea of having a baby at the moment.

These are funny times!

rae05 · Jun 29th, 2008, 14:30 PM

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Originally Posted by PeanutBean

Then there's the whole bit about what if they turn out to be a horrible person and I'm a terrible mother. What if I don't love them enough - I don't feel at all bonded with anything more than the idea of having a baby at the moment.

These are funny times!

I didn't either until I found out it was a girl and now she's Penelope instead of "it".

I had a dream too that she came early and the drs were going to put her back in, so that didn't help haha

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