Rachiebaby24

had a good bawl in the toilets at work yesterday...

im ok today but im just getting really fed up of all the weight i have lost.....

When i was younger i was REALLY skinny and i just dont feel healthy when i lose weight! People are always saying "you look great" and "women would love to lose weight" but I AM NOT ONE OF THOSE WOMEN!!!!!!

My OH also loves my bum and legs cos i (used to) have lots of meat on them and now the weight has gone i feel really unattractive and unsexy and horrible....

he emailed me when i was at work yesterday and he said that he wanted some that night and so i replied saying

"I dont feel like im satisfying you now when we have sex and cos I have lost so much weight I feel horrible. When you grab my bum and legs there is nothing there!"

(last time we had sex he couldnt come - he said it was because he felt something at the top of his willy and he thought it was the baby and put him off - but me being a woman and silly im convinced its me)

anyway he replies.....
"ahhhhh babes dont feel like that jus eat more in the day time im sure i will survive"

I laugh about it today cos its such a man's reply and he just doesnt understand but yesterday it made me bawl my eyes out!! When i got home, we had and he was telling me im sexy and beautiful and he loves me etc but its how I feel about myself!

Also, it doesnt help that he bought a full length mirror and i keep looking at it getting upset.

Is anyone else losing weight? Am i the only woman who wants to PUT ON weight!!???

Before i was pregnant the biggest ive been was 11 and a half stone (im 5 foot 9 tall so carry it well) and i was so happy...i had a little podgy belly and a nice bum....now i feel like im all skin and bones apart from a belly.

carries

Awwwww hunny im so sorry you are feeling like this. It WILL change, you will start to put weight on through the pregnancy just make sure you take care of yourself. Is there a reason you have lost weight? The UTI? or MS?

Men can be rubbish sometimes they just dont know what to say to make us feel better. I was in tears the other day because of the weight ive gained and my arse is massive!!!

Its swings and roundabouts babe, there is no normal and you will start to feel better about yourself. Try not to worry about it and eat well and im sure it will all balance out.

xx

polo_princess

Aww you poor thing

Youve just got to remember right now that OH loves you just the way you are hun

Rachiebaby24

before i was pg i had a massive appetite but since becoming pg its gone...!! I was sick in the beginning but my appetite hasnt returned so my body probably thinks its on a diet and then the baby must be sapping everything else im putting in my body so im not getting any!!

I feel better today but still dread looking in the mirror.

gde78

Aw honey. Sorry you're feeling like this. Hormones are horrible things aren't they. I hope you start feeling better soon. Is there anything you fancy to eat at all? I can't get enough cream cakes! Do they not tempt you???

carries

I heard from my MW that you need to eat to feel like you want to eat. Its basically a connection your body makes with food. It might be hard for a few days and i certainly dont mean gorge on loads of food but try to make yourself eat even though you dont fancy it. Your appetite will come back.

thelilbump

Oo hunny sorry you feelin this way

Your apetite will probably pick up soon, about 20 weeks mine did. Whilst i've now gone off big meals i snack all the time. I am the opposite to you though, i have put on loads of weight throughout pregnancy. You can have some of mine if you like lol. I'm sure your partner thinks your beautiful and i bet everyone else thinks so too

wilbrabeany

Ahhh sweetie, i feel for you, unfortunately i'm not in your boat i haven't really gained although my body has changed shape. it doesn't help having all these hormones racing round your body, makes you more emotional and insecure. Thats the sort of thing my bloke would say, they're just not as deep as us women and i'd doubt we'd want them to be!!! But he sounds like a good un.

If its any consilation i get upset, stupidly coz one of my tits is bigger than the other now, like a whole cupsize, feel like a freak, but we have a laugh about it mostly, but when i was measure i cried...how pathetic is that.haha.xx

Shri

Hi there - I'm in a similar situation in some ways - but for different reasons. while I usually don't find it hard to put on weight, I got an over active thyroid and so am finding it hard to put on weight in this pregnancy. I don't worry too much about what I look like, but I do worry about the baby getting what it needs. And I think it is probably the first time in my life that I have actually felt upset and tearful about NOT putting on weight. I try and try to eat well, but somedays I just feel too sick and other days my appetite doesn't seem to exist!

The thing is - I think our hormones can get the better of us sometimes. I expect you look beautiful, but it's just not what you are used to and we feel so vulnerable and often insecure about all sorts of things during pregnancy.

I'm sure you will start to gain weight a bit more soon. Can you try eating high calorie foods (healthy ones of course)?

I hope you feel better about things soon.
x

XKatX

Oh babes, I know how you feel. It's not actually affecting me during pregnancy, although I haven't put any weight on even though I'm half way through.
I did, however used ot weigh 8 stone and was 5"11. As you can imagine, I was so skinny. They couldn't find anything wrong with me and I had a healthy appetite. Of course everyone assumed I was anorexic. Then one day the weight started to slowly come on. No one knows why it happened, it just did. As a result I have a real complex about my weight.
The things that people used to say were just plain nasty and evil. Some people just don't think about what they are saying and how you feel. It sounds to me like your OH really does love you and your bod, no matter what. He wuldn't be asking for sex if he didn't want it - we know how shallow men can be!!
You need to look after number one now - ignore what people say, be strong and hold yu head high. People that say nasty things really are jealous. Be proud of what you have and if any one says anything, just bite back. I used to it shut them up!!!
If you want to PM me, please, please do hun.
Hope you feel better soon x x x