Sometimes I feel like I serve no other function in their eyes at the moment than a baby incubator. Thats my whole purpose of my existance... I'm a little frustrated I guess, I've had such a good relationship with my mother in law, we would see her pretty much every weekend.

Though, lately my mother in law generally starts conversations with me by asking me what I've eaten that day and how I'm feeling.

Last time I was there, Sam (partners dad) offered me a tea or coffee casually and his mum jumps in and snaps "she cant drink coffee!"

I was sick the other week, I had a cold, just a sniffle and a sore throat, but I lost my voice, my mother in law was calling me practically daily and I felt like I had to convince her DAILY that I was okay, baby was okay, everything is okay!

Its not a BIG issue, I guess its just frustrating... theres a few language and cutural challenges involved as well.

Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone else had experienced similar things with anyone close to them with their pregnancy and how did they deal with it without offending the other person.

I'm sorry she's getting you down but she's just worried about her grandchild.

You'll be annyed with her even afetr the baby is born but thats just how families are,she'll still be a great help to you in whatever you need...

Your post made me smile. I can appreciate how frustrating this can be, but you have to try and think that it's because she's concerned and excited about the new baby. Makes you want to scream sometimes though doesn't it!

I know what you mean, I have a good relationship with my mother in law but since we told them about the baby the phones calls have been coming more regularly and usually when we are about to sit down for tea. But I know they are only looking out for how me and the baby are.

It's quite sweet to know that she is excited and is very caring about things during your pregnancy. I've read many MIL stories and they are so not like what you describe.

Remember too, one day you will be a soon-to-be grandma. Wonder how we all will act then? LOL

Ha ha ha there are so many people who have problems with their MILs. Atleast after the birth you will be able to rely on her helping you out.

This thread makes me smile! My MIL is the same, it's just cos she cares but I honestly understand the frustration at times! I told my MIL the other day that I've been suffering with headaches and she was telling me to get myself down the docs for blood tests to find the cause. Now my MW had already told me not to worry and suggested maybe I just drank more incase it was dehydration but this just didn't convince my MIL! x

My MIL is the same....very caring but slightly over bearing at times. Try to tell yourself its just because she cares, which is probably true, and remember there are lots of pregnant women out there with noone really paying them any attention.

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Doesn't it amaze anyone here how people always ask "how's the baby?"

At first I'd say "Fine" but these days I get creative with them and usually say something like "Well... I'm assuming she's ok.. I'm not actually sure. I can ask?" or "Yeh she's fine. She told me this morning she's feeling great. Had an excellent nights sleep and all."

How the heck are we supposed to know?!?!?! Other than feeling kicks we don't know that the baby is alright.

Sorry. That was all slightly off topic..

My MIL is the same.................first grandchild on DH's side of the family. She always ask first about the baby, than about me and how I'm feeling and if I'm taking care of the baby. That doesn't bother me so much.........what really gets me is when she tells me things like "you can't leave the baby alone in the bathtub" and "you have to wash all the baby's things before she gets here." And I'm like well yeah those are pretty much given things