ani

...I don't feel as happy as I should. I had so been hoping for a girl, and without even realising it, the baby in my imagination was always a girl. The one I bought the car seat for, the one I was talking to in my belly... Since I was little I sort of always thought I'd have a girl if I had kids. And all the people around me, including both our parents and all our friends have been telling me that "of course it's a girl! We all want a little girl!" The only one who was rooting for a boy was DH.

So, now that we clearly saw the boy bits on the screen at yesterday's scan, I feel disappointed. I thought I had prepped myself beforehand to be happy either way but when i saw what I saw i just started crying.

And now I feel really guilty and crappy. I should be able to want him as much as I wanted her... but I can't. Hopefully it's just the first shock and I can adjust in time. But shouldn't a mother's love be unconditional? And how can I not be extatic after being told that we have a healthy boy? I mean I fully well knew the odds, so why am I reacting like this !? DH is of course not very happy about my reaction, which makes it only worse...I already know how wrong it is...

Suz

Sorry you are feeling that way... I guess you now just have to count your blessings that you are 20 weeks pregnant and going to be a Mom...

kookie

sorry you feel that way but your having a healthy baby and thats all that matters. Hope you feel better soon

mBLACK

I was like that at first when I found out I was having a little boy. Trust me, you will change your mind. Over time you slowly start bonding with your little one and you will change your mind and never even think of giving him up for a girl. Trust me.

BeckyBoo

I totally understand how you feel as I already had a little boy and this time I so wanted a girl. All my OH's family were saying "Has to be a girl else we don't want it" and it made me feel horrible and scared if it was a boy. After a while before my scan I adapted myselt to think " It's not the babies fault, it's one of those things, I'm lucky to be able to have a baby".

You will come around to the idea hun.

sglascoe

Hi i thought i would say a little something, even though i already had a girl the eldest and two boys this time i was rreally hoping it would be another girl i even considered not finding out cos i was scared it would be a boy, yet i dont know where these feelings came from as i love all my kids exactly the same.

Turned out to be a girl, but now thinking what if they were WRONG.


Trust me hun, as soon as you have that little bundle in your arms, you want be bothered what bits its got.

hope you start feeling better, go do some blue shopping.

sarah

Lauz_1601

Hormones are all over the place at the moment aswell hun, in time you will bond with that blue bump, defo go blue shoping theres some gorgeous blue things out there it will get you all broody. xx

poppy

I am sure that given time you will start to bond with your little boy. You probably felt disappointed because you had built up things in your mind and had mapped out what life was going to be for you with a little girl and now feel a bit lost. But you have a healthy baby and are going to be a mum, you should start celebrating that.

codiontour

its normal hun you will snap into it and eventually wonder why you ever wanted a girl....

Gabi

I have to agree with whats been said.

Your hormones are all over the place it's quite easy for you to upset yourself. I'm sorry to hear that you feel disappointed but I believe that it is just the initial shock. Once you come to terms with the fact that you're having a little boy you'll be fine!
The most important thing is that your baby is healthy. It's not his fault that he's a boy

To be honest I sort of know how you're feeling. I had convinced myself I was carrying a boy. To the point where I started concentrating only on boy names and imagining my baby being a boy. Everything I've bought I've imagined using for a boy. When I saw the scan and the gynae says he's pretty sure it's a girl at first I was disappointed. Which is strange since I wasn't bothered what the sex is. I just wanted a healthy baby but because I'd set my mind on one thing and was completely shocked, I wasn't as happy as I thought I would be.
Although later that night I started feeling better and now I'm overjoyed at the result of the scan.

I'm sure you will be too very soon!