leeanne

No woman has a say in what gender she will have and the outcome is either a boy or a girl.

Now, the fact is some of us get so into our thoughts of one gender or another. But the fact is, deep in the back of your mind you should always know that even though you think it's one gender, it very well could be the other.

I truly thought this baby was a girl, but it's a boy. I was shocked for a split second, but not disappointed. Girls are lovely, I have one, we are close and I love her to pieces. I also have another boy too. I have to say, in general, boys are mommy's little boys! You will be amazed at how much love you will get from your little boy! There's a stronger bond between mommy and son than mommy and daughter. Girls are in general, daddy's little girls!

Eventually, I hope that your disappointment wears off. If it doesn't in time, I think that you should seriously consider talking to someone about it. At the same time, once you see your LO in your arms, the love you feel will be amazing irregardless of whether it's a girl or a boy. I hope so anyhow.

Mervs Mum

i think you are just being honest. I dont think you're alone in your feelings either.

Both my hubby and I would really like a little boy. We have a girl and we'd just really like a son. At the last scan the tech said she thought it was a boy. We weren't shocked - as Wobbles said, its 50/50. We were a little disappointed but even my hubby, who I thought would be worse than he was, said at least its healthy - we cant ask for anymore.

We are having a scan on saturday to hopefully confirm the sex. We both decided that it was better to know in advance and have a brief moment of minor disapointment now rather than at the birth. I know if they say its a girl we'll both start to get excited within a very short space of time and this way the birth will be not be about if its a boy or girl - it'll be about who it is and meeting them for the first time.......what ever the sex....I cant wait.

Heather.78

Im sorry you feel that way I think Im having a girl but I dont really know until next week either is perfect for me think on the positive side now you know your having a boy you'll haveloads of fun picking out outfits for him and choosing names take care

ani

Thanks so much for your comments everyone. It's nice to just hear from everyone out there. I know for a fact that I'll be fully in love with my little one very soon, I'll just have to give myself some time to get my head round it. Though last night I dreamed of breastfeeding him and playing with him and , awww, he was really cute

MommytoRyan

I think most women want a girl when they are first initially pregnant. I know deep down I sorta hoped our first was a girl. But now I wouldnt trade him for the world. Little boys rock! There so sweet, and LOVE there mother. Not saying girls dont but Daddys little girl and Mommys baby boy!

ewoklets

i think once the news has had time to sink in, you will begin to feel less disappointed and more excited about meeting him. once he's born and you see he's healthy and beautiful, his sex won't matter because you will love him so much

Suz

I know that I have already commented on this thread, but I have been following it....

I really dont understand how anyone can feel "Disapointment" Or "You'll Get Use to It"

I just want to have a baby.... I have been TTC since 2006. TBH I dont care what I have ... I just want to have. So It makes me upset to see threads like this where someone can say they are Upset or dissapointed to be having one sex when they wanted another.... Disapointement to me is seeing my period show up when all I really want is a BFP....

Hope you understand what I am trying to say....Please just count your blessings that you are going to be a Mom....

kookie

I already posted here too but i just have to say I too agree and cant understand how anyone can be dissapointed at the sex of their baby i have three boys and never once felt dissapointed with any even though i'd love a little girl they were all healthy babies and thats all that matters.

ani

Suz & kookie,

I completely get what you are saying and I'm sorry if I made you upset...That wasn't my intention at all. I just feel that this is a place where I can honestly share my feelings, even the bad and 'wrong' ones that I would otherwise just suck up. Why I was so upset about the whole thing was exactly that I knew how silly and wrong my reaction was -- but I still couldn't help feeling it and felt angry with myself for it. This was just a place to let it out!

Suz I wish you all the best and hope you get your own little miracle on the way soon!

leeanne

Girls love their mother and there is a bond. My little girls comes to me for food, hugs and kisses, etc. On the other hand, ever since she was 6 months old, she hung around daddy more when we went out, she asks daddy to fix things, to play, etc. Definitely a good part of her is a daddy's girl.

My son, is always by my side. Actually, he's 4 years old and it's only been recently where he has started to tell daddy he loves him and gives him more hugs. But, he's definitely mommy's boy.

My OH told me, there will always be that bond between my son and I and nothing will change that.

It's true too. Where do girls go for advice on dating men? Their dad. And where do boys go for advice on dating women? Their mom.

I am about to have another boy. I count my blessings. My little girl will always be protected throughout her school years and beyond by her little brothers. And, truthfully, I will have protection too.

I count my blessings for all of my children and it doesn't matter what gender they are. They are rewards to my life and I wouldn't change it for the world.