Originally Posted by Noirin

Originally Posted by chetnaz

I know exactly how you feel as ive gone/going thru a similar sort of thing, if not worse. Just before xmas i went on my laptop to check my emails and my hubby had used my laptop the night before and forgot to close down his inbox. I found loads of emails to other women he met on these webcam sites and lots of stuff on porn sites he's been on. I felt like i'd been hit by a truck! I knew we were having problems in our marriege and had grown distant, but i trusted him 100% and wasnt expecting that. I packed up and took our 3 year old and went to my parents. He begged me not to and said it was a terrible mistake and that he was frustrated that we werent as close and stressed etc etc and it was a release and nothing more - he had not physically cheated, just chatted to women!

My mum told me if i wanted to stay with them she'd totally support me, but i felt that for my son's sake, i had to try to get past this (i hadnt been an angel either, because we were having problems and he wasnt communicating with me, i turned to a close male friend who became a shoulder to cry on, and although nothing happened between us, i felt that hubby had only been looking at porn/talking dirty, whereas i had started to get feelings for this friend, which is worse in a way i guess). I also suspected that i may be pregnant, so before i made a decision i did a pregnancy test that day and got a positive. I was so upset as i'd wanted a second child for ages and i felt that finding out the emails etc had completely ruined the happy news of the pregnancy

To cut a very long story short, we decided to make a go of things and promised each other that from now on its just about our family. I stopped contacting my friend, he deleted his email accounts and changed his mobile number & we have been trying to mend out marriage. I still feel very fragile about it all and find it hard to trust him and he hates it when i check his mobile and question him over things, but we are getting there! The news that we're expecting twins has also made us so much closer as we know it'll be hard work for the both or us, but also a very exciting journey.

I hope you can get past this hun, i wanted to share my story with you as mine is recent and if i can get past it (with all my pregnancy hormones) so can you. It happened a long time ago, dont let it ruin things for you. xx

Originally Posted by Odd Socks

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