caitlyn had daddy's surname. It was never an issue. She was always going to be taking his surname :-)

That said, we're married now so we're all the same

xx

I'll start by saying, do what you feel is right for you...

My story is that i felt 'obligated' to call my DD1 her fathers name, and now it bugs the poo out of me. I kicked him into touch at 3 months old. I tried to change her name to my name, but solicitor advised me not to as he could have it overturned in a court. basically i should have given her my name from day one. I am since married and he refuses to allow her to change her name to my married name, well add it on double barrelled (she wants to), so she's been guilt tripped by a 44 yr old grown man! I've told her once she's 16 she can do what she wants as no judge will go against her at that age.

As for naming LO fob name...well we did that with DD2, but when we got married a couple of years later, we had to go back and re-register her. Basically, the fact that we weren't married at the time of her birth has been wiped off records, it appears that we were married when we had her to all who check her birth cert and records. That annoyed the hell out of me as i felt 'they' were trying to cover up a huge SIN!!!

I think the time it only got complicated was just before we got married...as i had 2 DD with 2 names, my OH and then my maiden name...it made booking holidays complicated!

Sorry that was such a ramble...hope its given a bit of insight x

Me and my baby's dad aren't really together but we are still best friends and decided when I found out I was pregnant that we wanted to do this together and we can deal with our own situation once baby is born and we are settled.

He is coming to stay with me once baby is born and everything, would never rule out getting back together but for the time being we have decided we would rather be as we are and remain best friends, than be at each others throats and together just because we have the baby.

Anyway getting ot the point, it was my decision to give the baby his surname. He will always be his dad, no matter what happens between me and him and if anything happened to me, he will be the one bringing the baby up.

Long winded - but long boring day in work

So glad you posted this up!! I have been worrying about this too!
Theres no way we could double barrel our surnames as they sound stupid together!

He thinks baby should take his surname but we're not married. And marriage? Well we cant afford that right now! Dont even think I want to get married tbh!

but his surname is very popular lol. I want it to have my surname but he's the only son in his family and thinks he should be carrying on their name!
Hang on what about my familys name!! I have a bro but who says he's ever gonna get married!

Surnameless baby is the answer perhaps lol!

Our baby will definately be getting my partner's name but we are getting married in december so it's not a tough decision neways I guess tbh. I think even if we were'nt engaged I'd give LO OH's name just coz I'm a bit of a traditionalist. But i know what u mean about having diff surnames, i dnt like the fact we'll have diff surnames for 3 months!! only prob is tho if u give babba ur name, as and wen u get married ul have to change babba's name again...i duno if it's a hassle but just worth baring in mind. Tbh i think if you know ur getting married no matter how long down the line id give LO ur partner's name. But it's totally personally and there's no right or wrong! it's whatever u feel comfortable with, just make sure u find a first name that matches both names lol xxx

My daughter will have my surname.
FOB & I are in a situation at the moment, not exactly together.
But, even still, when we were living together & engaged, I told him that if we were not married at the time of her birth, she was going to have my last name. I didn't and don't want a different last name than my child.
If we were to ever get married, it doesn't take much to change her last name to his. But like you said, if something does go wrong, having a different last name than my child is just not something I'm willing to do.
Oh & his opinion on it ; he's fine with it, he knows where I'm coming from. & he also knows if we were to get married, it doesn't take much to change her last name. I'm sure if you explain it to your OH ; he'll understand

Good luck xx

Me and my OH arnt married or engaged but we have been together almost 9 years and our baby will take his last name. I have been on about getting engaged for a few years now,lol, and now that we are having a baby he keeps saying how we will have to get married in the next few years so we can all have the same last name,which, although it dosnt really matter, i think it would be nice Aswell i would never want to give my baby my last name as i have major problems with my father, and i dont even want it!lol

There was no way either of us wanted our baby to have a different name to us entirely, and even if we get married I will keep my own name. So we've gone double barrelled with my name going first just because it sounds better that way around.

when leyla was born i refused to give her her dads surname, for the simple reason that we werent married and i figured if we broke up, which we since have, i wouldnt want her to have his surname since he wouldnt be doing the majority of bringing her up, i would never give my baby someone elses surname, if youre married its different because then its your surname aswell but i would always want my baby to have same surname as me

x

both hun, xx