feel sorry for myself right now. I've been feeling a little down the last few days. It didn't start for any particular reason, but then we've had two really long days at work as one guy is off dealing with some personal stuff in his family. There's only 4 of us total at work in a very small environment. The one guy who is off just started with us in November and I thought we got along pretty good. He had found me and added me on facebook back when he started. I went to send him a message today through facebook and saw that he wasn't on my friends list anymore. I had recently deleted a few people and thought maybe I had accidentally deleted him too so added him again when I sent him the message wishing him well in the hard stuff going on in his life. Well, I just went to check his profile and he's ignored my friend confirmation!!! I'm not sure what I've done to piss him off and not sure I really care, but we work in a very small space and once he returns next week I'm going to feel all awkward around him. I was already feeling hormonal and low and now I feel worse. Sigh...can't wait for mat leave.

Oh hun, I'm sorry you're feeling down. It can be your hormones making it worse though....

Things like that are horrible, I wonder what is up with him, you'll probably just mull over it for a few days now then feel a bit awkward when he comes back but you'll get over it in a little bit. You never know he might be going through some really bad things in his life and might not want to talk to anyone. Just chin up and try not to think about it

The thing is, he didn't delete the other girl we work with though, just me.

He is going through a hard time at home...his girlfriend went into early labour and had the baby today at about 24 weeks and the baby is in the NICU. He didn't respond to my message which I can understand, but he did take the time to reject my friend request. I feel horribly for what he is going through and incredibly guilty that I'm upset over him deleting me as a friend when he has this shit going on in his life. But at the same time I'm going to have to work with him again and now it's going to be very weird for the next 4 months...not only will I feel awkward cuz he deleted me, but my ever-growing belly will just remind him that his gf had the baby early while his is in NICU (assuming the baby lives, I don't know how bad off he is, but I'm guessing it's pretty rough at only 24 weeks gestation). The whole situation freaks me out. And hormones are making it worse.

I can relate to part of the problem... I have a close friend that recently vented on Facebook about being angry at people who have what she can never have- a baby. She is going through a really rough time with infertility, but it also made me feel like complete crap about the stuff I've been posting. I offered to disappear for a while, so she didn't have to deal with it... and I'm not going to spend my pregnancy feeling guilty for being happy. I hope your friend will chill once his baby situation resolves. (hopefully the baby will be fine!) Could be that it just hurts too much right now.

Do you post Pregnancy related stuff onto your facebook? It could just be you remind him of his baby being born prematurely and he doesn't want to read anything to do with baby's.

Hopefully all he needs is time, I know if my baby was born at such an early age I would want to disconnect from the world a wee bit until I fully understood that the rest of the world is the thing that keeps your faith and keeps you fighting.