My MIL is getting to me a bit too!
She keeps buying lots of bits for the baby which is lovely and we are very grateful, but she also keeps on about how me and OH NEED to get the babies room sorted now RIGHT NOW!!!!! but she doesnt take into consideration that I work full time and some weekends also OH works full time (shifts) and every sat, so our time is very limited at the moment and we are doing everything we can! She keep telling me what i need to do, what i need to buy, what i should do with baby etc etc................it really is wearing me out!!!!!!!!!
Im really worried that she will end up buying things that i dont like or something i dont want to use...........or just the fact that maybe we want to buy things for the baby too!!!!!!!!!!!
She also popped into a conversation that ''she should be there for the birth, Ill get you through it'' NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!
I dont want her there
Also apparently its a shame that they live to far away that she couldnt have the baby for us when i go back to work!!!!!!!!! Who said i was planning on going back?!?!?
She TELLS me i have to go back, we wont be able to manage!!!!!!!!!!!
How does she know?!?!
I just feel like she is rushing us to get everything done, we still have half way to go yet!!!!!!
Sorry for rant also lol
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Oh and forgot to mention that she thinks ( the rest of the family, ie OH Brother etc) that its hillarious that me and OH dont want to buy clothes for our baby from car boot sales, charity shops etc!!!!!!!!!! Why is this funny?!?!?
Just because i am happy to spend a little more on my babies clothes, that means im a snob!!!!!!!!!!! Yet We have things given to us from my sister and friends, which i am quite happy to have as i know the people who it came from!!!!!!!!!!
And just because I want new clothes for my baby that doesnt mean i expect people to buy the most expensive clothes out there..........i dont expect them to buy anything atall!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yet MIL commented on how ''u couldnt turn that down'' meaning the price of Asdas baby vests 3 pack for £1.75............Bargin!!!!!! Now what wrong with that, its new clothes but very cheap prices, i dont plan on buying expensive clothes for baby as they are not in them 2 mins but Asda, tesco, matalan prices are fab for kiddies......dont u think? xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Arrrgggghhhhhh xxxxxxxxx

oh babes.. i feelthe exact same..
its tiring anway trying to work and do everything..and then be judged and challenged by them is even worse!!!
I Have a feeling with mine its only goingto get worse once my little man is here1

I'm still in 1st tri but I saw this post and had to respond.

I truly believe that my MIL is from hell, too. When me and DH first started dating he called her one day while I was in the room and was just talking to her and mentioned he may "have found the one" and she told him i was a greedy whore and just wanted his money (mind you i have never spoke to or seen this woman before)

I think that set up how our relationship was going to go. We didn't tell her when we got married until a month later because of that comment. But when we found out we are pregnant we called her the next day. All she said was congrats, and how are we going to take care of a child, what about finishing school and all this. Plus she said I was using this to trap my DH and he should get a paternity test. She was way out of line for saying that, then she told my husband that he never calls her or visits her (she lives more than 18 hrs away) but when he asked why she never calls him or tries to visit she said she has too much work to do. So I just decided to not talk to her unless made to.

my mil is great its my mom that i have issues with. when dd was born i invited my half brother to the hospital (he's her son but they don't get along) and she comes in and is like "i'm here now it's ok" then she sees him and is like " can i speak to you alone" so he leaves the room and she starts going on about "how could i invite him when i know how she feels. was i trying to make it hard on her?" so i'm in freaking labor and she's going on and on about herself. i had to tell her "this is my daughters birthday it is about her. not about you if you can't deal with that you can leave" then she calmed down cuz she knew i was serious.
for ds's birth i had a hour long fight with her becuz i asked her to come to the hospital the day after as i needed someone to stay with me the 2nd night so dh could be at home with dd (we had no one to watch dd the 2nd night, and i had a c section so i had to stay at the hospital for 3 days) she freaked on me and told me i had no right to deny her access to her grandchild blah blah blah how could i be so selfish. i had to tell her that i would tell the nurses not to let her in the maternity ward if she came early.
this time i want her to stay with me a week after the baby is born becuz dh won't have much vacation time from work so i will still need help at home when he goes back. and as she lives 4 hours away its not like she can just come and go to help me. i'm putting off talking to her.

I agree about the clothes.. my MIL thinks charity shops..ebay(second hand).. etc etc.. is the best place.. she is LOADED.. just dont understand her... and she never asks what we need. My sister gave us the pram and cot etc ..so all the big things.. so she hasnt even had to buy anything big for us.. she just buys crap.. and knits random things!!!!!everything she gets us is on sale..or cheap.. annoys the hell out of me!

Hi ladies, I'm from first tri but next week I'll be here to join you

my MIL and mom are wonderful and supportive, its my step mom thats an issue.
first let me start by saying I'm sorry you all are going through hell and I really hope the nags get their karma back on em.
the same goes for my step mom,

1. she refuses to be there or even see the baby if my brother ( not of her blood but my mom) is there and if my mother was there. ok, I get that you don;t get along, but my mom and brother agreed to be nice because it would be the baby's big day. I find it childish she will miss my baby when he/she arrives.

2. I get scolded, chewed out and told I'm the worst and 'just like my mother' for not calling right away after an ultrasound.

3. she warns me she;ll get child services on me if i DO NOT let her have the baby at her home after the baby is born and if I do not let her take the baby for fri sat and sun. WTF?! how dare you tell me I can;t have my baby and how my child is going to be and where and when?! on top of threaten child services over my head!

4. she constantly rags and insults my mom when I visit, and then has the nerve to say " I hope MY grandchild does not look anything like her or you, i hope the baby looks like your husband. otherwise the baby is not mine"
well then fuck off you hag, go ahead and call child services, because my husband and i are fine and are in no danger of being flagged. from my point of veiw, the baby will have NOTHING to do with her at all, better for my and my child's sanity.

oh, uh, i should have also added that the point is, if the child will face emotional stress or trauma and if the mil will cause emotional distress on everyone. then don;t let her be around at all. coming from a divorced family and having gone through psychological and emotional games since I was young, its better the children not know who they are for their sake.

I am really shocked to read this, cant beleive she said this to you (child services) where do people get off?!?!?

Sorry you have to put up with that hun, thought my MIL was bad but poor u xxxxxxxxx

my MIL is much more low key. she secretes things onto my OH who thinks she is some kind of goddess!

He comes home from her house with lots of "ideas" on how we can ...paint the nursery yellow....not have an epidural.....move to her housing estate.....sell our house....

If she doesnt like something neither does he. We liked Zack as a boys name and we were pretty fixed on it. Until she told him it sounded "council estate". Now my OH doesnt like it either.

Ive decided to keep quiet now.

If she had her way we would have a canary yellow nursery with nice terracotta carpets and a teddy bear border.

ok then....