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Old Mar 7th, 2010, 13:29 PM   #11
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Mine just doesn't bother.
When OH told her she was going to be a grandma, she said congratulations, then asked how the weather was with us (we live opposite ends of the country)
She never asks how the pregnancy is progressing, never asks how I am, and has never once asked if there is anything she can get us (My parents immediatly offered to pay for the pram and car seat)
She sounds like mine! Lol! Saw here for the first time on Friday since I came out of hospital and she didn't even ask if I was OK!
Not only do I have to put up with her I also have her mother to contend with. She informed me on Friday that she will be watching me when I give birth as the baby is her first great-grandchild and she has a right to be there. I told her that she is not welcome and will be asked to leave if she arrives at the hospital. Luckily the hospital is 40 odd mile from where she lives and she doesn't drive so fingers crossed she won't show up! She also keeps touching me and I HATE IT!!! How can I get her to stop???


 
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Old Mar 7th, 2010, 13:32 PM   #12
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Mine just doesn't bother.
When OH told her she was going to be a grandma, she said congratulations, then asked how the weather was with us (we live opposite ends of the country)
She never asks how the pregnancy is progressing, never asks how I am, and has never once asked if there is anything she can get us (My parents immediatly offered to pay for the pram and car seat)
She sounds like mine! Lol! Saw here for the first time on Friday since I came out of hospital and she didn't even ask if I was OK!
Not only do I have to put up with her I also have her mother to contend with. She informed me on Friday that she will be watching me when I give birth as the baby is her first great-grandchild and she has a right to be there. I told her that she is not welcome and will be asked to leave if she arrives at the hospital. Luckily the hospital is 40 odd mile from where she lives and she doesn't drive so fingers crossed she won't show up! She also keeps touching me and I HATE IT!!! How can I get her to stop???
Hubby is under strict instructions to only call people when baby is here - NOT when I go into labour. I just know that my dad will insist on waiting at the hospital if he finds out I am in labour, and I can't cope with that!!


 
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Old Mar 7th, 2010, 13:46 PM   #13
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My MIL is not interfering so far, because we don't speak to her! She is a crazy lunatic and she broke my daughter's arm when Makena was only two years old. There is more crazy stuff that she has done, and in the past we have still welcomed her in our home despite all this, but since just before last Christmas, she has turned into a crazed woman and doesn't even make sense (going crazy?). I told her not to phone or e-mail and I told DH that I am not wasting any more of my vacation time or money visiting her and that I don't want her in our house. Her sending me a message saying I was a b*tch and cutting me out of her will (I don't care if she did, it's just that she has to go and tell me which I thought was unecessary) was the last straw. She is always trying to stir up trouble while in the past all I have done was try to keep us all getting along. I sent her a nice note once about how the kids were doing etc., and she wrote back saying my grammar was terrible. When she came out for Christmas 2008 she made me carry her bags at the stores, and carry the kids stuff, and she didn't help with the kids or anything, and when I suggested getting a shopping buggy she refused. She would rather see me struggle. When I am in a room with her and hubby isn't there is outright rude to me, but as soon as hubby comes in a room, she is sweet as pie. When she visited last, she would throw her dirty laundry on the floor in the bathroom and toss her towels in the tub, as if we were a hotel. When hubby and I were first together, she used to phone me when hubby was at work and breath heavy on the phone. After several episodes, I traced the number thorough the phone company and it came up as an Albertan number. I did not know her number at the time, just that she was from Alberta. When hubby came home, I showed him. He said it was his mother's number. He told his dad (his mom and dad are divorced) and he said that she used to do that to his mother for years when they were married!!! Now she was doing it to me. I could go on and on about how crazy she is for hours. Literally.


 
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Old Mar 7th, 2010, 13:56 PM   #14
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My mil on the whole isn't too bad. She did tell me that she planned on being there for the delivery though. When I said to her that she wouldn't be in the room there was a pause before she responded, oh no, of course not. Lol. I'm glad she lives a few hours drive away so that dh can wait until I'm pretty far progressed before he calls her to tell her I'm in labour.


 
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Old Mar 7th, 2010, 14:41 PM   #15
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My MIL seems to think that once I go back to work the baby will live with her through the week and that I will come see my baby on the weekends when I'm not working. Um..NO! First thing, she lives over 2 hours away from me. Secondly, I feel like someone who is divorced being allowed visitation on the weekend. My baby will live with hubby and me! It just annoys the crap out of me that she even thinks this is an option.

She also has in her head that we are going to move to the city they live in to be closer. That won't be happening either since hubby and I have well established careers and our own home here!

Sometimes I want to rip my hair out.


 
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Old Mar 7th, 2010, 16:04 PM   #16
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My MIL seems to think that once I go back to work the baby will live with her through the week and that I will come see my baby on the weekends when I'm not working. Um..NO! First thing, she lives over 2 hours away from me. Secondly, I feel like someone who is divorced being allowed visitation on the weekend. My baby will live with hubby and me! It just annoys the crap out of me that she even thinks this is an option.

She also has in her head that we are going to move to the city they live in to be closer. That won't be happening either since hubby and I have well established careers and our own home here!

Sometimes I want to rip my hair out.
Wow! That is crazy! If she wants to be closer tell her she can move to your city.

You're on the way to my mil's house (she's in Sarnia). I think she'd love if we moved closer but we like Toronto and then we'd be even further from my parents (they live in Sudbury).


 
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Old Mar 7th, 2010, 16:11 PM   #17
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my MIL puts OHs ex WAY before me and calls her daughter and everything, its like HELLO i am the one carrying your grandchild not her. also she has never once asked about my pregnancy and according to his ex wants nothing to do with me or my child. oh well im pretty sure i will live without her lol


 
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Old Mar 7th, 2010, 18:14 PM   #18
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Luckily my MIL has always kept her distance. WE are friendly, yet not close. Only thing with this one because we said it was out last is she wants a girl and let that be known. It doesnt bug me though.


 
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Old Mar 7th, 2010, 18:23 PM   #19
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Thats not so bad honey..It could be sooo much worse..Trust me...

I lost my first pregnancy & she didn't call the entire two weeks I spent in the hospital and when my boyfriend (now my husband) finally did call her to find out why she has some very nasty things to say... then she convinced her son that although at the time I had no car, no health insurance, was barely 21, & no job I must have been on fertility drugs to trap him into getting me knocked up ((did I mention at the time we were dating 6 years with no accidents?)) & she schemes with one of your hubbys married wives to get you out of the picture... succeeds only to have now hubby find out what she did and fix things.. three years later marry him, still being at odds with her.. have another miscarriage although this child planned...than have her act like she has no sympathy & appear to be on cloud 9 that you lost the baby.. then tell her your pregnant again only to have her simply sigh into the phone and show no excitement whatsoever questioning our motives...married.. been together 10 years and she acts like shes an ex girlfriend trying to win him over rather than a mother...At least now she puts on a fake smile..But I would do anything in this world to have her truly love me...I could even forgive all that if i knew for one second that she was capable of empathy or love for anyone but herself


 
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Old Mar 8th, 2010, 08:22 AM   #20
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Thats not so bad honey..It could be sooo much worse..Trust me...

I lost my first pregnancy & she didn't call the entire two weeks I spent in the hospital and when my boyfriend (now my husband) finally did call her to find out why she has some very nasty things to say... then she convinced her son that although at the time I had no car, no health insurance, was barely 21, & no job I must have been on fertility drugs to trap him into getting me knocked up ((did I mention at the time we were dating 6 years with no accidents?)) & she schemes with one of your hubbys married wives to get you out of the picture... succeeds only to have now hubby find out what she did and fix things.. three years later marry him, still being at odds with her.. have another miscarriage although this child planned...than have her act like she has no sympathy & appear to be on cloud 9 that you lost the baby.. then tell her your pregnant again only to have her simply sigh into the phone and show no excitement whatsoever questioning our motives...married.. been together 10 years and she acts like shes an ex girlfriend trying to win him over rather than a mother...At least now she puts on a fake smile..But I would do anything in this world to have her truly love me...I could even forgive all that if i knew for one second that she was capable of empathy or love for anyone but herself
sounds like my mil hun, sometimes it feels like no matter what we do its wrong

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