...say nothing at all!!

I am so annoyed and so angry right now I just had to rant for a bit!! Why can't people just stay positive and be nice and be supportive?? Is that too much to ask!???

I had changed my Facebook status to, how I was tired but getting there...because i'm halfway there now! And my aunt commented on it and said..

'if only you could get a crystal ball and look into the future, you would lie on your bed - gaze at the ceiling - think beautiful thoughts and think to yourself 'what a blissful time this is' (read this again in August while you are crazed from lack of sleep)'

Basically indicating... come August, when i'm looking after my little baby, id wish I hadn't of been pregnant in the first place. Yes I am aware that I may have SOME lack of sleep because I am looking after my lovely little baby... but god, it'll be so worth it...

She has had nothing positive to say about my pregnancy and has not once commented on anything else to do with me being pregnant.

I am fricken annoyed!!!

Sorry... just had to rant....x

I deleted my sister-in-law for the exact same reason. You know, you can block her (and just her) from commenting. She can still read, but won't be able to post. I just deleted my sister-in-law because she never had anything nice to say, ever, about anything. Who needs that? I would just delete her insensitive comment, hopefully that will send the message accross that it was unwelcome at least. PS...congrats on being halfway! MILESTONE!!!

Thanks Jasmak : )

I know... I was talking to my mother about her earlier in the week and my mum was kinda annoyed at her lack of support for me too. She has just come across as very very nosey when talking to my mum... then that status comment just pissed me right off... I commented back saying

' haha no doubt I'll be even more tired come August, but being pregnant tires you as well - compared to when I wasn't pregnant!

I'm sure I'll be feeling just as blissful come August and I have a lovely little healthy baby of my own! The lack of sleep will be well worth it then!x'

I know I didn't intend on being pregnant at this stage of my life, or be single and pregnant, but this is life. And this is what was written for me.. and you just have to embrace it. I don't need to negativitiy. I need the support!

She is being blocked in the morning!!!

Grrrrrrr.... xxx

Good for you! You are right, you need support. So surround yourself with supportive people who care. If she wants to know why you blocked her, tell her that.

I hear alot of comments about me being tired out now "well wait until August when you can't sleep you will wish you were back to being pregnant, you wont know what hit you" it annoys me as well, as if I am in some sort of deluded world where my baby will sleep all threw the night when I do, I don't even bother explaining that I have no false pretenses about being a mother!.

Isn't it frustrating how people seem to assume you just thought having a baby was a bed of roses? I've felt pretty patronised by some people's comments, like we just decided to have a baby without thinking it through like I thought I'd just be pregnant and after 9 months everything would go back to normal, but I'd have a new dolly to play with!! It's really aggravating.

Your response was very controlled I just tell people that we KNOW parenting is going to be tiring and stressful, but it will also be one of the most rewarding things we will do with our lives, as we've always wanted to be parents.

xx

Great response to a stupid comment Rachel! I'm already sick of my sil telling me how it'll be during labour (she doesn't think I'll be able to have a natural birth because she couldn't handle the pain and needed an epidural) or that I will have trouble breastfeeding because she did. I'm NOT her! She even asked me last night if my milk had come in yet and seemed surprised when I said no, but I'm only 19 weeks for crying out loud! Sorry to take over your rant and have a rant of my own lol.

See I didn't take it the way you did, I thought she meant, since your Tired NOW, wait till August and you will see being 22wks as blissful as you will really know tired once bubs is here.

I didn't take her comment as you would wish you never had been pregnant and had him.

I really thought she meant you laying on the bed NOW with a crystal ball and watch all the sleepless nights and days of screaming with a teething baby and you will look at 22wks pregnant as being blissful.

posts and comments can really be taken the wrong way at times as it is hard to see the persons face and emotions.

I am still thinking she meant it as a playful fun comment not a hurtful one.

I interpreted as you did, but not in a playful kind of way. I find it condescending when people tell me when I say I'm tired now that I'll really find out once the baby is here. Of course we know that baby will keep us up at night, but that doesn't mean we don't feel tired now. It drives me crazy when people blow off how we (pregnant ladies) feel now because we're only just pregnant, we don't have the baby yet.

In what to expect when you are expecting book, in the guy's section it says that a pregnant woman sitting on the couch expends more energy than a man working out in the gym...so yes...it is tiring. I am a mom...and yes, the early days are tiring...but, you know...you don't care! It's your baby. I think it's harder being pregnant because there is so many physical side effects that goes along with it. And yes, it's not like we are freaking clueless going into this!