If you can't say anything nice - Page 3

moomin_troll · Mar 6th, 2010, 10:16 AM

i think ur auntie was just pointed out that being pregnant isnt as hard as looking after a baby not that u shudnt of got pregnant.

being pregnant is difficult dont get me wrong i was so tired and ill all the way thru and when i got big it was so frustrating, but then when zane was afew weeks old and i was getting no sleep at all i did think oh i wish i was pregnant again so i could just go have a bath by myself or just sleep.

make the most of ur free time while u still can and make the most of sleeping is the advice i give to my pregnant friends

Rachel_ni · Mar 6th, 2010, 10:20 AM

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i think ur auntie was just pointed out that being pregnant isnt as hard as looking after a baby not that u shudnt of got pregnant.

being pregnant is difficult dont get me wrong i was so tired and ill all the way thru and when i got big it was so frustrating, but then when zane was afew weeks old and i was getting no sleep at all i did think oh i wish i was pregnant again so i could just go have a bath by myself or just sleep.

make the most of ur free time while u still can and make the most of sleeping is the advice i give to my pregnant friends

Thanks for the advice moomin! My aunt is just very old fashioned and I think she had bad experiences with her early pregnancies and it left her quite traumatised...

I am completely looking forward to the babies arrival, and no doubt I'll be more tired after baby arrives... well until they're are settled and in a routine, and if not, so be it.. i'll be tired for a little longer. I was just kinda commenting on the fact I didn't realise just BEING pregnant tired you out...

Roll on the end of July!

x

moomin_troll · Mar 6th, 2010, 10:27 AM

it is very suprising how pregnancy does drain u out.

zanes a bad sleeper so im unlucky in that sence but the lack of sleep is totaly worth it...sometimes hahaha

my mum was horrible to me while i was pregnant n straight after i had zane. we had to stay with my mum after zane was born as there was a leak in my flat.

zane was a day old and i was beyond sore and trying to bf when my mum came in n shouted at me that i hadnt cleaned her house! i had only used one room n it wasnt even a mess. this really upset me and ile never forgive her for it. she also made digs about wen i started my mat leave n that she was at work the day she went into labour with my sister ect

i was like ok thats u not me so back off well i didnt say back off lol but u get the idea hahaha

bunnyg82 · Mar 6th, 2010, 11:19 AM

Argghh so annoyin! It's like we can't possibly be tired now!! Everyone says about how to make the most of sleep now as I won't get any. But actually it's a struggle to get sleep! Pregnancy is hardly a comfortable time is it! I wish people would just shut up if they can't be constructive!! x

Rachel_ni · Mar 6th, 2010, 13:26 PM

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Argghh so annoyin! It's like we can't possibly be tired now!! Everyone says about how to make the most of sleep now as I won't get any. But actually it's a struggle to get sleep! Pregnancy is hardly a comfortable time is it! I wish people would just shut up if they can't be constructive!! x

Thanks Bunny!

Pregnancy is different for all people. Some love it, embrace it, and long for it to last longer. Others count the days and minutes until little one is born and some just have bad experiences. With it being my first baby I am learning every day what pregnancy has to offer... I am thoroughly enjoying my pregnant life, but I was shocked at how tiresome it is creating a little life! It was unexpected! This was what I meant at the very start... !

I just don't appreciate 'know it alls' who feel they have a right to be constantly negative instead of sticking to the positives of a pregnancy. We all know our life's have changed as we know it. Some of us will have sleepless nights for months, others for weeks... it just depends on the child. Right now it is my decision that I don't have any other kids for quite some time until this little one has grown up a little. Other people like to have kids within a few years apart, that is completely up to them, and of course that will be a lot more tiresome, but sure that's up to them!

xxx

BigMumma01 · Mar 6th, 2010, 13:36 PM

People think especially with your 1st that you are so niave.. and have no idea what having a baby involves.. they treat u like a complete idiot!! Really frustrates me..
I have fallen out with friends..family.. all because they like to chip there 2 penny worth in. I have my sister (who knows it all) over tomorrow.. she was so sick with her first and was signed off the whole time from work...i have been signed off for 2 weeks cos i hvae a water infection and a slight pain.. and she was laughing the other day saying " oh u dont know what pain is yet!! you really need to realise that you hvae to just get on with things, when your pregnant with your second you cant just sit and wallo".. i hvae her over mine tomorrow ... JOYs...i love her to bits.. but god im preparing myself for the WORDS OF WISDOM.. and what else im doing wrong!!!! SYMPATHY PLEASE... xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Rachel_ni · Mar 6th, 2010, 13:44 PM

Big Mumma... I know! My sister has 2 kids of her own... completely her own choice.. so I can't see how she has the right to complain about having to look after two! Yes, it must be hard looking after more than one child, but it was her decision and I am sure she thought about this before falling pregnant!

What everyone needs to remember is that, EVERYONE has been a first time mother before... and I think they need to take a step back and remember that, and remember how they felt experience the highs and lows of pregnancy!!x

BigMumma01 · Mar 6th, 2010, 13:48 PM

Oh so agree with u babe..
bloody mums..hahahah.. u do realise new mums are going to be moaning about us in a few years time..
we will be the ones going on at them!! hahaha

bek74 · Mar 6th, 2010, 17:36 PM

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...say nothing at all!!

Facebook status to, how I was tired but getting there...because i'm halfway there now!
'if only you could get a crystal ball and look into the future, you would lie on your bed - gaze at the ceiling - think beautiful thoughts and think to yourself 'what a blissful time this is' (read this again in August while you are crazed from lack of sleep)'

Basically indicating... come August, when i'm looking after my little baby, id wish I hadn't of been pregnant in the first place. Yes I am aware that I may have SOME lack of sleep because I am looking after my lovely little baby... but god, it'll be so worth it...

See I didn't take it the way you did, I thought she meant, since your Tired NOW, wait till August and you will see being 22wks as blissful as you will really know tired once bubs is here.

I didn't take her comment as you would wish you never had been pregnant and had him.

I really thought she meant you laying on the bed NOW with a crystal ball and watch all the sleepless nights and days of screaming with a teething baby and you will look at 22wks pregnant as being blissful.

posts and comments can really be taken the wrong way at times as it is hard to see the persons face and emotions.

I am still thinking she meant it as a playful fun comment not a hurtful one.

I interpreted as you did, but not in a playful kind of way. I find it condescending when people tell me when I say I'm tired now that I'll really find out once the baby is here. Of course we know that baby will keep us up at night, but that doesn't mean we don't feel tired now. It drives me crazy when people blow off how we (pregnant ladies) feel now because we're only just pregnant, we don't have the baby yet.

See I am the opposite, I find it annoying and irritating listening to 1st time mums bitch and whine about how tired they are. Yes we get tired, it's part and parcel with being pregnant, but my gosh some women complain and I think here I am 36 pregnant with twins, I have 3 sons I run around after, to and from school, to and from footy games and footy training, helping with homework, caring for my youngest who only does 2.5hrs a day at school 3 days a week as he is ASD, manage to keep my home clean and tidy, washing and ironing done, cooking and helping in the schools canteen, and everything else that comes with being a mum.

Sure they are older now, but I had 3 sons under the age of 4 and if I was to compare how tired I was when pregnant to how tired I was tending to 3 boys, being pregnant was a breeze.

Alot of 1st times mum bitch and whine about how tired they are and that they had to have a nap during the day, well the truth be told that tired feeling they feel now, is nothing compared to how tired they will feel when bubs arrives because you have the constant broken sleep and you don't tend to get to nap through the day to recharge.

I for one don't make the, what till baby is born comment because as soon as a pregnant women starts about how tired they are etc etc I just switch off.

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In what to expect when you are expecting book, in the guy's section it says that a pregnant woman sitting on the couch expends more energy than a man working out in the gym...so yes...it is tiring. I am a mom...and yes, the early days are tiring...but, you know...you don't care! It's your baby. I think it's harder being pregnant because there is so many physical side effects that goes along with it. And yes, it's not like we are freaking clueless going into this!

I read that in my book and hubby said " my gosh, wonder how much energy your body is using growing two"
I eat well to keep my energy level up and I go to bed early to make sure i get a decent sleep. Most nights I am still up peeing or just uncomfortable but I am lucky enough to be able to get straight back to sleep.

I think you were very lucky to only have had sleepless nights and tired days in the begining, as I found it lasted for almost 2yrs. With the middle of night and early feeds, then onto the teething nights and days, then into the bad dreams phase and then when they had a temp and ear infection, I really found the 1st 2yrs were very busy and very tiring.

I have days where I swear I don't wanna get out of bed as I am tired, but my gosh I am enjoying being pregnant as I know exactly what is involved with one baby, and 3 under 4 so Twins is going to be zombie mode, so I am not at all complaining now about how tired or uncomfortable I am as I know what is install and as much as I am looking forward to it and I know every ounce of sleep lost is totally worth I will just enjoy each day of my pregnancy for now.

Hmmmm.... I am sorry, I didn't know first time mothers were not allowed to express how tired they were?!?!

I am sure you are tired looking after all your children and being pregnant as well. I was merely saying that I am more tired now as to what I was when I wasn't pregnant. I have nothing to compare this to, unlike yourself. I am sure you can look back and remember how you felt when you were pregnant with your first????!!???

Some woman look back and think of their pregnancy as being blissful, others prefer to look after a newly born than go back to their pregnant ways. It is all about preference.

It is indeed not a competition. And I am dreadfully sorry you have to deal with 'first time mothers bitching' - maybe you should just switch off.

I didn't say 1st time mums or 2nd or 3rd or what ever don't get tired, reread my post hun, Being tired is part and parcel with pregnancy, they go hand in hand as does being a mother.
Most of you comment on how you find it irritating when people say " well wait till baby is here and then you will know tired" most of the responses I have read have said " well we know we will be tired, we aren't idiots but it is all worth it".
What none of you knew you would be tired when pregnant?

it isn't about it being a competition and by those who made that comment your really showing your immaturity, it isn't about me looking back and finding my pregnancy a breeze, it is looking back to throwing up, getting up a dozen times to pee through the night and my tired days as being a breeze compared to once bubs was born.
If you all want to read into it more than what is there, then go for it.

I made my comment and I clearly stated it wasn't directed towards any post in this thread, yet people still took it personal, maybe it has some truth to it and touched a nerve in some.

MrsGlitz · Mar 6th, 2010, 18:01 PM

I am a first timer and have actually been very surprised a how tiring I have found pregnancy. Of course I know I will have sleepless nights once my baby is here but I didn't know the sleepless nights would start before or that I would find walking even popping to the local shop for essentials exhausting, but then I didn't know that I would suffer terribly with SPD to the extent that I haven't worked since I was 22 weeks and have been on crutches.

Mar 6th, 2010, 10:16 AM	#21
moomin_troll Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: staffordshire Posts: 14,583	i think ur auntie was just pointed out that being pregnant isnt as hard as looking after a baby not that u shudnt of got pregnant. being pregnant is difficult dont get me wrong i was so tired and ill all the way thru and when i got big it was so frustrating, but then when zane was afew weeks old and i was getting no sleep at all i did think oh i wish i was pregnant again so i could just go have a bath by myself or just sleep. make the most of ur free time while u still can and make the most of sleeping is the advice i give to my pregnant friends

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Mar 6th, 2010, 10:27 AM	#23
moomin_troll Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: staffordshire Posts: 14,583	it is very suprising how pregnancy does drain u out. zanes a bad sleeper so im unlucky in that sence but the lack of sleep is totaly worth it...sometimes hahaha my mum was horrible to me while i was pregnant n straight after i had zane. we had to stay with my mum after zane was born as there was a leak in my flat. zane was a day old and i was beyond sore and trying to bf when my mum came in n shouted at me that i hadnt cleaned her house! i had only used one room n it wasnt even a mess. this really upset me and ile never forgive her for it. she also made digs about wen i started my mat leave n that she was at work the day she went into labour with my sister ect i was like ok thats u not me so back off well i didnt say back off lol but u get the idea hahaha

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Mar 6th, 2010, 11:19 AM	#24
bunnyg82 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 7,543	Argghh so annoyin! It's like we can't possibly be tired now!! Everyone says about how to make the most of sleep now as I won't get any. But actually it's a struggle to get sleep! Pregnancy is hardly a comfortable time is it! I wish people would just shut up if they can't be constructive!! x

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Mar 6th, 2010, 13:36 PM	#26
BigMumma01 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 1,125	People think especially with your 1st that you are so niave.. and have no idea what having a baby involves.. they treat u like a complete idiot!! Really frustrates me.. I have fallen out with friends..family.. all because they like to chip there 2 penny worth in. I have my sister (who knows it all) over tomorrow.. she was so sick with her first and was signed off the whole time from work...i have been signed off for 2 weeks cos i hvae a water infection and a slight pain.. and she was laughing the other day saying " oh u dont know what pain is yet!! you really need to realise that you hvae to just get on with things, when your pregnant with your second you cant just sit and wallo".. i hvae her over mine tomorrow ... JOYs...i love her to bits.. but god im preparing myself for the WORDS OF WISDOM.. and what else im doing wrong!!!! SYMPATHY PLEASE... xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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Mar 6th, 2010, 13:44 PM	#27
Rachel_ni Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 178	Big Mumma... I know! My sister has 2 kids of her own... completely her own choice.. so I can't see how she has the right to complain about having to look after two! Yes, it must be hard looking after more than one child, but it was her decision and I am sure she thought about this before falling pregnant! What everyone needs to remember is that, EVERYONE has been a first time mother before... and I think they need to take a step back and remember that, and remember how they felt experience the highs and lows of pregnancy!!x

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BigMumma01 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 1,125	Oh so agree with u babe.. bloody mums..hahahah.. u do realise new mums are going to be moaning about us in a few years time.. we will be the ones going on at them!! hahaha

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MrsGlitz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Bournemouth, Dorset Posts: 3,150	I am a first timer and have actually been very surprised a how tiring I have found pregnancy. Of course I know I will have sleepless nights once my baby is here but I didn't know the sleepless nights would start before or that I would find walking even popping to the local shop for essentials exhausting, but then I didn't know that I would suffer terribly with SPD to the extent that I haven't worked since I was 22 weeks and have been on crutches.

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