See I am the opposite, I find it annoying and irritating listening to 1st time mums bitch and whine about how tired they are. Yes we get tired, it's part and parcel with being pregnant, but my gosh some women complain and I think here I am 36 pregnant with twins, I have 3 sons I run around after, to and from school, to and from footy games and footy training, helping with homework, caring for my youngest who only does 2.5hrs a day at school 3 days a week as he is ASD, manage to keep my home clean and tidy, washing and ironing done, cooking and helping in the schools canteen, and everything else that comes with being a mum.

Sure they are older now, but I had 3 sons under the age of 4 and if I was to compare how tired I was when pregnant to how tired I was tending to 3 boys, being pregnant was a breeze.

Alot of 1st times mum bitch and whine about how tired they are and that they had to have a nap during the day, well the truth be told that tired feeling they feel now, is nothing compared to how tired they will feel when bubs arrives because you have the constant broken sleep and you don't tend to get to nap through the day to recharge.

I for one don't make the, what till baby is born comment because as soon as a pregnant women starts about how tired they are etc etc I just switch off.


I read that in my book and hubby said " my gosh, wonder how much energy your body is using growing two"
I eat well to keep my energy level up and I go to bed early to make sure i get a decent sleep. Most nights I am still up peeing or just uncomfortable but I am lucky enough to be able to get straight back to sleep.

I think you were very lucky to only have had sleepless nights and tired days in the begining, as I found it lasted for almost 2yrs. With the middle of night and early feeds, then onto the teething nights and days, then into the bad dreams phase and then when they had a temp and ear infection, I really found the 1st 2yrs were very busy and very tiring.

I have days where I swear I don't wanna get out of bed as I am tired, but my gosh I am enjoying being pregnant as I know exactly what is involved with one baby, and 3 under 4 so Twins is going to be zombie mode, so I am not at all complaining now about how tired or uncomfortable I am as I know what is install and as much as I am looking forward to it and I know every ounce of sleep lost is totally worth I will just enjoy each day of my pregnancy for now.

trust me...I still have sleepless nights. I just found it harder in the beginning...and before Makena was diagnosed (she has autism) we just didn't have the knowledge to help her, so that was very hard. We had some very difficult years, but I have very very tough pregnancies...so, for me, it is very hard. Very hard. When the baby comes out...there is that complete and total lack of sleep and being a zombie...but, being in Canada...that is all I have to do. I get a year off. So...it balances. This one will be alot like my first again and both my 5 year old and 6 year old will be in school full-time...so I can literally nap when the baby naps...that will be nice. But, you know...it will all be OK. My motto is "go with the flow".

I am sure you will be tired beyond belief Bek...my mom told me she doesn't even remember the first three months (my sister and I are identical twins), but then she said it gets easier because we would entertain each other...and then my mom would have to entertain my older brother because he was all by himself. I think she had an au pair for awhile because my sister and I were so time consuming.

Another ASD Baby, they are alot of work aren't they hun. My youngest also has HIGH Anxiety and he throws up constantly with it, it is usually brought on by school or going to peoples houses and not just everyday stuff, but still it is tiring and that is also another reason he has limited school hours, he is also ADHD so when home the child doesn't stop, no day naps for me

My post isn't to mums who have hard pregnancies (or the OP) as I know you do, and to those who just throw up the whole time and all the other medical issues that can arise with being pregnant. My comment was based to the mums who have a normal pregnancy with minimal issues yet still complain about how tired they are and that they couldn't even get off the lounge or cook dinner etc. I just find that so lazy and irritating, heaven help their 1st born if they fall pregnant with a 2nd because attending to a toddler and being pregnant is a whole other thread.

I just think some 1st time mums complain and are looking for that extra attention, that is what I find irritating.

My post isn't directed to anyones post here it is just a comment and what I find frustrating and irritating.

Wow. I don't think this is a competition.

It's all relative.

I'm a first time mum - first pregancy, work full time, no other kiddies to look after, an attentive hubby who dotes on me. Extremely lucky I know. But. Having said that I do get tired. This isn't me bitching and moaning, this is me being truthful. I don't let it get in the way, I don't go round telling people about it, my stock response when people ask me how I am feeling is 'brilliant, loving every minute' because that's true - people don't need to know about the fact I have constipation, trouble sleeping becasue of multiple wees during the night or feel hungry ALLLL the time. But I don't have anything to compare it to, other than not being pregnant.

I think it's unfair to compare being a full time mum with 4 or 5 kids to being a first time mum - I think you do an amazing job I truly do - and I admire you, I hope to have a big family if I haven't left it too late - but it doesn't pay to have one-upmanship or 'I have it worse than you'.

JMHO.

I agree....every pregnancy is different.

Some people are just bitter old bags. I know the type.

Assuming she's had children of her own and so isn't being jealous x

sounds like my auntie tbh, when i was about 20weeks with leyla i told her i was having my scan and gna find out the sex of the baby and she was like 'oh ffs does it matter? surely you just want to know if the baby's healthy!' well yes of course i do!!! but i think im entitled to get a bit excited about my gender scan you stupid idiot!!!

it used to really piss me off whenp eople used to always say oooh you'll be more tired when you have the baby you know, and i used to just nod and smile but i have owned them because leyla is the calmest, sleepiest child ive ever known haha, she pretty much naps all day or is happy to just sit on the floor in a pile of toys lol, and then still sleeps all night, now im pregnant again i get 'ohh youve had one easy baby, this ones gna be a nightmare!!!!' SHUT UP!! some people are just idiots

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Hey guys!!! I enjoyed reading through all your responses to my nosey aunts comment!! I know that the comment can be percieved in different ways, but you need to know my aunt to know what way the comment was to make me feel.

I am aware that I will be tired once baby comes, and I know it will be tough... but I don't appreciate negativity in my pregnancy and people only concentrating on the negativity. I am just trying to stay positive!!x

And you do right to stay positive! It's your unique experience, only you know how you feel, and no doubt you're happy every minute of every day, whether tired or bounding with energy.

Good on you! xx

Hmmmm.... I am sorry, I didn't know first time mothers were not allowed to express how tired they were?!?!

I am sure you are tired looking after all your children and being pregnant as well. I was merely saying that I am more tired now as to what I was when I wasn't pregnant. I have nothing to compare this to, unlike yourself. I am sure you can look back and remember how you felt when you were pregnant with your first????!!???

Some woman look back and think of their pregnancy as being blissful, others prefer to look after a newly born than go back to their pregnant ways. It is all about preference.

It is indeed not a competition. And I am dreadfully sorry you have to deal with 'first time mothers bitching' - maybe you should just switch off.