My Best Friend upset me today, am I just being Touchy!!

karenmack · Mar 5th, 2010, 07:58 AM

Hi have been at work this morning and my best friend works there as well so anyway we were chatting and I mentioned the baby and instead of saying baby i called him his name that we have decided on, which to be honest comes quite naturally now as when me and Hubby talk about him we say his name. When I did this straight away she turned round and said 'don't say his name, i don't like it when people do that. You have given him an identity and he is not even here yet so you shouldn't do that and I don't like it'

So am i being touchy being offended he is my baby and has a name, I feel him moving and wriggling etc so he is here and why shouldn't he have an identity??? Does anyone else whos babies have names call them by their name or is it just me

AtomicPink · Mar 5th, 2010, 08:00 AM

jeez, shes got issues!

I had the name before she was born, although i didnt tell many what it would be, I felt i preferred baby having an identity, it was more real to me, and i didnt have to call the baby "it"

LulaBug · Mar 5th, 2010, 08:01 AM

Tell her to get stuffed, if she don't like it, tough!!

I call Ethan by his name and he's not born yet, it's my way of bonding with him. For weeks I had to call him "It" or "Bump" and it would have totally defeated the object for me of finding out the gender only to carry on. We chose a name and we call him by it. For he is a person, he's just growing so he can be born when the time is right.

Tell her you don't like her snotty attitude, he's your baby and you'll call him by his name if you want.

xxx

roc · Mar 5th, 2010, 08:05 AM

How out of line!
It's not her place to tell what you can and can't do with regards to your own child!!
My hubby and i always call our lo by his name, though we're not telling anyone until he's born,but he most definately has an identity to us, just because he's on the inside instead of the outside, doesn't make him any less 'here', just like your baby!
Is she perhaps a bit jealous?

karenmack · Mar 5th, 2010, 08:09 AM

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Originally Posted by roc

How out of line!
It's not her place to tell what you can and can't do with regards to your own child!!
My hubby and i always call our lo by his name, though we're not telling anyone until he's born,but he most definately has an identity to us, just because he's on the inside instead of the outside, doesn't make him any less 'here', just like your baby!
Is she perhaps a bit jealous?

Thanks everyone I was so gobsmacked when she said it I just did not know what to say or do!! There may be a little bit of jealously there, not sure I know she is very broody and everyone seems to be having babies at the moment who are mutual friends!
Didn't think I was being touchy, I thought it was out of line just expect better support from your best friend xx

Linz88 · Mar 5th, 2010, 08:15 AM

omg how rude.. shes probably just jealous..
does she want you to say it, or he/she for the next 16 weeks..
your babys viable now or wil be in a cuple weeks soo he should have an identity xxx
call

Janidog · Mar 5th, 2010, 08:19 AM

Its amazing what people say!!! When my FIL found out that my SIL was expecting a little boy, he told some of his friends and they had a right go at him for telling people the sex of the baby, and that he shouldn't have said anything until the baby is born, he stood there quite shocked

binxyboo · Mar 5th, 2010, 08:29 AM

The biggest reason we found out the sex of our baby is because we hated the fact that 'It' was a non-entity.
We wanted to start bonding and calling our little boy by his name.

Your friend is the one with the issues - not you. You carry on calling YOUR baby what you want and ignore her insensitive comments.

Delamere19 · Mar 5th, 2010, 08:56 AM

I think that I it's totally up to you if you choose to call your baby by the name they will be. No one has the right to tell you otherwise!

I have some one at work who tends to say things out of order! She said to me that I just look like I have eaten too many pies cos my bump isnt round yet. She is def jealous cos she is trying for a baby. Some people just get me mad wen they come out with comments that are offensive!

lili24 · Mar 5th, 2010, 09:01 AM

How cheeky! Of course your baby has an identity, he is a person and part of your family!

We call our baby by her name, if someone doesn't like it I will tell them what to do!

Mar 5th, 2010, 07:58 AM	#1
karenmack Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Rutland, UK Posts: 433	My Best Friend upset me today, am I just being Touchy!! Hi have been at work this morning and my best friend works there as well so anyway we were chatting and I mentioned the baby and instead of saying baby i called him his name that we have decided on, which to be honest comes quite naturally now as when me and Hubby talk about him we say his name. When I did this straight away she turned round and said 'don't say his name, i don't like it when people do that. You have given him an identity and he is not even here yet so you shouldn't do that and I don't like it' So am i being touchy being offended he is my baby and has a name, I feel him moving and wriggling etc so he is here and why shouldn't he have an identity??? Does anyone else whos babies have names call them by their name or is it just me

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AtomicPink Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 19,129	jeez, shes got issues! I had the name before she was born, although i didnt tell many what it would be, I felt i preferred baby having an identity, it was more real to me, and i didnt have to call the baby "it"

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LulaBug Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Kent Posts: 2,115	Tell her to get stuffed, if she don't like it, tough!! I call Ethan by his name and he's not born yet, it's my way of bonding with him. For weeks I had to call him "It" or "Bump" and it would have totally defeated the object for me of finding out the gender only to carry on. We chose a name and we call him by it. For he is a person, he's just growing so he can be born when the time is right. Tell her you don't like her snotty attitude, he's your baby and you'll call him by his name if you want. xxx

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Mar 5th, 2010, 08:05 AM	#4
roc Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Cheshire Posts: 659	How out of line! It's not her place to tell what you can and can't do with regards to your own child!! My hubby and i always call our lo by his name, though we're not telling anyone until he's born,but he most definately has an identity to us, just because he's on the inside instead of the outside, doesn't make him any less 'here', just like your baby! Is she perhaps a bit jealous?

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Linz88 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: West Brom\Bham, Uk Posts: 1,679	omg how rude.. shes probably just jealous.. does she want you to say it, or he/she for the next 16 weeks.. your babys viable now or wil be in a cuple weeks soo he should have an identity xxx call

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Janidog Waiting To Try (WTT) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: West Midlands Posts: 2,412	Its amazing what people say!!! When my FIL found out that my SIL was expecting a little boy, he told some of his friends and they had a right go at him for telling people the sex of the baby, and that he shouldn't have said anything until the baby is born, he stood there quite shocked

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Mar 5th, 2010, 08:29 AM	#8
binxyboo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Hampshire. UK Posts: 3,775	The biggest reason we found out the sex of our baby is because we hated the fact that 'It' was a non-entity. We wanted to start bonding and calling our little boy by his name. Your friend is the one with the issues - not you. You carry on calling YOUR baby what you want and ignore her insensitive comments.

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Mar 5th, 2010, 08:56 AM	#9
Delamere19 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Lancashire UK Posts: 1,157	I think that I it's totally up to you if you choose to call your baby by the name they will be. No one has the right to tell you otherwise! I have some one at work who tends to say things out of order! She said to me that I just look like I have eaten too many pies cos my bump isnt round yet. She is def jealous cos she is trying for a baby. Some people just get me mad wen they come out with comments that are offensive!

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Mar 5th, 2010, 09:01 AM	#10
lili24 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 3,366	How cheeky! Of course your baby has an identity, he is a person and part of your family! We call our baby by her name, if someone doesn't like it I will tell them what to do!

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