My Best Friend upset me today, am I just being Touchy! - Page 3

RHR · Mar 5th, 2010, 10:41 AM

My goodness how rude.

A friend of mine found out what sex her bump was and called him by his name when he wriggled. everyone where I worked thought it was lovely that she was calling him by his name. I think it's lovely.

I don't know what sex my lo is, but if we did me and my partner would call him/her by his/her name, even if it was just amongst ourselves.

mordino · Mar 5th, 2010, 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by karenmack

Hi have been at work this morning and my best friend works there as well so anyway we were chatting and I mentioned the baby and instead of saying baby i called him his name that we have decided on, which to be honest comes quite naturally now as when me and Hubby talk about him we say his name. When I did this straight away she turned round and said 'don't say his name, i don't like it when people do that. You have given him an identity and he is not even here yet so you shouldn't do that and I don't like it'
So am i being touchy being offended he is my baby and has a name, I feel him moving and wriggling etc so he is here and why shouldn't he have an identity??? Does anyone else whos babies have names call them by their name or is it just me

What kind of a friend is she?

Just because she does not like it does not mean you should not do it. Why should she expect you to care how she feels when she does not care about your feelings?!

Did she expect you to stop doing it to make her happy?

ellienellie · Mar 5th, 2010, 12:23 PM

No hun, I don't think you are being touchy at all. She has some sort of weird issue I guess? IMHO I think she's talking utter nonsense (sorry - I know she's your friend) x

dizzy65 · Mar 5th, 2010, 12:26 PM

id defantly be offended by that

Taz · Mar 5th, 2010, 14:01 PM

Awww chick take no notice of her. Tell her if she doesn't like it then don't listen but keep her opinions to herself.

I call my LO by his name and so does my partner my MIL has actually put on her calendar his due date JJ Day so even family use his name!!!

scotsgirl · Mar 5th, 2010, 14:33 PM

now im not one to condone violence... but i would have bloody slapped her!!! what a cheek!!

all of my family call my bump by name and so does my little boy. your definately not being over sensitive huni and i personally would deliberately call your bump by name in front of her and if she commented let rip xxx

JadeyB · Mar 5th, 2010, 18:34 PM

Hey honey,

I would call our bubs by his name, if we had decided on it - lol!

He would get confused at the mo as our favourite name changes week on week!

xx

rainbows_x · Mar 5th, 2010, 19:21 PM

It's your baby, you have a right to call him his name!
I would be upset by this too!

Joyzerelly · Mar 5th, 2010, 21:00 PM

No, I don't think you're bring touchy, she sounds very rude. She should keep her opinions to herself.

bky · Mar 6th, 2010, 00:35 AM

I don't think she has any right to say what you should/should not do or say about your baby. That said, I can't quite bring myself to call mine 'she' regularly yet, let alone the name we will probably use (I'm not settled yet in case the name doesn't suit when she comes out). I'm too shy for some reason to tell our family the names we've picked (OH makes fun of me for this, but I don't see him telling them either!). I still wouldn't tell anyone they shouldn't use names for their unborn babies though.

Mar 5th, 2010, 10:41 AM	#21
RHR Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: York, North Yorkshire Posts: 1,667	My goodness how rude. A friend of mine found out what sex her bump was and called him by his name when he wriggled. everyone where I worked thought it was lovely that she was calling him by his name. I think it's lovely. I don't know what sex my lo is, but if we did me and my partner would call him/her by his/her name, even if it was just amongst ourselves.

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Mar 5th, 2010, 12:23 PM	#23
ellienellie Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: "sunny" Scotland Posts: 116	No hun, I don't think you are being touchy at all. She has some sort of weird issue I guess? IMHO I think she's talking utter nonsense (sorry - I know she's your friend) x

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Mar 5th, 2010, 12:26 PM	#24
dizzy65 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: BC canada Posts: 8,010	id defantly be offended by that

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Taz Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Bradford, West Yorkshire Posts: 897	Awww chick take no notice of her. Tell her if she doesn't like it then don't listen but keep her opinions to herself. I call my LO by his name and so does my partner my MIL has actually put on her calendar his due date JJ Day so even family use his name!!!

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Mar 5th, 2010, 14:33 PM	#26
scotsgirl Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: scotland Posts: 1,273	now im not one to condone violence... but i would have bloody slapped her!!! what a cheek!! all of my family call my bump by name and so does my little boy. your definately not being over sensitive huni and i personally would deliberately call your bump by name in front of her and if she commented let rip xxx

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Mar 5th, 2010, 18:34 PM	#27
JadeyB Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 1,412	Hey honey, I would call our bubs by his name, if we had decided on it - lol! He would get confused at the mo as our favourite name changes week on week! xx

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Mar 5th, 2010, 19:21 PM	#28
rainbows_x Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 11,217	It's your baby, you have a right to call him his name! I would be upset by this too!

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Mar 5th, 2010, 21:00 PM	#29
Joyzerelly Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Glorious England Posts: 1,492	No, I don't think you're bring touchy, she sounds very rude. She should keep her opinions to herself.

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Mar 6th, 2010, 00:35 AM	#30
bky Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Christchurch, NZ Posts: 4,013	I don't think she has any right to say what you should/should not do or say about your baby. That said, I can't quite bring myself to call mine 'she' regularly yet, let alone the name we will probably use (I'm not settled yet in case the name doesn't suit when she comes out). I'm too shy for some reason to tell our family the names we've picked (OH makes fun of me for this, but I don't see him telling them either!). I still wouldn't tell anyone they shouldn't use names for their unborn babies though.

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