My Best Friend upset me today, am I just being Touchy! - Page 2

mightyspu · Mar 5th, 2010, 09:02 AM

I would understand if you had decided that your baby is going to like certain things and do a certain thing for a living, THAT would be choosing his identity, but I agree he has a personality of his own. Our baby boy showed himself to be quite a relaxed but stubborn little thing on the scan, and whether I chose to name him Geranium or John does not "choose his identity"

And any way?

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you shouldn't do that and I don't like it'

What's it got to do with her anyway? It's not her baby!

TrishyC · Mar 5th, 2010, 09:07 AM

There are no excuses for what she did as a "best friend". I would confront her cos I think some people take more liberties with their friends than they wld with a stranger or general colleague... but it's not on in my book.

mikababy · Mar 5th, 2010, 09:10 AM

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The biggest reason we found out the sex of our baby is because we hated the fact that 'It' was a non-entity. We wanted to start bonding and calling our little boy by his name.

My younger Brother (who has no children) gave me a real lecture when we mentioned that we were going to find out the sex, saying that it was "one of mankind's last 'natural' surprises". He went into a real diatribe and did it again when we said we'd gone ahead and found out the sex at the scan. We obviously haven't told him we're having a little girl!

I really want to bond with my baby, and knowing the gender and having a name (whether it's the final name or not!) is part of giving 'it' an identity, and part of the natural bonding process.

Absolutely no-one has the right to tell you how you should or should not bond with your own unborn child, particularly not at this well established stage of pregnancy.

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LesleyP · Mar 5th, 2010, 09:11 AM

Deffo sounds like jealousy to me! Tough sh*t if she doesn't like it, that's her problem. Don't listen to her

I couldn't wait to find out the sex and as soon as we found out bubs was a girl we started calling her Lily all the time

Lellow · Mar 5th, 2010, 09:13 AM

I cannot wait to find out the sex of my baby...only another month to go!

Ive been predicted a girl by friends and some family and a boy by others but im not fussy as long as its healthy!

As for your friend - She just sounds like she has a bit of pregnancy envy, she'll get over it and you just carry on in your little bubble of pregnancy contentment.

lauren10 · Mar 5th, 2010, 09:23 AM

Sorry but you're friend is a turkey. Why should you care whether she doesn't like you calling it by name? I agree that is sounds like jealousy because she's making it about herself. foolish!

ttcbambino#1 · Mar 5th, 2010, 09:25 AM

Ooh definitely a touch of the green eyed monster and it's none of her business how you refer to your baby! I think I would have to say something, I wouldn't want to start an arguement, but I couldn't just let something like that slide. Whilst our babies aren't born yet, they're still little human beings!

We don't call our girl Isabella around people, but thats because we decided not to tell our families, they we're very split over wanting/and not wanting to know so we've kept it to ourselves, but if they did know then I would be doing the same as you!

sjminimac · Mar 5th, 2010, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Delamere19

I think that I it's totally up to you if you choose to call your baby by the name they will be. No one has the right to tell you otherwise!

I have some one at work who tends to say things out of order! She said to me that I just look like I have eaten too many pies cos my bump isnt round yet.

OH my god! Someone said that to me the other day too! How god damn rude???

ladypotter · Mar 5th, 2010, 10:27 AM

I use my girls's names all the time with friends and family. I call them "them" to strangers since they wouldn't understand anyways..I feel dumber calling them "them" when I am talking to family and friends because they already HAVE NAMES...why not use them?!?

NickyT75 · Mar 5th, 2010, 10:30 AM

OMG! what a cow!

who cares if "she" doesnt like the fact YOUR baby has an identity??? id have told her to get knotted tbh

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Mar 5th, 2010, 09:07 AM	#12
TrishyC Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Italy Posts: 1,346	There are no excuses for what she did as a "best friend". I would confront her cos I think some people take more liberties with their friends than they wld with a stranger or general colleague... but it's not on in my book.

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LesleyP Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Derby, UK Posts: 2,491	Deffo sounds like jealousy to me! Tough sh*t if she doesn't like it, that's her problem. Don't listen to her I couldn't wait to find out the sex and as soon as we found out bubs was a girl we started calling her Lily all the time

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Lellow Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: UK Posts: 8,669	I cannot wait to find out the sex of my baby...only another month to go! Ive been predicted a girl by friends and some family and a boy by others but im not fussy as long as its healthy! As for your friend - She just sounds like she has a bit of pregnancy envy, she'll get over it and you just carry on in your little bubble of pregnancy contentment.

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lauren10 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: NB Canada Posts: 2,450	Sorry but you're friend is a turkey. Why should you care whether she doesn't like you calling it by name? I agree that is sounds like jealousy because she's making it about herself. foolish!

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ttcbambino#1 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: kent Posts: 696	Ooh definitely a touch of the green eyed monster and it's none of her business how you refer to your baby! I think I would have to say something, I wouldn't want to start an arguement, but I couldn't just let something like that slide. Whilst our babies aren't born yet, they're still little human beings! We don't call our girl Isabella around people, but thats because we decided not to tell our families, they we're very split over wanting/and not wanting to know so we've kept it to ourselves, but if they did know then I would be doing the same as you!

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Mar 5th, 2010, 10:27 AM	#19
ladypotter Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 1,865	I use my girls's names all the time with friends and family. I call them "them" to strangers since they wouldn't understand anyways..I feel dumber calling them "them" when I am talking to family and friends because they already HAVE NAMES...why not use them?!?

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Mar 5th, 2010, 10:30 AM	#20
NickyT75 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Cumbria Posts: 16,976	OMG! what a cow! who cares if "she" doesnt like the fact YOUR baby has an identity??? id have told her to get knotted tbh xx

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