Hi All,

It seems like I only come on here to have a whinge so for that I am sorry, but I seem to be without female friends now and although the girls at work are nice sometimes I still find it hard and am lonely.

Last Nov my best friend of 6 years stopped talking to me for no reason. I think it is because she felt that I wasn’t there for her when her grandma was ill but the reason for that is because my boyfriend was really ill at the time and all my time and energy was taken up looking after him. My ‘best friend’ never once asked me if I was ok or why I had gone quiet.

Anyway, I have tried to keep in touch with her by email, always trying to say that if there is anything she needs all she needs to do is get in touch with me. Sometimes the emails that I get from her are nice and sometimes they are a bit off. Well the other week I sent her the picture of my first scan expecting her to email back and be all excited, but I didn’t get an email back until 6 days later and all it basically said was ‘I take it everything is going well with your pregnancy then. By the way I am not sure if we are going to be available to come to your wedding so if you want us to say no now then that’s fine’. Nothing like hey look at your lovely scan picture or anything like that – when she was pregnant I was jumping for joy for her.

And then today I saw her in town at lunchtime and she completely ignored me twice. Can’t work out if I am in the wrong. Feel sad – Please help and well done if you made it this far!

Thank you thank you and thank you x x x

Hi Fisherwoman!

I was just commenting about my disappearance of friends on another thread there! Before I became pregnant I thought I was blessed to have so many lovely friends, and I really counted on them a lot. But it seems to find out who your real friends are when things happen. This pregnancy was a complete shock to me, and everyone. My 'friends' stayed around for about a month after I told them, and came to see me once (and even that was a huge effort for them!) It seems that is I can't go to a club or bar or can't drink I have no life and I am not invited to any so called friend gathering. I just find out about them after they've happened, and that just makes me feel like sh!t!

Some people have be so selfish, and people like that you don't need. You have obviously tried your best with your friend and she's just not responding. I would be so lost without my family right now, and I didn't appreciate them as much as I do now! You haven't done anything wrong. If she can't be happy for you then thats her fault. She'll soon regret it down the line.

Try not to let it stress you out, that's what i've learnt!! Think of all the good things you have going on at the minute and that will help you through it! Or just come on here for a wee rant! It's good for ya!! : )

Rach x

Awwww honey!

It really sounds like you have done all you can to save this friendship, so I have to say here that it is not you in the wrong at all and that the way she is acting is selfish and very childish. I'm so sorry she wasn't excited about your beautiful baby hun, that must have been very hurtful.

I think that there is only so much you can do, and a friendship is a two way thing. It should never be one sided, otherwise what is the point? Even though she is your best friend sweetie, maybe it is time to move on from her now as you deserve so much better. This isn't your loss hun, it's hers. Some people just aren't worth it and I hate to say it but I think she's one of these people

I'm sorry that I'm not very good with giving you advice on this hun... but just remember we are all here for you on bnb!

Chin up hun, try not to let it get you too down. Like Rachel said, think of all the wonderful things happening to you right now.

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It's funny you posted this. I have been feeling a bit lonely too. My sister is maybe getting a divorce, and she is doing her stuff, and didn't even bother asking how my appointment went yesterday. My best friend just moved away, and I never get to see her. The ladies in the neighbourhood are nice, but everyone I know is done having kids as I am 35 so most people are done by then, and my friends are. They all have two or three (or more) kids, and here I am having my third, but they are all past that. No one really asks me how I am or to hang out. I am off work now, so I am a bit lonely. My sister is going out with an old friend of ours today, but didn't bother to ask me, even though both my kids are in school today. :=(

Hey there, Im not quite in my second trimester yet, but I wast snooping around and I saw this. My best friend and I are going through a rough patch as well, and it really breaks my heart. I have been suffering from a little bit of antenatal depression...which hasn't made me a great friend to her the last few months. However, I have noticed that the people who really care about me have been so very supportive of how I am feeling. My best friend, on the other hand, has been noticeably absent for the past 3 months. We have always done everything together...and like you said, it makes me feel lonely.

What I would do, is get in touch with 'friend', and them openly and honestly about why they are behaving like that.
If she is upset with you, this could give you the opportunity to give your side, and build a few bridges.

Otherwise if she does not respond, then leave it. It is not worth you running after someone who does not want to keep the friendship going.

Best of luck!

Have just found out that she and her OH have sold their house and have bought another one in a differenct county, which co-incidentally happens to be near to her other 'best friend' who has a baby about the same age as hers.

Feel crushed, was hoping that we could overcome this gliche and become friends again.

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Thank you Iris - I know it'll be ok. I wonder if she wasn't talking to me because she knew that she was moving and she knew that I would be hurt, but I think that I am just grasping at straws.

So silly - thank god for this forum x x x

Oh honey, that must be hurtful.

I'm sorry that she is moving away - don't worry hun, she doesn't deserve you as a friend because to me, you sound wonderful.

You'll meet new people hun and I know she's your best friend but you've done all that you can and have got nothing back.

You've got all of us still! We aren't going anywhere

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