Moulder86

Ok so I'm not in the ideal situation to be pregnant and I've found it hard to bond with my lil man.........

Normally people talk to bump, play music, rub lovingly ect but I just can 't seem to bond. Has anyone got any ideas to help me??

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mBLACK

I was having trouble bonding with my son too until one night when my belly was bouncing around like crazy. I poked him and he kicked back in response. We continued doing this and it was sooo amazing, that's when we started bonding!

Moulder86

See my lil man kicks and punchs me all the time but I just don't feel like I should and it upsets me. I can't think of anything to make the rest of my pregnancy feel as it should or help us bond better.

tinkerbelll

maybe you could try a 3d scan, i havent had one yet but ive heard from everyone on here it made them feel alot closer to their LO

Moulder86

Wish I could afford it but then again some times I think that those scan almost spoil it because you see what they'll look like before they get here. Oh I don't know I guess it's just one of those things.

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toriaaaaTRASH

Some people just don't feel comfortable doing that. I can't talk to my bump because it doesn't feel right. She doesn't respond anyway. I've spoken to her a few times (she has responded but only once or twice). I hold my bump when I'm out, I don't do it on purpose, it just happens. I wouldn't say I'm really that bonded with her (although the 4D scan did help alot).

Maybe take a bath, relax, rub your belly for abit and think about your LO who's just sleeping away in there.. See how you feel!

leeanne

Sad to say, but I've never really talked to my lil ones when I was pregnant with them. However, the most special bonding moment is when they hand your baby to you after they are born. That is truly when bonding occurs and is something to look forward too!

Moulder86

Thanks girls, maybe I'm just making too much of it then and how I think I should feel is just a stereotype of sorts. Thanks again

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Belle

i found when i was having Joshua that if i had a bath and splash my tummy with water then he'll respond!! he loved it when i was in the bath and i'd sing to him, i'll be doing the same with this 1 (well i do sing to her in shower) but i find it helps me bond!

Vickie

I don't really talk to my bump either. Hold it sometimes, but not that often. The most I do is when DH and I lay down at night he puts his hand on my stomach and we both feel her move (she always kicks him). I don't necessarily think that this means that I'm not bonded with my baby though.