just a bit of a vent really........

my other half has been fab so far, brings me brekkie, cooks me food, does the cleaning and ironing....such a great hubbie. i often come home from owkr, we have dinner and then am in bed asleep, if i even wait for dinner first!! cant help it, so so tired. he moaned a week ago about how we dont spend time together and our evenings are a bit poo....i sai i would make more of an effort since he makes a big efort for me....
this weekend i had major pains in my ribs and had to rest up all weekened, so our plan to go out had to be cancelled.
we have some friends where we live, but the majority of his friends live in london. he moved to manchester for me....although he did live in london for a bit. he is not from either manc or london. he has always said he doesnt want to live in lonodn, too expensive for us.
he was a bit down yesterday, but we talked through things and he seemed ok. now this morn he went to work and sent me a text saying how pissed off he is with everything, how everything is shit, all he does is get up, work, home, eat, sleep and how he has no friends........
what do i do??? i dont exactly have a huge group of firneds myself, i do have friends but not millions that i see all the time....
i dont like it when he gets down as it gets me down......and also i dont have as much patience to deal with it!
i told him maybe once the bubs is born we will gt friendlier with people at playgorups etc and find some couples to socialise with??? also what can he do in the evenings so he has more of a social life??? i cant go out and stuff as too tired.....also he is only temping at his work place and doesnt really talk that much to his colleaugues, they all keep temselves to themselves...he is not quiet...he wll talk to anyone!!!

just a rant as there is no one here to talk to and i need to get it off my chest.........

thanks for reading!!
x

Sorry to hear he's feeling down - its so hard isn't it! What are ante-natal class options in your area? I remember a guy i work with, said he got to be really good mates with the guys he met at nct classes, and every now and then they all have a 'lads night'. I guess that would be good as you're all in same boat? and you might meet some other mummies-to-be? I can't afford nct classes, but am hoping similar might happen at nhs classes...

Awww I feel for you Me and OH had a similar discussion (or argument!) the other night with me saying that it seems like all we do is eat... sleep... work... study (for me anyway as i'm doing a degree from home). He works long hours, leaves the house at 7am and doesn't get back til 9.30 pm some nights, especially if he goes to the gym after work. He also only gets 1 - 2 sundays off a month, that's it!! I guess that's car sales for you.

It was really getting me down as it kind of makes you feel like 'what's the point of life'! Surely there is more to it then eating, sleeping and working.

We discussed it though and decided to make more time for each other and less time for the tv. We've put aside Wednesday nights as 'our' nights and we're going to do silly things like play cards or board games or cook fancy dinners in the winter. Then in the summer we will go for picnics and stuff. We are also going to the NCT parenting classes in the hopes of meeting some other parents-to-be in the local area.

Pre-baby we also talked about doing salsa dancing for beginners. I would now for the exercise but we really can't afford it. Maybe if you have a bit of spare cash you could have a look for some couple classes like that?? Sounds like you just need to reconnect a bit first, then try and get out there and meet some new people!

Bit of a long shot but if he plays squash, joining the local team is a great way to meet new people? We met about 20 new guys / couples when OH joined the local squash team a couple of years ago.

I sometimes have the same conversation with my hubby - we have a business together so our lives revolve around work work and more work, to the point where the weekend is taken up with work. So i moan saying all we do is work, clean the house and eat and its getting boring.

So yesterday we spent a day together visiting the Sea Life Centre in Birmingham, window shopping, having lunch and then catching the train back to our town. I was shattered when we got back and could barley move off the sofa, but it was all worth it as it was so lovely to spend some quality time together.

I think its the case that us pregnant woman are uncomfortable most of the time and men don't really understand, but equally i know I have to make an effort to do things, especially as once the baby arrives our lives will be turned upside down and we will have less time with each other, so we are trying to make sure we don't grow apart whilst i am pregnant.

Sorry im rambling a bit now.

ah thanks girls. we are going to go to a weekend parentcraft class instead of weekly antenatal classes. he does know people here, but dosnt class them as proper friends....am going to speak to him when he gets home tonight and maybe suggest he asks them if he can join in football if any of them play weekly. i cant cope when he is down, cos he is the one who is normally so optimistic about everythng!!!!