BeckyBoo

Sorry to have a whinge, but am I the only woman that has a partner/husband/fiancee whatever you like to call them who isn't really interested in the pregnancy?

We were out the other day and someone asked him how far along I was and he said 24 weeks due sometime in August... I hated to correct him and I felt terrible that he doesn't pay attention. I was only 19 weeks at the time.

Also when I ask him about baby stuff he just seems to nod and agree with everything. I'd like some input into it.

All he says is he's more interested when there is something to hold.

He's brilliant with our son but now scared he didn't want this baby as much as me or am I just expecting too much from a man?

GemLou

Rumpskin

Hey Becky

I think it is called being a man. He is hopeless with dates and I would never expect him to remember these things.

xx

Ann-Marie

Yeah, I know where your coming from.... DH used to grunt when I asked him questions about baby stuff... He's got better since we picked a name, and it's nice to hear him refering to her as Mia

Gabi

You've gotto remember that men work differently to us women. We're complete opposites.

Also your OH isn't experiencing the pregnancy the way you are. The kick in the ribs, close to the heart connection you have with LO.OH is left out.
I was chatting to a male friend of mine about it last week. He says that although men have NO idea what that closeness is like and they'd love to experience it, they'd never handle it.
LOL can you imagine him with the mood swings? We're equipped for it. Not them.

I can imagine it's difficult for them to bond with somone they can't see or feel. I'm sure once the baby's born he'll start his bonding process and start becoming more involved.

My DH isn't the most involved father-to-be under the sun. He finds it very difficult to get excited over baby clothes, prams, cots, etc. lol

BeckyBoo

Thanks all. I was starting to get scared he didn't want this baby at all.

Mines same Gabi. Just says "Is that how much it costs?"

Gabi

and the raising of one eyebrow when you say "Yeh but that's a good price. We need this."

babe2ooo

man are just like that i dont think they mean to be but they are, i wouldnt worry

leeanne

Men are men!

I remember when my daughter was about 4-5 weeks old and someone asked if she slept through the night. My OH answered and said "Yes." I looked at him and said probably through your night but not mine.

Anyhow, true bonding for most men comes when the baby is born. It's hard for some men to understand or be interested in something that is not happening to them physically.

aj2000

This is sooo like my hubby We saw two mosses baskets that we (I!) liked and when I asked him which he liked he said "but they're both the same price aren't they?" Typical man! He seems more excited about a buggy though as he likes his gadgets (men - you've gotta love them ).