I don't want OH parents being near bean after smoking...

Rebecca_B · Jan 24th, 2010, 12:56 PM

Hi all,

What shall i do???

Me and OH don't smoke.

My parents don't smoke.

OH parents, sister (of 13wks old twins) and 2 brothers smoke.

They smoke out the back yard of their home but absolutely stink when they come in.

I sometimes see his dad touch the twins near the mouth saying 'coochy coo' just after having a ciggarette.

I can't stand the thought of them touching our baby after having a ciggy.

I don't want to be unreasonable!!!!!!!

Help!

Replies from smokers appreciated..............xxxxxxxxxxxx

kmac625 · Jan 24th, 2010, 12:59 PM

I quit smoking when I got my bfp. The only family members who smoke are my parents but they live 4.5 hours away so won't be much of an issue for me. You could ask them to wash their hands after smoking or have some of that hand sanitary cleanser around to use before they touch the baby.

Rebecca_B · Jan 24th, 2010, 13:02 PM

Because of the sister who has twins not minding i will definately look unreasonable..........

Shining Star · Jan 24th, 2010, 13:03 PM

My DH smokes and I feel the same. He is desperately trying to give up ~ I just hope that he can do it before our LO arrives. Could your OH talk to them...I would if it were my parents! None of our family smoke so I won't have the issue but if I were you I would try to broach the subject of extra strong mints....soap to wash hands before they go near your LO. My DH always brushes his teeth and washes his hands before coming near me after having a cigarette, let alone our LO!!!

It's a difficult one though.....good luck.

Shining Star · Jan 24th, 2010, 13:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rebecca_B

Because of the sister who has twins not minding i will definately look unreasonable..........

But am I right in thinking that she smokes?!? Cos that's different. Anyway, you are just doing the best for your baby! Noone can blame you for that hun. x

MickyMoo · Jan 24th, 2010, 13:05 PM

not sure what to say about oh parents but i told mine that there not going any where near lumpy when he or she is born maybe speek to oh see what he says and if hell say anything to them ?

MrsGlitz · Jan 24th, 2010, 13:07 PM

I smoke, am down to 3 or 4 half ones day after eating and getting there, in fact I have set my quit day as tomorrow. My DH smokes but as he has only just accepted he has a drink problem and just quit alcohol I can't expect him to quit the cigs too just yet!

The only other person close to me who smokes is my sister's dad, he smokes about 40 a day.

We will be asking him to wash his hands if he wants to touch LO after smoking. Once LO arrives all smokers will be asked to go outside, including DH if he hasn't managed to quit by then.

Scampie · Jan 24th, 2010, 13:08 PM

Perhaps try the approach of, Midwife said you shouldnt be near baby for 15 minutes after smoking, and you should definitely wash your hands, might help. My midwife has said this to me and my partner as he smokes. They may think this is a little excessive, but if it at least gets them to wash their hands then its a start.

RainbowDrop_x · Jan 24th, 2010, 13:08 PM

I'm a smoker

(although I'm going to start my quitting tuesday!!

) But I completely understand how you feel..

Personally as a smoker I would never smoke around a new born and if I couldn't wait intill the baby had left to have a smoke then I would wash my hands, mint up etc etc before going anywhere near them!

But as it's you're child I don't feel it's unreasonable to ask for people to wash their hand etc.. At the end of the day when LO is in YOU'RE house it won't have to breathe in smoke so why should the baby at someone else's house??

I would just talk to them.. But like I said I think you're well within you're right to ask them not to smoke around LO

xxx

Elle Number 4 · Jan 24th, 2010, 13:32 PM

I like the idea of having a hand sanitiser available. Perhaps your SO could ask his family to make sure they use it before touching the baby.
I am in a similar situation as my MIL smokes and my SIL has no problem with it at all. I do look like a completely irrational b***h but at the end of the day my children are my responsibility. I try not to 'sweat the small stuff', but there were times when the kids were little that she was smoking whilst holding them....NOT ACCEPTABLE. My DH supports me completely and that makes all the difference.

Jan 24th, 2010, 12:56 PM	#1
Rebecca_B Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Coventry Posts: 671	I don't want OH parents being near bean after smoking... Hi all, What shall i do??? Me and OH don't smoke. My parents don't smoke. OH parents, sister (of 13wks old twins) and 2 brothers smoke. They smoke out the back yard of their home but absolutely stink when they come in. I sometimes see his dad touch the twins near the mouth saying 'coochy coo' just after having a ciggarette. I can't stand the thought of them touching our baby after having a ciggy. I don't want to be unreasonable!!!!!!! Help! Replies from smokers appreciated..............xxxxxxxxxxxx

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Jan 24th, 2010, 12:59 PM	#2
kmac625 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Toronto, Ontario Canada Posts: 5,310	I quit smoking when I got my bfp. The only family members who smoke are my parents but they live 4.5 hours away so won't be much of an issue for me. You could ask them to wash their hands after smoking or have some of that hand sanitary cleanser around to use before they touch the baby.

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Jan 24th, 2010, 13:02 PM	#3
Rebecca_B Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Coventry Posts: 671	Because of the sister who has twins not minding i will definately look unreasonable..........

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Shining Star Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Bedfordshire UK Posts: 1,078	My DH smokes and I feel the same. He is desperately trying to give up ~ I just hope that he can do it before our LO arrives. Could your OH talk to them...I would if it were my parents! None of our family smoke so I won't have the issue but if I were you I would try to broach the subject of extra strong mints....soap to wash hands before they go near your LO. My DH always brushes his teeth and washes his hands before coming near me after having a cigarette, let alone our LO!!! It's a difficult one though.....good luck.

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Jan 24th, 2010, 13:05 PM	#6
MickyMoo Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 436	not sure what to say about oh parents but i told mine that there not going any where near lumpy when he or she is born maybe speek to oh see what he says and if hell say anything to them ?

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Jan 24th, 2010, 13:07 PM	#7
MrsGlitz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Bournemouth, Dorset Posts: 3,150	I smoke, am down to 3 or 4 half ones day after eating and getting there, in fact I have set my quit day as tomorrow. My DH smokes but as he has only just accepted he has a drink problem and just quit alcohol I can't expect him to quit the cigs too just yet! The only other person close to me who smokes is my sister's dad, he smokes about 40 a day. We will be asking him to wash his hands if he wants to touch LO after smoking. Once LO arrives all smokers will be asked to go outside, including DH if he hasn't managed to quit by then.

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Jan 24th, 2010, 13:08 PM	#8
Scampie Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 4,866	Perhaps try the approach of, Midwife said you shouldnt be near baby for 15 minutes after smoking, and you should definitely wash your hands, might help. My midwife has said this to me and my partner as he smokes. They may think this is a little excessive, but if it at least gets them to wash their hands then its a start.

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Jan 24th, 2010, 13:08 PM	#9
RainbowDrop_x Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 7,736	I'm a smoker (although I'm going to start my quitting tuesday!!) But I completely understand how you feel.. Personally as a smoker I would never smoke around a new born and if I couldn't wait intill the baby had left to have a smoke then I would wash my hands, mint up etc etc before going anywhere near them! But as it's you're child I don't feel it's unreasonable to ask for people to wash their hand etc.. At the end of the day when LO is in YOU'RE house it won't have to breathe in smoke so why should the baby at someone else's house?? I would just talk to them.. But like I said I think you're well within you're right to ask them not to smoke around LO xxx

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Jan 24th, 2010, 13:32 PM	#10
Elle Number 4 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: New Zealand Posts: 186	I like the idea of having a hand sanitiser available. Perhaps your SO could ask his family to make sure they use it before touching the baby. I am in a similar situation as my MIL smokes and my SIL has no problem with it at all. I do look like a completely irrational b***h but at the end of the day my children are my responsibility. I try not to 'sweat the small stuff', but there were times when the kids were little that she was smoking whilst holding them....NOT ACCEPTABLE. My DH supports me completely and that makes all the difference.

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