This happened before about a year and before that as well. They used to be together when they were in uni, and decided to go different way after graduated, and then she emailed and said how much she missed him and regret for what happened and what she decided was a mistake. I was ok then because it's long time since they separated, but i just found out that she's been emailing my OH again after we got married and said she's crying to see he's got married ( she saw on our website ). My OH emailed back and and said that he's happy now and they can still be friends, but she seems so upset ( that he hasn't reply that often ).
My OH told me about 2 years ago that it was a serious relationship and they talked about marriage as well, but my OH wanted to travel after graduation and she didn't want to wait,so.....it ended ( i guess )
I admit i read his emails which i normally do anyway to check our company's customers emails ( i saw this email's read a few day ago and i was curious because i recognize the email so i opened it )
It's kind of annoying for me because it's about 10 years now that they haven't met since graduation and what does she really want?

Fortunately, my DH isn´t in contact with his ex g/f, although I heard from someone else that she´s unhappy cos she was with him 4 years and he "wouldn´t marry her" and was with me "5 minutes" and married me. These women are just sad and need to move on with their lives. As long as your OH is being honest and keeping you informed, as it were, about this woman and has no intentions of meeting up with her or whatever, I would think you´ll be ok. 10 years is a long time past. In my (humble) opinion, she needs to get over it and move on.

I know I rambled on a bit, but I hope this helps.

My OH hasn't inform me about these emails though. I just found out. And I think it's difficult for them to meet anyway because now we are in different continental
She mentioned last year that she wanted to come and visit him and maybe he could show her around.
I also hope there;s nothing more

Well you said he doesn't reply that often. Which probably means you haven't got much to worry about. It doesn't sound like he's too bothered. He married you, chose you.
She must just get over that. Me and my DH have emails we send to our friends that we don't show each other. That doesn't mean we're hiding something. I'd be pretty pissed if I found out he was reading my emails and the same would apply if I got caught reading his. We do like our individual privacy.

My DH had a serious relationship before me. She actually fell pregnant and they wanted to get married but she "suffered an miscarriage" then she told him she was leaving becaused she couldn't handle it all. He found out later that she'd had an abortion and left him to be with her boyfriend on the side.

She pitched up out of nowhere a while back and his mother (of all people!!) tried to get them back together. Well the ex-gf phoned and tried to get all friendly with him so he told her to f**k off. Exact words too.

she's a nasty piece of work if she thinks she can muscle in now.
and she's inredibly sad if she is prepared to write and tell him how sad she is he got married - he is clearly happy and moved on. She should get a life!
What sort of a woman says that to a married man 10 years after a split? A bitchy one.

He probably didnt tell you to try and protect you. Avoid the stress. Whilst this may drive us nice girls mad it's the sort of thing a man does..Just talk to him. Remain calm, and MOSTLY - dont be neurotic.

You're having his baby. She's just a moaning old bat.

I wouldnt worry. You're living the dream :-)

she needs to get a life and stop chasing a married man. if you trust your OH then i would just laugh her off, and feel glad you aren't pathetic like her.

I guess this is the best way to handle it.

sounds like his ex has looked around at her mates who have settled down and obviously she hasnt and started to think about past relationships. why on earth was she crying? if she loved him so much she would have got intouch alot sooner and not just got intouch on the of chance and realised he was a good catch after all and married some1 else. i really dont think she is any threat to you, i think she is just sad on what she has missed out on, she will get over it soon enough when she meets some1 else. hope ur ok about it, sounds like he is telling you everything thou so it sounds like its 1 sided! x

Is it not enough that your partner has said he only wants to be friends?

Surely that's enough to go on if you trust him..