em82

Im coming up for 20 weeeks on saturday. I just seem to have 'popped'. I can nolonger hold in my tummy (I know Im pregnant!!!) just wondered if anyone else is feeling like this. I just feel so un attractive and fat!
Already worring about getting back in shape after baby. I managed it with my son (5yrs old) but I was younger then and basically just didnt eat - dont want to go down that path again

sorry for rant just feeling...... well I dont really no

tinytoes

i've had a big pod for weeks! There's no denying I'm pregnant now - people mention it all the time, even people I dont know.I love it.
I 9 stone 9 before buba (about 64 kilos) and now around 11.3 (71 kilos ish) by week 22.
I've been in maternity trousers since about week 13!

Dont worry abotu weight gain - we'll have time to loose it later and I hear breastfeeding is a great helP!!

Moulder86

I'm a big girl anyway and have tried to lose wait before bubs came along and had succeded a little. But I've recently got to the point where I find it impossible to hold my stomach in anymore. But I also feel fat, ugly and just generally down lately.

I'm also worried the weight recently lost will return and be hard to get rid of but I'm determined that I will lose it and more!!

xx

em82

thanks for replies girls

i feel bad feeling down as I no im lucky to be having my second child but I just cant help it. I have gone from 9st2 to nearly 11 and just feel horrible about it.
Poor husband isnt getting any love or affection at the moment (imean nothing) bles him but I just cant face it. He keeps telling me how lovely etc I look but it just makes me angry to hear it (Im a bitch I know!!!)

xx

tinytoes

maybe speak to you doc? It is possible to have pre-natal depression..
You can offer OH lots of affection without it having to be sexual or affecetd by weight.
My OH and I are always hugging and sharing little kisses and giggles, like big kids, though we're not at it like rabbits in any way!!! He's my best friend, i cant stop hugging him!

em82

only prob with that is - every time I go near him to give him a kiss or a cuddle he reads it wrong and tries it on which then annoys me! He dont really kiss and cuddle me much at moment cos I keep rejhecting him I suppose. I have been on anti depressants since my son was born but cut down since been pregnant so thats prob what it is.
dont get me wrong my husband is lovely and it must be hard for him and he admits to not understanding what its like to be depressed

xx

cparks1

I hope you feel better about yourself soon. I know it's hard accepting gaining weight and having your body go through so many changes, trust me, I have had a hard time dealing with it as well. I'm sure your OH understands that you don't feel comfortable with your body, but you do have a baby in there and that is why you look the way you do. Have you tried talking to him about how you feel instead of giving him the shrug? I have made this mistake and my hubby read a post of mine on here and he got really sad because instead of talking to him, I posted on here. He was pretty hurt by it and still is.

Maybe you should speak to your doctor and ask if you could be suffering from pre-natal depression. As you mentioned before about already planning on how you're going to lose weight after the baby. I am in that same boat. I keep thinking about which work outs I should start out with to ease my way back into my normal groove. Good luck hun and I hope you feel better about things soon.

em82

thanks means alot to know Im no alone xx

vickilouise

god youve hit the nail on the head there, im too scared to sleep with oh after the bleeds and scares ive had (dont want anything poking around in there) so ive not been "putting out"
my OH thinks a kiss or cuddle is a green light to getting a bit of the other.... so as ive been saying leave me alone etc he doesnt kiss or cuddle me anymore and if i lean in for a kiss or cuddle he thinks its mr nasty time
catch 22 isnt it.

i think im turning into a teletubbie, so unattractive to find none of my clothes fit or sit as well as they used to, and my belly is starting to get snail trails. he says i look fine and he thinks im more attractive but i know the truth haha

em82

what a load we are!!!!!! gotta feel sorry for them really!!!
well heres hoping we all feel better about things soon or its going to be a long 4-5months till baby born!

xx