Why won't they tell me the sex of my baby?

Due03.15.10 · Dec 16th, 2009, 09:55 AM

Hey guys!

Had my 20 week scan this morning and all good for my first little one!!!!! Couldn't be happier!

Just a quick question though, in my hospital, they have a policy not to tell parents the sex of the baby! Me and my partner had decided in advance that we really wanted to know and are now a bit gutted! Obviously the best news is that my bumps healthy but we would have loved to have known!

Does this depend on hospitals or PCT's?? Really don't want to go for a private one to find this out!

Thanks in advance everyone!!!

Junebug_CJ · Dec 16th, 2009, 09:57 AM

Because mistakes can and have been made. Just last year my friends gave birth to a boy after being told it was a girl. It was a suprise for everyone!

marie-louise · Dec 16th, 2009, 09:57 AM

My hospital won't tell you either but one an hour away will, I think it's up to the hospital

aliss · Dec 16th, 2009, 09:58 AM

Where do you live? It depends on that often.

Officially [out here], the hospital doesn't want the liability if it is incorrect so they don't get sued if you buy $5000 worth of blue merchandise when it should have been pink. Unofficially, some cultures will abort a healthy female fetus just for the sake of it being female (yes, even over 20 weeks). Gendercide... I don't know about other areas, but it does happen out in Vancouver.

moomin_troll · Dec 16th, 2009, 10:02 AM

i was told by someone who worked in the nhs that some hospitals wont tell u what sex the baby is as in some cultures they only want boys and cases have been in this country that ppl have found out they are having a girl and have gone ahead to have a abortion based on the sex of the baby.

what truth was in this who knows but that is what i was told

BabyJayne · Dec 16th, 2009, 10:03 AM

Depends on the hospital policy hun. Ours does tell you, but I know that a few years back the policy was not to. Are you going to wait and have a surprise or pay to find out? We are keeping it a surprise...go team yellow!! :-)

bubbles · Dec 16th, 2009, 10:03 AM

when my ex SIL was pregnant they wouldn't tell her the sex, apparantly because of as already said some cultures will abort a healthy baby based on the sex but I don't know how true that is. They were based in Colchester at the time, I found out what sex my DS was so it does depend on the area/hospital

moomin_troll · Dec 16th, 2009, 10:07 AM

my hospital did tell me the sex but if they didnt i wouldnt pay to find out i would then keep it a total suprise.

but we could see zanes wee man at his 12 week scan so we kinda guessed anyway lol

AtomicPink · Dec 16th, 2009, 10:08 AM

My hospital tells you now, it changed last xmas. However when i went they said they couldnt tell me - they couldnt see, but i didnt believe them for a second. I had worked myself up to find out only to leave none the wiser so i did feel gutted!

However getting the 4D scan a few weeks later was seriously the best thing ever. I just looked at my photos and scans of that yesterday and i still maintain, best day ever!

JennTheMomma · Dec 16th, 2009, 10:10 AM

A lot of Hospitals won't for a few reasons
1. Some people abort based on the sex
2. Ultrasounds are never 100%
3. The Center for Disease Control says that ultrasounds should not be performed for finding out the gender

Dec 16th, 2009, 09:55 AM	#1
Due03.15.10 Pregnant (Expecting) New BnB member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 1	Why won't they tell me the sex of my baby? Hey guys! Had my 20 week scan this morning and all good for my first little one!!!!! Couldn't be happier! Just a quick question though, in my hospital, they have a policy not to tell parents the sex of the baby! Me and my partner had decided in advance that we really wanted to know and are now a bit gutted! Obviously the best news is that my bumps healthy but we would have loved to have known! Does this depend on hospitals or PCT's?? Really don't want to go for a private one to find this out! Thanks in advance everyone!!!

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Dec 16th, 2009, 09:57 AM	#2
Junebug_CJ Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 5,776	Because mistakes can and have been made. Just last year my friends gave birth to a boy after being told it was a girl. It was a suprise for everyone!

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Dec 16th, 2009, 09:57 AM	#3
marie-louise Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 537	My hospital won't tell you either but one an hour away will, I think it's up to the hospital

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Dec 16th, 2009, 09:58 AM	#4
aliss AutoSignup (SAAB) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Québec Posts: 14,694	Where do you live? It depends on that often. Officially [out here], the hospital doesn't want the liability if it is incorrect so they don't get sued if you buy $5000 worth of blue merchandise when it should have been pink. Unofficially, some cultures will abort a healthy female fetus just for the sake of it being female (yes, even over 20 weeks). Gendercide... I don't know about other areas, but it does happen out in Vancouver.

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moomin_troll Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: staffordshire Posts: 14,572	i was told by someone who worked in the nhs that some hospitals wont tell u what sex the baby is as in some cultures they only want boys and cases have been in this country that ppl have found out they are having a girl and have gone ahead to have a abortion based on the sex of the baby. what truth was in this who knows but that is what i was told

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Dec 16th, 2009, 10:03 AM	#6
BabyJayne Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Wales Posts: 2,966	Depends on the hospital policy hun. Ours does tell you, but I know that a few years back the policy was not to. Are you going to wait and have a surprise or pay to find out? We are keeping it a surprise...go team yellow!! :-)

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bubbles Other BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 4,498	when my ex SIL was pregnant they wouldn't tell her the sex, apparantly because of as already said some cultures will abort a healthy baby based on the sex but I don't know how true that is. They were based in Colchester at the time, I found out what sex my DS was so it does depend on the area/hospital

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Dec 16th, 2009, 10:07 AM	#8
moomin_troll Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: staffordshire Posts: 14,572	my hospital did tell me the sex but if they didnt i wouldnt pay to find out i would then keep it a total suprise. but we could see zanes wee man at his 12 week scan so we kinda guessed anyway lol

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Dec 16th, 2009, 10:08 AM	#9
AtomicPink Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 19,090	My hospital tells you now, it changed last xmas. However when i went they said they couldnt tell me - they couldnt see, but i didnt believe them for a second. I had worked myself up to find out only to leave none the wiser so i did feel gutted! However getting the 4D scan a few weeks later was seriously the best thing ever. I just looked at my photos and scans of that yesterday and i still maintain, best day ever!

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Dec 16th, 2009, 10:10 AM	#10
JennTheMomma Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 1,333	A lot of Hospitals won't for a few reasons 1. Some people abort based on the sex 2. Ultrasounds are never 100% 3. The Center for Disease Control says that ultrasounds should not be performed for finding out the gender

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