bebedawl

my pregnancy was anything but normal. however it was a fantastic surprise. My boyfriend now and i have known eachother for 10 yrs. Basically, even when I was dating my bf of 7 yrs, there was this thing between us both, but very obvious "bad timing", or more of a "its not meant to be" because we were dating other people for a long time. And when my ex of 7 yrs and I broke up, he was dating someone, then when they broke up - I was dating someone, so it just never worked out. I went to him last October, when I was single to tell him that I loved him, and it made sense that I was always in relationship limbo, because I wasnt dating him. But even that didnt work out, because he was dating a girl, they signed a lease together and he didnt want to shake things up. Even though he actually ended up telling her about me, and us, and well nothing happened.

But this Sept we saw eachother and were both basically single (he had ended things with his ex) and this happened!

THIS is our story, and WE know it, so when i got pregnant is was wonderful - it was a SIGN that we need to be together, and that was it.

so i told my mom basically at the time that i was 100% pregnant (i was officially 3 weeks, and told her the day i got the first + test) and she immediately told me i should have an abortion. she didnt know and didnt care to know our story, she didnt care about the baby to be, and just was decided that III should have an abortion.

so obviously i stopped talking to her, kept the baby LIKE I WAS GOING TO ALL ALONG, and im incredibly happy.

however, now she is extremely, 'OMG IM SO EXCITED" "IM GOING TO BE A NANA!" "I CANT WAIT TO BE A NANA, YOU'RE GOING TO BE A MOM!"

i just CANNOT help but feel like its fake, and shes being too extreme, and i just really dont feel its sincere. my mom has since told the entire world she is going to be a 'nana' (not grandma) - but i just cant seem to wrap my head around it to accept that shes maybe truly excited.

all i feel in my heart is, she told me to abort my baby....

advice?


also, my mom is 110% the definition OF a drama queen, and usually makes things about her, or cries about it not being about her. im just having a really tough time accepting this...

Lollypod

Hiya, what a lovely story, awww bless you two.
I'm not sure if this is advice bit from what you have written I can see how you feel about the reaction from your mother as it wasn't what you expected.

The main thing is she has come around to the idea now and is really excited about being a Grandmother, she could still be telling you that you are making a mistake etc. Some people react in haste when in shock, I know my own mums reaction to our news wasn't what I expected too.

Maybe your hormones are playing in this too? Let's be thankful we have still got our mothers to share in our pregnancy. Hope all goes well for you

bebedawl

you are very right, i wouldnt want to share it with anyone else. i was happy to get a + test and she was technically the 3rd person to know. (hehe i took the test at work with a colleague, and then told the bf) so she was in my first to know pile! i know i'll need my mom more than ever, i do think hormones may have something to do with it. ive been feeling like this for a month and a bit. i hope it does go away and i can be happy that shes happy.

nikkibr

hey i cant relate to this 100%, but i got prengnat last year and told my parents and they told me to have an abortion, so much so that they almost made me and i didnt end up having one. i am now pregnant again and only just managed to tell my parents last week at 20 weeks pregnant, i had to do it by letter and to my utter shock and surpirse they are being so GREAT about, they think it is the wrong time and that im not financially stable yet but they are not letting that get in the way. apparntly they have told my sister that they are going to support me and are quite excited as its going to be their first grandchild. so... maybe your mum was against it at the beginnig, and now she has realised how serious you are that she has had to get around it in her own way and has now accepted it so that she can be happy about it? yes maybe she is being a bit extreme, but you did say shes a drama queen! so she seems like shes gone from one extreme to the other but at least shes bieng happy and excited for you - i doubt its fake though becuase being a "nana" is exciting and she's prob just registered it all and accepted it now

xx