tb42

Me and my husband are from different countries, we were brought up soooo differently and now it comes to the time to bring up our baby. The problem is his mom who always gets involved and tries to tell me to do things the way she think it's best, but obviously we live in my country now. She would want my baby to be baptized, and my husband said he doesn't bothered but also said if his mom wants we shouldn't say no. I don't know what it is and there will be lots of things that my in-law will be telling me to do when the baby is born. i told my husband that i would listen to advice but i'm the mother so i'm the one who takes the advice that i think it would be good for my baby.
- she's taking the crib for baby to lie in ( it's tradition she said, been used for generation ), but i feel like it's too hot here ( 35-40 degrees on normal day )
- the best thing to cut baby's nails is to bite it off, not using the nails clippers
- she doesn't want us to use the pushchair that's made in my country because it's all rubbish ( she said )
- i should wash the floor every day ( like i have no work to do- i take care of house work, 2 dogs and working on computer from home while my husband is out working )
i know there will be many more coming and i really don't like her bossing me around my house.

i told my husband if she made me feel uncomfortable or upset, i would go home to my mom. ( we told her many times before but she didn't take any notice, so this time i'm just gonna get a bus and go home just to let her know that's enough- if it happened though )

anyone have this kind of problem?

codiontour

yuck. where is she from im curious?!?!

coccyx

She sounds a nightmare!.Who does she think she is telling you to have your baby baptized. Need to make it clear to your hubby and her that all advice welcome but this is your baby not hers. Does she live nearby?

leeanne

The one thing I was always happy about is my MIL never interfered with the way I brought up my babies, and she lived in the same house as us. My mom has never interfered either.

I truly feel for you in this circumstance. It must be so difficult.

mummy_channon

ooooooh dear i do feel for u!! my partner and i are also from very different cultures and he believes things that i dont but i think ultimatly u should do what u want to do! im pretty sure most things have a compromise! i think the only thing u will struggle to find middle ground on is the baptism!!!
good luck!