Being a bad mom

blondeNklutzi · Nov 24th, 2009, 10:30 AM

Ok, I'm having a horrible day. I had a dream last night that I forgot to put clothes on the baby and he froze when we went outside in his stroller.

I know that dream is absolutely ridiculous, but I can't get the idea out of my head that I'm going to be a horrible mother. I have been around babies before, I have helped care for babies before, but I have never had sole responsibility for baby care and I don't think I'm going to do it right!

What if I don't dress baby warmly enough? How many layers is right? What if I dress him too warm? What if I don't bathe him right? Or don't feed him enough. Ladies, I'm driving myself crazy!

Sam9kids · Nov 24th, 2009, 10:48 AM

Awww hun, firstly bad dreams are really common with pregnancy. Ive had some crackers!

Also you will be surprised how much instinct will actually kick in when bubs is born when it comes to feeding etc

Warmth wise, they say you should go off your own temp. If you have a tshirt on and so does baby and you feel cold, then put another layer on baby too and vice versa xx

distantsun · Nov 24th, 2009, 10:54 AM

I've been having some pretty trippy dream too in the last few weeks.

I also worry about being a good mum but as Sam9kids says I'm sure a lot will be instinctive when the time comes (well i'm hoping so anyway)

blondeNklutzi · Nov 24th, 2009, 11:17 AM

Lol, thanks ladies. I have these days when I decide for some reason that I'm completely incapable of being a mother!

Joyzerelly · Nov 24th, 2009, 11:21 AM

I read that on average you should put one more layer on the baby than you have on... I think that was for new babies. Bearing in mind that the temperature inside mummy's womb was around 36c? I'm sure you'll make a great mum, try not to worry. Instinct will take over, also reading as much as you can about baby care may help improve your confidence.

Amz123 · Nov 24th, 2009, 11:48 AM

Oh i wudnt even share some of the crazy dreams i have been having!! Really dont know where they come from. Sometimes they are that bad i cant get back to sleep x

loopy_lou · Nov 24th, 2009, 12:00 PM

yes bad dreams are bread and butter of pregnancy husband usualy asks on a daily basis now - so in your nightmare last night how did i die? So far its been sharks, drowning, aligators you name it its happened.

Only had two nightmares about the baby one when i droped it when i was washing her and one when i was trying to cut her toe nails and her feet would not stay still so i missed and took off a toe - woke up crying both times but i did not feel like i would be a bad mom so no reason you would be.

bumper · Nov 26th, 2009, 19:41 PM

I think everyone goes through this... The gravity of being pregnant has finally hit me... at 26 weeks... and I've just spent about 4 days walking round vacant and lost with a strong desire to pull my hair out whilst moaning "I'm going to be depended on, I'm going to be depended on..."!

I had a dream once that I drowned my little sister by accident... she's ok and 6 next year.

pinktaffy · Nov 26th, 2009, 19:50 PM

aww i wouldnt worry to much im sure u will know what needs to be done wen the baby is born its instict, and wat doesnt come natraly u can always read on the internet whats best and ask your midwife thats what the internet and midwifes r for and im planning on useing both quite often as i know im abit thick and gonna need as much help as possible hehe

Beckels · Nov 26th, 2009, 19:57 PM

I think the fact that you are worrying so much about being a bad mum just goes to show that you will be an amazing mummy

Nov 24th, 2009, 10:30 AM	#1
blondeNklutzi Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Norman, Oklahoma Posts: 1,634	Being a bad mom Ok, I'm having a horrible day. I had a dream last night that I forgot to put clothes on the baby and he froze when we went outside in his stroller. I know that dream is absolutely ridiculous, but I can't get the idea out of my head that I'm going to be a horrible mother. I have been around babies before, I have helped care for babies before, but I have never had sole responsibility for baby care and I don't think I'm going to do it right! What if I don't dress baby warmly enough? How many layers is right? What if I dress him too warm? What if I don't bathe him right? Or don't feed him enough. Ladies, I'm driving myself crazy!

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Nov 24th, 2009, 10:48 AM	#2
Sam9kids Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Cheshire, UK Posts: 4,928	Awww hun, firstly bad dreams are really common with pregnancy. Ive had some crackers! Also you will be surprised how much instinct will actually kick in when bubs is born when it comes to feeding etc Warmth wise, they say you should go off your own temp. If you have a tshirt on and so does baby and you feel cold, then put another layer on baby too and vice versa xx

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Nov 24th, 2009, 10:54 AM	#3
distantsun Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 220	I've been having some pretty trippy dream too in the last few weeks. I also worry about being a good mum but as Sam9kids says I'm sure a lot will be instinctive when the time comes (well i'm hoping so anyway)

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Nov 24th, 2009, 11:17 AM	#4
blondeNklutzi Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Norman, Oklahoma Posts: 1,634	Lol, thanks ladies. I have these days when I decide for some reason that I'm completely incapable of being a mother!

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Nov 24th, 2009, 11:21 AM	#5
Joyzerelly Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Glorious England Posts: 1,488	I read that on average you should put one more layer on the baby than you have on... I think that was for new babies. Bearing in mind that the temperature inside mummy's womb was around 36c? I'm sure you'll make a great mum, try not to worry. Instinct will take over, also reading as much as you can about baby care may help improve your confidence.

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Amz123 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 175	Oh i wudnt even share some of the crazy dreams i have been having!! Really dont know where they come from. Sometimes they are that bad i cant get back to sleep x

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Nov 24th, 2009, 12:00 PM	#7
loopy_lou Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Cambridgeshire Posts: 2,655	yes bad dreams are bread and butter of pregnancy husband usualy asks on a daily basis now - so in your nightmare last night how did i die? So far its been sharks, drowning, aligators you name it its happened. Only had two nightmares about the baby one when i droped it when i was washing her and one when i was trying to cut her toe nails and her feet would not stay still so i missed and took off a toe - woke up crying both times but i did not feel like i would be a bad mom so no reason you would be.

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Nov 26th, 2009, 19:41 PM	#8
bumper Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Uk. Posts: 118	I think everyone goes through this... The gravity of being pregnant has finally hit me... at 26 weeks... and I've just spent about 4 days walking round vacant and lost with a strong desire to pull my hair out whilst moaning "I'm going to be depended on, I'm going to be depended on..."! I had a dream once that I drowned my little sister by accident... she's ok and 6 next year.

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Nov 26th, 2009, 19:50 PM	#9
pinktaffy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 2,291	aww i wouldnt worry to much im sure u will know what needs to be done wen the baby is born its instict, and wat doesnt come natraly u can always read on the internet whats best and ask your midwife thats what the internet and midwifes r for and im planning on useing both quite often as i know im abit thick and gonna need as much help as possible hehe

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Nov 26th, 2009, 19:57 PM	#10
Beckels Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: North West Posts: 254	I think the fact that you are worrying so much about being a bad mum just goes to show that you will be an amazing mummy

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