11 year old bride and mum - Page 4

Serene123 · Nov 24th, 2009, 02:31 AM

It's in another country. Things differ so much that you can't really get mad about this kind of thing without knowing the background to their culture.

The toy thing was a little worrying, but she'll learn. She'll have to.

Ginaerhol · Nov 24th, 2009, 04:04 AM

11 is is only 6 years till my daughter is 11...she is just a baby herself how can she raise a child? it doesnt bear thinking about

i feel sorry for the baby :'(

abz · Nov 24th, 2009, 04:24 AM

it's a completely different culture. and although it's shocking and not something i could ever agree with it seems accepted in her culture and she seems to be being supported by both families. it's quite common in some cultures for children to have children, and although i don't agree with it, i don't feel i have the right to get angry about it either.

abz xx

sophieee18 · Nov 24th, 2009, 05:04 AM

WOW :O 11? Im shocked!!
Im also only 18, and my friend got pregnant when she was 16. I thought this was young!
But 11?? What is the world coming to?

kitabird · Nov 24th, 2009, 05:48 AM

What I don't understand is why it is legal for them to get married, but not for them to have had sex. I suppose it must be a case of once they're married the wife becomes his property. It sounds sad to us, but it's not unusual in their culture. You would think that girls would be given some sort of sex education though if it's common for them to marry young!

hivechild · Nov 24th, 2009, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by toriaaaaTRASH

It's in another country. Things differ so much that you can't really get mad about this kind of thing without knowing the background to their culture.

The toy thing was a little worrying, but she'll learn. She'll have to.

I kind of feel like her toy comment was a poorly expressed way of saying that she's having to give up being a little girl and the baby is her life now.

Whatever else she's just gone through, she's still an 11 year old with an 11 year old's limited vocabulary and ability to express herself.

She ineloquently said what an adult could have said much more clearly and as is the norm for the media, they jumped on it because it's such an attention grabbing sound bite.

That's just what I took from it, though.

abz · Nov 24th, 2009, 10:52 AM

not to mention that something probably gets lost in the translation...

mommyof3girls · Nov 24th, 2009, 11:47 AM

omg. My jaw dropped as I read that.

modo · Nov 24th, 2009, 13:14 PM

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Originally Posted by kitabird

What I don't understand is why it is legal for them to get married, but not for them to have had sex. I suppose it must be a case of once they're married the wife becomes his property.

It was not an official wedding but a cultural one with no legal standing. That's why the "husband" is being prosecuted.

amy_1234 · Nov 24th, 2009, 13:22 PM

I am 23, I have been with my OH for over 8 years, we own our own house we both have brilliant safe jobs. We are desperate for a baby but can't concieve for some reason.

Surely if there was a god out there, he would let responsible adults have the baby they long for, instead of children having children all the time.

I'm sorry but this has just made me really angry!

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Serene123 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 32,048	It's in another country. Things differ so much that you can't really get mad about this kind of thing without knowing the background to their culture. The toy thing was a little worrying, but she'll learn. She'll have to.

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Ginaerhol Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Highbridge, Somerset Posts: 1,690	11 is is only 6 years till my daughter is 11...she is just a baby herself how can she raise a child? it doesnt bear thinking about i feel sorry for the baby :'(

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abz Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1,527	it's a completely different culture. and although it's shocking and not something i could ever agree with it seems accepted in her culture and she seems to be being supported by both families. it's quite common in some cultures for children to have children, and although i don't agree with it, i don't feel i have the right to get angry about it either. abz xx

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sophieee18 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kent, UK Posts: 856	WOW :O 11? Im shocked!! Im also only 18, and my friend got pregnant when she was 16. I thought this was young! But 11?? What is the world coming to?

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kitabird Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Newcastle, England Posts: 595	What I don't understand is why it is legal for them to get married, but not for them to have had sex. I suppose it must be a case of once they're married the wife becomes his property. It sounds sad to us, but it's not unusual in their culture. You would think that girls would be given some sort of sex education though if it's common for them to marry young!

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abz Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1,527	not to mention that something probably gets lost in the translation...

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mommyof3girls Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Maryland Posts: 1,568	omg. My jaw dropped as I read that.

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amy_1234 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: west midlands Posts: 1,832	I am 23, I have been with my OH for over 8 years, we own our own house we both have brilliant safe jobs. We are desperate for a baby but can't concieve for some reason. Surely if there was a god out there, he would let responsible adults have the baby they long for, instead of children having children all the time. I'm sorry but this has just made me really angry!

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