BlondieNBump

A few weeks ago on my OH birthday he got a phone call so he stud up got his phone and just looked at it for ages so i said who is it and he said i dont know the number. He then got a message saying 'Thanks for ignoring me, least i got what i wanted, when i see you out i dont want to know you hun. I will tell my baby its dad died!!' I was like omg thats such an awful message to send someone so i told OH to text the number back and say whos this, and he wouldnt for ages so that made me think a bit whos is this!! So yesterday i dont know why its something i have never done but i looked through his phone and i seen two messages from last Saturday saying ' Gona have to give it a miss Adz and his dad have reduced me to tears I am so sorry u get the brunt end of me it's all a front i am weak hun gona take 2nyt off work xx' and the other says 'Not working tomorrow eather i cant cope with anything at the mo I've let Andy know speak soon hun xx' He has deleted his sent box for that day i really dont kwno what to think!?!?! What pisses me off the most is when he was texting this other girl we were out shopping for the baby with my mam!! I really dont know what to do i cant ask him about it becasue i dont want him to know i have been through his phone please help, honest answers please xxx

snailien

Sorry, I didn't quite understand all of that but it really sounds like you need to talk to him and get some more info!

girl friday

Was the number stored in his phone or not? Do you and your OH know anyone called Andy? I know it sounds really susicious and alarm bells would definitlely be ringing if it was my DH, but there could be a couple of reasonable explanations!

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BlondieNBump

No its not saved under a name i have got the number and i keep trying to ring it but it just goes to voice mail. No i dont know anyone called Andy, i Think andy might be her boss. Ano i really feel stuck because i dont knwo what to do, ether way he is doing something he should or he would tell me, he went out on that night to but i think it was just over a friends.xx

girl friday

It could be that the person txting has the wrong number or is playing a sick joke on you. Either that or it could be a friend's OH and they are going through a rough patch and your OH has been a shoulder for her to cry on IFKWIM?

I guess if it were me I would be itching to find out and know who was texting my DH so I would probably be calling the number too! Where is your OH today? Has cheated on you in the past or ever give you cause to doubt him?

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Bee26

I think your only option is to tell him that you looked, that you were feeling insecure and something made you do it and then discuss what you found. I think if you don't it will eat away at you babe, and you don't need the emotional trauma. Nip it in the bud now so you can enjoy your pregnancy x x x

KamKol

If that was me, and I found something like that in my DH's phone, I would be open and honest and tell him that I checked his phone out of curiosity because I was suspicious. Stay calm and collected when you talk to him, try not to turn it into an argument. If he starts yelling despite the fact that you were not being aggressive in any way, there is more reason to be suspicious because he has started to get defensive.

Honesty is the key to a good relationship - stay honest on your part, explain the situation, and see his side of the story. If things don't add up, that's when you need to think things through. If you don't confront him now, it will just keep getting bigger and bigger inside you. Hope it works out for you hun. x

bexie1985

you need to ask him about it, its not on, there is no reason a girl needs to be texting him saying tht!id be angry i think, altho ur hormonal and this could be somthing of nothing, ask him about it huni. xx

BlondieNBump

Ano but the second message sounds like back to the first one. I think he still should tell me if he is planning on meeting up with girls even if it is a friend but i dont know if i am being to jealous. He is at football this morning huni and before he went he was runing around upstairs saying 'have you seen my phone i need it' Yeah about a year and a half ago i found out he was emailing loads of girls on Facebook awful messages and he said it was nothing but it always plays on my mind that he was once capable of it. (he has deleted facebook now) xx

girl friday

If he has given you cause t doubt him before they you definitely need to talk to him. If the messages were meant for him, you have a right to know about this baby as it will be a brother or sister for your LO. Yoou also deserve to know if he has cheated.

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