They have no right to laugh at you, it is your body, your baby and your birth chick.

Are you planning on using breathing techniques etc? I found labour a lot worse than expected when i used a no plan plan, it was a shock. I would recommend checking out breathing and relaxation techniques. I am going to try hypno-birthing this time.

I have no birth plan as of it as I know you can't count on it really. I've told my mom and sister that I am going to try it without an epidural or anything and they pretty much laughed at me as well. My mom seemed to get angry with me over it. Then when I went on to tell her that I don't feel like having something ELSE having a chance of screwing up my back even more than it is she understood a bit more.

I have been laughed at but I shrug it off. It's my body and my birth. I'm not opting out of the pain meds or anything, I'm just going to try NOT to get it.

Oh no! We are taking a relaxation in birth class togeter! Definately. I want to know what to kind of expect and prepare myself as much as I can without having a written down step by step guide of the day (that's what I meant) If it's in writing I will feel obligated to the document hahaha I'm such a weirdo! I definately don't want to go in there blind though! I have to start looking around for hypno birthing tecniques! Hahaha wait till I tell her about that! And I'm staying open to the option of water too

I am the same. That is why i am not getting the H1N1 vaccine, I just don't put foreign things in my body. I occasionally take a pill if my pain gets bad but I usually ride the pain out. I had a consultation with an anesthetist and got explained all my pain options and I have decided NO EPIDURAL unless I have to have a c-section for medical reasons. I have a birth plan-ISH but they always say not to be too rigid with your expectations so I am just generalizing. I was kinda running through it with my husband and I said, I do not want the epidural as the risks outweigh the benefits and I can handle the pain and HE LAUGHED and said yeah we'll see! But he apologised later when I got furious and explained the risks and mentioned how I had gone through the miscarriage naturally and that a lot of women have told me that pain is just as bad as childbirth because your body is going through contractions but in a mc the baby is not helping as in birth. He just figured all the ladies on tv and movies say they dont want it then scream for it! This is the man who says he doesnt need to go to birthing classes! Now he is going and I will make him be educated on this!
Anyway sorry for the rant... But I do agree with you!

Ahh right, i thought you actually meant a no plan at all plan lol, good i am glad you are going to use relaxation etc, i do agree this is an excellent way to do it. I think the panic of being un-prepared in your head makes it much worse!
Being in control in your mind makes it easier and then less likely to want other pain relief.

Hun, I am going to try and do it all without pain relief as well & I dont have a plan as such because it could all go either way but in my personal experience I get the impression people think your trying to be a martyr for doing it without pain relief and for me thats not the case, Im just such a wuss when it comes to taking drugs. I always get scared about how it will effect me you know, and Im worried that I will talk a load of rubbish to the midwives or better still what private things I will reveal I talk in my sleep as well, so god knows what I will come out with on pethidine e.t.c

It's nobody else's decision but yours. I personally will be taking the painkillers, because I know for a fact my pain threshold is very low. I know women that have gone through labour by choice with no pain relief, and also women that wanted pain relief, but there was no time for it.

I however have come across a lot of people telling me I'm wrong for wanting pain relief, which I hate. It's a personal choice, and nobody has the right to make you feel bad for wanting things in a certain way.

geez what plan I know every time I make plans, they all go wrong. Stick with no plan, and you won't be disappointed If you want drug free, do drug free. If you find that you won't be able to handle it, get epidural. Nobody is awarding a medal for plans

Of course it's not bad to take pain medication! If that is what feels right to you then do it! I don't understand at all people are so weird.

I know my pain threshold is pretty high as I had a tibia fibia compound fracture and mangaged that and 4 surgery's without taking pain pills after. So hopefully I will remember that when I feel like I being ripped in half lol

we are strong girls we can do it!! and it is TOTALLY ok if we need a little help along the way nobody should make you feel bad for that!!

Heya,

I completely agree with you and ive been getting annoyed all week for the same reaosn.

People seem to think unless your terrified and are not looking forward to it at all, you simply cant grasp the situation! Our society is really really not healthy for pregnant women and having a positive attitude re:birth.

I'm gonna try for a home birth on gas and air. Im currently reading a really good book with loads of positive stories re: pain killer free natural births. I'm trying to use it to ballance out all the negativey from freinds and family.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Ina-Mays-Gui.../dp/0553381156

Ignore them and go into it as positive as possible....the more relaxed you are the less your muscels will tense and the more reduced your pain will be.

Good luck and fingers crossed for us both

xxxxxx